You grow with people,
You grow through people.
But you grow,
and they grow too.
Adulting is hard. Today I found myself reminiscing; I was thinking about calling a girlfriend over, cooking dinner, and drinking wine on the porch after the kids went to bed. Which led me to thinking about a few summers ago when I had a childhood friend sitting beside me on the same porch, laughing, drinking a few beers, and catching up.This childhood friend had been there through all the ups and downs since I could remember. Church, high-school, boyfriends, baby daddy, husband, babies, the works.. you name it, we had one another. We could go for a few weeks, no talking, and as soon as we did, it would feel like we never missed a beat.
Now, we go months without speaking. When we see one another, its because we run into each other at the local Walmart or Mexican restaurant. And it sucks. And I miss her. But when I see her, she looks happy. And I know she Is growing...
We didn’t just cut one another off. We didn't quit speaking because of an argument or disagreement. We just lost touch and we are growing in different directions for now.
When you grow up, you also grow through friends. Some stick with you for many, many, years, maybe forever. Yet some last a few months or a few years at most. There are many people that I JUST KNEW I would be in their wedding, and I wasn’t even invited to it. And that is okay.
Just know that it is healthy to grow and change. Its healthy to gain friends, and lose friends. Life is a wild ride, and everything eventually works out how it is supposed to and with who it is supposed to!