#havecourage

[scopophilic1997]

scopOphilic_micromessaging_71 - scopOphilic1997 presents a new micro-messaging series: small, subtle, and often unintentional messages we send and receive verbally and non-verbally.

[silvaris]

I want to send my heartfelt wishes to each and every one of you for good health and safety at this challenging time. Please take care of yourselves and your loved ones. Please don't be panicked, but instead, act with thoughtfulness and rationality.  Stay informed and take responsibility for yourself. Instead of fear, let's maintain a spirit of courage! Take extra care and consideration for those that are most vulnerable around you. Be kind, be patient and be generous. 

We are resilient, we are strong , we are innovative and creative. Let's take this time as a moment in history to show our love and our fortitude.  We will overcome this and be better for it in the end. Wishing you every good thing and sending prayers for your health and safety.  💚🙏🌺💚💚

[gypsy-at-heart]

There are those days I feel like I will never make it through. You know, those days that seem to drag on for what seems like unimaginable hours. Night comes, sleep eventually comes (but of course not without the help of a little sedative) and there...its over. The day is done and you've made it.

[state-of-profound-agitation]

Tips for adulthood

Hey, so I’m one of those rare 23 year olds who you could look at and say ‘holy fuck, this bitch has her life together!’ Hint: I absolutely do not. I work 2 jobs in a skilled field (nursing), and I’m doing full time post-grad study also. I have some time for socializing, and energy for it also. I look successful.

Here’s my main tips for looking like you do, and keep in mind that my neurodivergent ass manages an eating disorder, and some (minor) executive dysfunction from clinical depression, anxiety and ptsd:

1. Prioritize things that make you happy

I know this sounds obvious, but I don’t mean ‘make time for reading if you can’, I mean ‘Make time for reading no matter the circumstances’. Reading makes me really happy, so does embroidery, roller skating and a couple of other things. I don’t schedule my life down to the minute, but I make time at least 2-3 x per week to do these things because I genuinely feel better when I do them. I’m more clear-headed and focused, I sleep better, and I’m easier to be around. I find that I dissociate less when I make time for them because they allow my brain the relax time it needs so I can use that energy for other important things.

2. Only do the socializing you have the energy for

I have so much energy now that I’ve learned to say ‘I’m really sorry, but I don’t have the energy to leave the house today. Would it be ok to reschedule?’. I’m no longer forcing myself through the dread, anxiety and exhaustion that comes with over-stretching myself socially because I straight up don’t do it. Initially I found it hard to say no, but after you do it a couple of times and see that it’s ok, and notice how good you feel it becomes so worth it. 

Bonus: you’ll realize that some people are only your friends because you do all of the legwork. Those who are reciprocal will generally not mind! Also you;

3. If you’re able: take mental health days!

This isn’t possible for everyone. I can’t do it more than once every 2-3 months at the moment but at the end of this year I’ll have a lot more flexibility. If you wake up and immediately think ‘Absolutely fucking not’ and you have the ability to do so; call in sick, curl up on the couch, cook your favourite food, sit outside in the sun for a while and have a quiet day. I feel so refreshed after every time I take one, and I have less anxiety and less negative thoughts for weeks!

4. Sunlight, vegetables, water and hygiene are very important.

Vitamin D is scientifically proven to improve your moods, make your immune system more effective, keep your brain healthier, your skin clearer, your nails and hair stronger, and your life better (speculation on this one). I don’t care if you go outside in your hoodie and long pants, get some sun on your face and hands for a little while (15 minutes is enough). ((Please don’t get sunburned)).

Vegetables are literally the most important part of your diet. it’s surprisingly easy to get them in. Haven’t had any in the day? Eat a carrot. Can’t afford fresh veggies all the time? Cheap, frozen, bagged ones you steam have the same nutrients! And they can be put with pretty much every meal! Can’t manage a meal? Dip some celery in peanut butter. Lazy? Eat a capsicum like an apple! (I cut the Stem/seeds out but they’re pretty safe to eat either way). Don’t like the texture? Put some spinach/kale/whatever in your smoothies!

DRINK. WATER. So many bad things happen to your body when you’re dehydrated. Your liver isn’t as effective, your kidneys can get fatigued. You’ll feel sluggish. You won’t have an appetite. You’ll smell bad. You’ll get brain fog. You’ll have dry skin more prone to breakouts. You’ll have cracked lips.

Showers and/or baths are ideal, but if that’s not happening: Wipe your face with wipes. Apply deoderant. Change your socks and undies. If you can access baby wipes give your butt and bits a wipe. Wash your hands or use hand sanitizer. Brush your teeth or use mouthwash. You’ll feel 1000x better without the grime, and it’ll protect you from infections which will make you feel worse. If you have to go to work you’ll smell better and look better. 

This stuff is stupidly obvious but it can be some of the most difficult shit to manage. 

[cavallofinejewelry]

Time to get back on track! The past few weeks have had too many distractions....all positive yet I need to remember the goals; long and short term. Work it! Enjoy it! Live it! Love it! #entrepreneur #entrepreneurmindset #livingthedream #goals #getitdone #5amclub #lovinglife #stayfocused #staypositive #havecourage #bekind #haveagreatday #happycaturday ! https://www.instagram.com/p/BnvaexpHN7A/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1hzuw5j702s02

[lsmyoga]

How’s your 2017? Throughout the year, I have attempted many new things. Vegetarian diet to vegan diet. Messy hoarding lifestyle to minimalist lifestyle (still a beginner). Full time student to full time instructor. I have encountered difficulties, I have self-doubts, I have realised people who loved me and people who don’t , I have realised people who cared about me and people who don’t. I have met good and evil people. I have fallen, I have raised. I have earned and lost in 2017. I have never said these but I was thankful to those who have given me sincere advices. I also met haters who told me not to live this life because they thought it is unstable but this is my life and I’m happy with it. Different people have different views regarding what kinda lifestyle is best for them. Some people like stable life, same routine, same job, get pay regularly with the same amount of salary. And then they told me my life is wrong. Yes, we can disagree but we can never judge because we’ll never know . No one has the power to judge others. Maybe they just don’t understand every person has their own right to choose, you like your stable life, I like my adventure. And at the ends, we are all responsible for our decisions, and we are the only one responsible. If we have so much energy, why don’t we use it on good purposes? Do some good deeds, say something nice. The world will be better with more kindness and gratitude. In the new year, I hope we all find our passions, live as we love, say as we feel. Hate less, love more. Surround yourself with good people, good will come. #liveyourfullpotential #acroyoga #play #myogamehndi #newyear #bekind #bebrave #havecourage

[shewriteswithfire]

She is three years old and her mummy stands in front of the mirror, pinching a roll. She doesn’t understand the shimmer of disappointment on her face, but she knows the words: I should be smaller.  She is eight years old and she is learning. She plays bulldog with the boys and is thrilled to be the winner, proud of her speed and her fearlessness, until her best friend points out that she is bigger than the others. She is ten years old and getting her first proper pair of jeans. “Stay in that size and you’ll be fine”, her mum says, but the disapproval at the number never fades. She is twelve years old and gets her first secondary school photo. She hates it, she complains to her mum, she hates the way she looks. “It’s you that made yourself that way” she is told. She pushes away her dinner.  She is fourteen years old and counting calories by the minute. “You’re so good at mental maths!” a friend tells her in maths. “Yeah” she responds, and in the toilets at break she loathes herself as her snack steps over the 100 mark, as at dinner as it crosses 1200. She is fifteen. She is lighter, but she is brittle, so so brittle, and it’s so hard. She is scared to go to sleepovers because she knows that if she goes they’ll order Domino’s pizza and she’ll eat too much. She stops baking, even though she loves it.  She is sixteen and she gives up. Exams settle in and she lets herself eat what she wants, but every mouthful is a thought and a curse and a failure to herself.  She is seventeen and there are no photos of her in her friend’s albums, because she is always the photographer, always capturing their grins from behind the camera so she can’t be disgusted by the image of herself that might appear. She is eighteen and her nails dig into her wrist as she feels guilty about a cake she ate when she was out with a friend. She is eighteen and she listens to her friends complain as they pass a weight that she hasn’t been since she was thirteen.  She is eighteen and she loves her boyfriend, loves him so much she thinks she will break, but every moment she is naked she is hating herself, disgusted by the body she was born in.  She is nineteen and she is trying to be better, but loving yourself when you’ve been taught for so long that you take up too much space, that your body is a disappointment, a temple of unhealthiness, when all you’ve ever done is work to try and improve it, is a mountain so steep.

It takes so much bravery to be yourself.

[jodycalitz]

I was never one of the "cool kids". I was a combination of eccentric, odd looking and unique which is not the ideal description you want at that age. With red hair, freckles and skew teeth, I was far from the in crowd. I was bullied and made fun of for most of my school life but as time moved on I realised it was not because I was different, it was because I was brave enough to be different and a bully dislikes nothing more than someone with courage! * * * This courage has been crushed many times over the years but never defeated! I have experienced bullying in the professional and competing area of my life and that has only made me stronger! With age comes growth and a sense of confidence that becomes more powerful the more you nurture it. * * * To all girls and women who are experiencing bullying and are struggling to find the courage, just remember..... YOU HAVE MORE POWER AND STRENGTH THAN ALL BULLIES PUT TOGETHER!!! Don't change who you are, you are perfect as you are. Don't be afraid to reach out for help when you need and don't change who you are.....being uniquely eccentric and oddly looking is more beautiful than you can imagine ... You are perfect just as you are!!! #bebrave #havecourage #loveyourself #loveyourbody #bodytransformation #standupagainstbullying #youarepowerful