Understanding Human Interactions Transactional Analysis in Coaching

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Understanding Human Interactions Transactional Analysis in Coaching
Hello friends! It’s Friday so I thought I’d do another Friday introductions since it’s been a while! This is me : messy hair, dog fur on my coat, and I may or may not have worn a pair of boots all winter long!! What can I say?!! I love comfortable shoes and familiar grooves! When I’m not wearing black and trying to blend into the background at your wedding, you’ll probably see me in some colorful getup like this one! Yellow, green, blue and brown... it doesn’t even match your pink hair!! Well - thing is my hair color is always changing! And I love it! If you’re an entrepreneur on your way up and out of the “real world” of 9-5s and feeling like giving up, all I have to say is that all good things take time and I really didn’t come into my own until I got almost 10 years into my business! BUT it was so worth it!! AND I couldn’t have done it with support from family, friends, and brushing up on my networking skills! I believe we still need human interactions to complete transactions. For example, I think the simplest way to find out if you’d like to hire me to photograph your journey, is a short phone call. There’s so much that can be said that never translates over in tones online. I still think most people are kind, they just have bad days sometimes. My outlook on life is optimistic and I just know the best is yet to come for everyone! I know love is simple and I feel love is good. #beyourself #entrepreneurlife #humaninteractions #loveissimple #loveisgood #bayareaweddingphotographer #photographyisimportant #documentyourlife #beremembered #pnwweddingphotographer #joiethongsavath #fineartphotographer #creativeportraits #risingtidesociety #tuesdaystogether #livecolorfully (at Creative Space Studios Co.) https://www.instagram.com/p/B7bex-CDqco/?igshid=1benio6vyet9n
12.4.18
A girl in my dance group asked what was my favorite Edgar Allen Poe story/poem. I answered The Cask of Amontillado. She answered with,” oh, I don’t think I’ve ever read that one!”
I suspect she expected me to answer with a very popular and well know work such as The Raven. Unbeknownst to her, I read a book made of a collection of Poe’s work during sophomore year. Was she hoping to see that I was a “fake fan”?
THE GENESIS OF SOCIAL GENES I - THE THEORY
For animals to survive and thrive in this undependable planet, they must develop a cornucopia of techniques for adjusting their responses to current conditions. In the very long term of up to millions of years, the adaptation of their genes by random mutations is the most successful strategy. On a much smaller scale of time, a variety of chemical adaptations may guide the bodies of individuals towards the fulfillment of their survival and reproductive needs. Endocrine organs, including thyroid, adrenal or reproductive cells, store agents for release onto other organs. These hormones affect the function of recipient cells according to circumstance on a time scale from a few years down to a few seconds. Exocrine hormones are embedded in specialized tissue including the intestines, the heart or the kidney and regulate them locally to allow for their short-term needs. The existence and degree of sociality is a prime target for the operation of chemical messengers, which provides the emotional signals to the animal, specific to its needs. It is in this class that we seek candidates that may promote sociality. I will not attempt to identify a particular class of agent directly in this blog, but I will discuss the qualities that it needs to display to respond to circumstances. Hormones that direct animals towards certain rewards include those that alleviate hunger, promote sexual function, and support offspring. We may identify sociality as a reward for being close to other animals of the same species. It is not necessary for its action to be any more elaborate than a proximity reward, which adequately accounts for the pleasure that animals experience from the presence of other animals nearby. This reward must be adaptable to different circumstances and to the degree of reciprocation of potential partners. It has been well-studied under strict scientific controls, but its effect may also be seen readily in meadow and in ranch where sheep, horses, or cows cluster in a limited area of the pasture. A clever experiment by St-Pierre and associates illustrates the point that adaptability is a major factor in sociality.1 They trained pairs of zebra finches in adjacent cages to distinguish cooperative responses from competitive ones through rewards of seeds either selfishly to themselves or by sharing its reward with their partner. They found that, if the birds were strangers, they invariably chose the seeds selfishly, while, if they had lived together for a short time, all birds chose to share the reward with their partners at a cost to themselves. Sociality usually increases with familiarity and is likely to be the principal cause for related adults to associate and support each other. Adaptability is also a prominent feature of human interactions that trend towards strengthening on each further contact. We may ask why and how the proximity reward overcomes the strictures of Hamilton and Dawkins. The explanation is very simple: a new property of a gene has developed that may overcome selfishness. If cooperation improves the chances for survival of the individual and species, then it will be amplified until it becomes the salient feature of the species. Sociality is widespread among mammals and birds, but it is not tied to particular families or orders; the lion is the only truly social cat. It is very likely that the acquisition of sociality is easily attained by small changes in genes, but only survives if the congregation of the animals is desirable for that species. 1St-Pierre, A., Larose, K., & Dubois, F. (2009). Long-term social bonds promote cooperation in the iterated Prisoner’s Dilemma. Proc. Royal Soc. B: Biological Sciences, 276, 4223-4228. Read the full article
Deberíamos... #humaninteractions
At a geeky talk about using data to tell stories. The question being discussed is, do we still need humans? Let's hope #algorithms don't make us extinct before we finish blinking. #technology #tech #patternrecognition #humaninteractions #datalisteningpoints #decisionmaking #scalability #data #science #problemsolving #lovepeople #humanrace #humanbeings #offline #online #storytelling #lovepeople #analysts
No One Knows
My friend texted me today telling how nostalgic it felt while he was back visiting our college. He was walking through the tunnels and hanging out at the old spots where he used to study. There are still all these students there going through finals week and studying up. He blends right in physically, but is totally in a different state of mind mentally.
Isn’t it crazy that no one knows?
We walk by so many people everyday, each with usually a expressionless face. There is recognition of the physical presence of that person for a second, but then it is gone. Is there a recognition of the mental presence of that person though? Usually not. Unless the person physically looks to be in an emotionally unstable state, we assume that things are okay. We don’t even consider what these people are feeling. Even when someone looks to be in emotional distress, it is still hard to approach a stranger and try to be helpful. It’s none of our business right?
Perhaps this complete disregard for other people’s emotions, regardless of whether they are being displayed physically or not, is what contributes to the alienation we experience when we move to a new place. A bigger place. After all, our close ones only become close when we share emotional experiences with them. Maybe if people were more open to both sharing and receiving feelings and thoughts, the world would be a less lonely place.
I have a bump on my head
Human: Did you bump your head? It looks sore and swollen...? 😦 Me: do I have a bump? Where? Human: yeah, right here *pokes my bump* Me: oh I've had that for years Human: you should get that checked out, it could be a tumour of some sort Me: it's been there for 17+ years. If it wanted to do something, it would have happened years ago... Human: okay(!) I've just never seen it before, I was trying to look out for you