seen from Singapore
seen from Malaysia
seen from Saudi Arabia
seen from Argentina
seen from Malaysia
seen from Germany
seen from United States
seen from Australia
seen from Singapore
seen from Belarus
seen from Germany
seen from Türkiye
seen from United States
seen from Philippines
seen from United States
seen from Russia
seen from Ireland
seen from Malaysia
seen from United States
seen from United States
Sorry for inactivity. Been spending a lot of time sorting through some stuff. Have this random doofus Oni that I found. Haha #doodles #oldart #idontrememberdoingthis #idontknowwhatthismeans #random https://www.instagram.com/p/CQCUIMRpUnN/?utm_medium=tumblr
people have been saying that the fact of ‘you don’t owe anyone anything’ is selfish. is wrong. you shouldn’t believe it. its self centred. its a toxic way of thinking. its a disgrace to care for your own wholeness before you care of anyone else’s.
i disagree.
i love my dad more than any other human being on the entire planet. he has given me so much more than i could ever ask for. faith and knowledge and love and warmth, all of those fuzzy feel-good emotions.
but no. i am not obliged to give him anything in return. i have immense gratitude. but i don’t owe him my life, my love, my time, my anything in return for his actions.
i love my brother. he’s there for me when my dad can’t be. he cares about me, even if he may insult me, he still tells me ‘please don’t die’ and reminds me that if anyone hurts me, to let him know.
but i do not owe him anything.
i love my friends. they are patient with me. i am thankful for all the reassurance and the reasons they give me to live. they mean more to me than they could ever know. they try their best in every aspect.
but i do not owe them anything in return.
why? you may ask.
because gratefulness does not equal obligation.
gratitude does not equal debt.
why?
because our lives are not something to be bought or auctioned or given away. we belong to ourselves and ourselves only.
why?
because if you say yes to something for a ‘repayment’ when you want to say no, your relationship will crumble. resentment will grow.
why?
because everyone has free choice. they chose to give you what they have given, you are not under responsibility to give that back in return.
why?
because obligation to pay or repay something that’s been received, something that has been freely gifted, does not exist.
why?
because love is not transactional.
love and care and kindness are not negotiable.
do not give love into the universe with the expectation it will be given back in return. there is a high chance it will, there are many kind people in the world. but do not ever love to be loved. nobody owes that to you.
express your thankfulness in any way you choose. a simple thank you, a hug, time, effort, energy. anything. but there is nothing done to you that has elicits this as something you MUST do.
your gratitude is to be earned. those who do things with the expectation of receiving good in return, are setting themselves up for failure.
is that love?
is that kindness?
is that raw goodness?
you decide what it means to be a good person.
what it means to love.
to care.
you do not owe anyone anything.
and if they think you do,
they are loving for the wrong reasons.
When you get in-game instructions that your character doesn't understand, but you do out of game, so you have to role play figuring out what it means in the game and so you conclude that you have to go teach the clumsy peg-leg children calisthenics and also take away their pointy spears before someone loses an eye. #tabletopgames #openworld #bendtheknee #lostintranslation #roleplaying #ingame #playerknowledge #gameofthrones #bestgameever #IUsedToBeAnAdventurerLikeYou #Seriously #ThatsHowItWentDown #ImAWestworldHost #IDontKnowWhatThisMeans #ItDoesntLookLikeAnythingToMe
#westasheville #idontknowwhatthismeans
??????
