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In my 21 day reset I’m on day 16. I’m thinking about Christmas shopping. Well actually, I’ve already made a head start. I’ve a few preloved goodies as well as some shop bought ones. We have a couple of December birthdays too. So it’s all go. When planning out December and Christmas we have to remember it doesn’t have to be perfect. You see all these scenes on instagram but you have to remember that they are only corners of their homes. Snippets of the full story. Nothing is truly perfect. So as you go into the festive period keep this in mind. Don’t go into debts that you can’t pay off. Don’t over do everything so that you burn out. Don’t say yes to all the things knowing it’s going to drain your energy. 📸- from a couple of years ago. I’ve not yet got our tree or our decorations out, yet! #christmas #imperfectchristmas #christmastree #perfectchristmas #chirstmasshopping #shoppingforchristmas #familyof6 #familychristmas https://www.instagram.com/p/ClQUNQRsYzI/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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You know at the end of the day it’s just a Sunday lunch with extra Brussels and a few crackers. We put this constant stress on ourselves to create a perfect Christmas, perfect day, perfect dinner. We try and make sure the day runs without chaos. Without hiccups With out tantrums and tears. But it’s just a day. Yes it’s good to feel good on the day. But it’s good to feel good any day. Putting too much pressure on yourself, on just one day one, just one meal it’s crazy. Yesterday I went out for Christmas lunch it was great to catch up with some friends was it perfect? No. Had this bloody toothache. But I still enjoyed catching up I still enjoyed eating on one side of my mouth. 😵‍💫 There is only Two days left of school wrapping isn’t done yet but it will get done. Again it doesn’t have to be perfect. So grab a baileys or hot chocolate, open the tin of celebrations, run a bubble bath and just take a moment to enjoy the festivities including the imperfect, Chaotic moments of it. #christmas #chtistmas2021 #imperfectchristmas #chaoticchristmas #itttssschristmaaasss #motherhoodunplugged #christmaslunch #christmadinner https://www.instagram.com/ninaaspencer/p/CXiOP_7sWwV/?utm_medium=tumblr

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I’ve been sharing about embracing an imperfect Christmas to a few different communities lately and although I have touched on it here I’m not sure I’ve actually given the reason why I’m so passionate about it here. This image was my biggest twins age 2. I had to have the perfect Christmas After struggling with infertility and then PND I just had to show others I was the perfect mum, host, wife. We took photos for our family Christmas cards. This was a result of mixing kids with props. (And while I look at this now and smile at the spillage at the time with my quest for perfect it got me even more stressed) Fast forward to Christmas Day and I ended up having the mother of all panic attacks. Right there on Christmas Day in my mother in laws bathroom. I honestly thought I was going to die. Although this was my pivotal moment. It still took a few year to drop that mentality that I need to strive for perfection. What it did do was set me on a journey to healing a journey to learning strategies and filling my wellbeing toolbox of things that now help me live a life with more fulfilment and passion for the things that matter. That’s why not only do I now drop the constant strive for perfection but I help others so the same. That’s why I shout about imperfect I shout about embracing those imperfect moments. #imperfectchristmas #imperfectlyperfect #embracingimperfections #motherhood #infertility #pnd #mumoftwins #twinstwice #overwhelm #mumsofinstagram #mumswellbeing https://www.instagram.com/p/CXNnlD6sxaf/?utm_medium=tumblr

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It’s time to stop the stress this Christmas. Embrace an imperfectly perfect Christmas instead. We take responsibility for all of the things, we get overwhelmed with tasks, the kids have so many emotions, we try to make each and every moment Insta perfect and when hiccups happen we struggle to get over them. We get stressed, we shout, scream, cry and can suffer burnout. Often it’s because we are so focused on what our perfect Christmas should be like. There are a few tips on the blog to help you embrace s more perfectly imperfect Christmas this year!! Ninaaspencer.com/blog Clickable links in my profile. Go grab your @baileysofficial coffee and have a read! #imperfectchristmas #christnastime #motherhoodatchristmas #christmasoverwhelm https://www.instagram.com/p/CXGG88rrtuA/?utm_medium=tumblr

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Parental burnout is very real especially at this time of year. You strive to make the perfect Christmas, the perfect festive time of your family, You are in charge of all the gift giving, the sending of cards, planning menus, who needs to be where when, nativity shows, costumes. And the list goes on. As well as our usual to do list. So there is no wonder we end up frazzled, having a breakdown, screaming at the kids, resentful of our partners. You make look at others and think but they have it all figured out, they are not stressed so why am I? Believe most people have had Christmases where burnout and stress has been very real. It’s time to take control, top up your own teapot of selfcare and delegate something. It’s time to let go of the instaperfect Christmas and start embracing an imperfect one. Honestly you are not alone. And it doesn’t have to feel like this every year. Head over to the wabi-sabi life facebook community (clickable link in profile) ninaaspencer.com/links ) I’m there to hold your hand over tThe festive period. To give tips, to give you permission to embrace imperfect giving you permission to let go of the guilt. It’s free and there is an amazing array of ladies on there who have felt the overwhelm and who are there to support. #wabisabichristmas #imperfectchristmas #motherhood #parentalburnout #mumlife #christmasburnout https://www.instagram.com/p/CW-Nbvgshjz/?utm_medium=tumblr

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I am huge upholder of imperfect Christmas. I would love to see crooked tree with uneven, homemade decorations. Funny sweaters instead of full dress at the dinner. Food that is not salty enough. The feeling of messy yet beautiful holidays.

Here is my outfit, I love it even though I look like a Christmas goblin.

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I originally picked our Christmas tree because it stood straight up beautifully and it caught me eye the moment I walked into the lot (in the Fry's parking lot). Got it home, Papa worked to get it up and in our home for decoration because well, deployment. And what looked perfect while he was synching the screws slowly started to give a little lean to the left when he was done. It slowly became imperfect right in front of my eyes as I laid on the lights. And at first I was disappointed and frustrated it didn't stay standing straight because everything about Christmas is supposed to be perfect, but then I realized.. . . Our current situation is beyond imperfect. Our Christmas season, family, and life is missing such a huge piece of what makes us whole; a husband and dad. And sometimes we feel a little tilted to the side with stress, and emotions, and just feeling that little empty space in our hearts. And that's when it hit me.. . . Our tee is the perfect representation of US! And although I haven't been posting much holiday stuff because I'm trying to be in the moment with my boys and enjoy everything the best I can while missing my husband (and handling sickness in all of us), I am so in love with our tree, and how much our home exudes Christmas in every imperfect way. And the fact that our oldest told me that everything Christmas has to stay up until dad is home (because he has to have a tree for his presents), and our tree feels exactly the way it did the day that we bought it and has lost hardly any needles, just reminds me how we were meant to have this specific tree in our home! 🎄😍 . . #Godisgood #Heisthereasonfortheseason #blessed #imperfectChristmas #deploymentlife #Armywife #armylife #deploymentsucks #deployedforChristmas #boymom #momlife #milspouse #militaryspouse #militarylife #Christmastree #perspective #gainanewone https://www.instagram.com/p/BrvFpSqBY4c/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=4ge5ty7ep5of