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Michón Con in the Works

I did a thing.

Tee Hee Hee! #MichonCon is Coming!!!

As promised, I’ve begun to take steps to set up the first ever Michon Con during my birthday season. A set number of tickets is for sale.

I still need to do the following, which you’re all welcome to pitch in on if you have the spears:

*Set Up The Viewing Platform *Set Up Content Polls *Create an Accessible Schedule *Market the Event *Find…

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#intersectionalnonmonogamy #IntegratedNonMonogamy #amatonormativity #polyamory #AroErosArrows #representationmatters #ActuallyAutistic #aromantic Listen to Autilove and Aro Eros Arrows Podcast on ⚓ https://anchor.fm/aroerosarrows https://www.instagram.com/p/BpFna1NBZbh/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=z8s0rpmhl434

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#Repost @michon_the_gentleman_goddess (@get_repost) ・・・ Listen to the newest episode of my podcast, Michon Neal: What Exactly is Integrated Non- Monogamy? https://anchor.fm/integratednonmonogamy/episodes/What-Exactly-is-Integrated-Non--Monogamy-e1uv5p Intersectional/Integrated Non-Monogamy did not exist as a phrase until I coined it quite a few years ago. It involves discussing the actual history of non-monogamy and polyamory before the white mainstream stumbled onto it. It goes beyond simply discussing jealousy and compersion. It rejects slut-shaming or otherwise being ableist about STIs. It develops a concept of safer sex that is intersex/sex variant, trans/gender variant, and trauma-inclusive. You may hear this term used by nonBlack people claiming to teach it, so know your shit and get the real definition and praxis here. After all, ethics is not about talking points; it's about how you treat ALL the people, especially those you don't love romantically and/or those you don't want to fuck or who don't want to fuck you. Like what you hear? Buy this Dragon a feather at https://ko-fi.com/Tesla Curious about The Metanoiac Portal and other future podcasts on other aspects of life? Check out https://the-metanoiac-portal.mn.co Ready to take the course? Sign up at https://the-metanoiac-portal.mn.co/courses/596950 #abuseculture #integratednonmonogamy #polyamory #solopolya #RA #IntersectionalNonMonogamy #Blackand #integratedfeminism #BlaQueer #BlackCreators #disabilities #theftofBlacklabor #lgbtqia2sp #aromantic #noetisexual #cuilverse #indigenoussovereignty #BlackBooksMatter #BlackLivesMatter

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#Repost @michon_the_gentleman_goddess (@get_repost) ・・・ This is the article I thought I'd lost, but which is so incredibly vital!!! It is linked within my course, #IntegratedNonMonogamy, and of course will make it into one or a few of the books to come in the series. I can't even pull a nice quote from it because, even though I wrote this like 4 or 5 years ago, it's still incredibly fucking necessary. Read the whole thing. Then tip me at Paypal.me/TheCuilEffectProject or get to work cocreating and healing in https://the-metanoiac-portal.mn.co “Why Critical Thinking is So Important” @neal_michon https://medium.com/postmodern-woman/why-critical-thinking-is-so-important-c17df14865a5

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I first wrote this article way back in 2015, and so much more before that, under the banner of #IntersectionalNonMonogamy. But then had nonBlack ppl try to claim it. Whatever. Anyway, I then renamed my shit #IntegratedNonMonogamy, which still includes Black nonman-centered intersectionality, and now you can take the second iteration of the course - updated and integrated with The Metanoiac Portal!! Here's another sneak peek about some polya myths, a tidbit from "How to Be a Game Changer": "I’m saying that after the move to more patriarchal-inclined cultures, the notion of ownership seeped into every facet of our lives. I’m saying that even though many countries have outlawed slavery, owning your loved ones is still the norm. The concept of ownership is still so dreadfully common. It is the only instance in which it is considered okay, and even laudable, to exert control over another person’s actions, behaviors, and feelings... "This is why couple privilege is even a thing. Because people think of themselves in units instead of as individuals. They no longer think of themselves or others as humans first and foremost. Their partners are their property. Their children are their property. They force their loved ones to go to plays they hate, they encourage them to lie if they look fat in a dress, they tamp down on watching porn because their partner hates it. They control the other’s finances, travel, and social interactions. One partner belittles and guilt trips the other and the other partner withdraws and becomes passive aggressive... "Is it any wonder that abuse is still so widespread? 1 in 3 isn’t an anomaly; it’s a disgrace. These abusive ideals are embedded into our cultures and thrust upon us all from such young ages. And many people never shake them off. "No, not even polyamory will save you." If you want to sign up for the lowest-level course, please do. The first cohort will begin in July. https://the-metanoiac-portal.mn.co/posts/integrated-non-monogamy-session-four-how-to-be-a-game-changer

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I first wrote this article way back in 2015, and so much more before that, under the banner of #IntersectionalNonMonogamy. But then had nonBlack ppl try to claim it. Whatever. Anyway, I then renamed my shit #IntegratedNonMonogamy, which still includes Black nonman-centered intersectionality, and now you can take the second iteration of the course - updated and integrated with The Metanoiac Portal!! Here's another sneak peek about some polya myths, a tidbit from "How to Be a Game Changer": "I’m saying that after the move to more patriarchal-inclined cultures, the notion of ownership seeped into every facet of our lives. I’m saying that even though many countries have outlawed slavery, owning your loved ones is still the norm. The concept of ownership is still so dreadfully common. It is the only instance in which it is considered okay, and even laudable, to exert control over another person’s actions, behaviors, and feelings... "This is why couple privilege is even a thing. Because people think of themselves in units instead of as individuals. They no longer think of themselves or others as humans first and foremost. Their partners are their property. Their children are their property. They force their loved ones to go to plays they hate, they encourage them to lie if they look fat in a dress, they tamp down on watching porn because their partner hates it. They control the other’s finances, travel, and social interactions. One partner belittles and guilt trips the other and the other partner withdraws and becomes passive aggressive... "Is it any wonder that abuse is still so widespread? 1 in 3 isn’t an anomaly; it’s a disgrace. These abusive ideals are embedded into our cultures and thrust upon us all from such young ages. And many people never shake them off. No, not even polyamory will save you." If you want to sign up for the lowest-level course, please do. The first cohort will begin in July. https://the-metanoiac-portal.mn.co/posts/integrated-non-monogamy-session-four-how-to-be-a-game-changer

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The following article also features in the #IntegratedNonMonogamy course via the-metanoiac-portal.mn.co. #relationships #abuseculture #emotionalliteracy "Up front and honest. Heard and understood. Let’s both (all) be right. No either-or thinking. Surface vs. Substance. No expectations. Humanity (individuality) first. No defaults. In all things, my values came (and still come) first. I didn’t grow up with stability or honesty or respect. More often than not I was the wall at which everyone decided to throw their shit. I grew up seeing humanity’s worst. Yet, instead of giving into it, instead of becoming a statistic, I chose another path. I’m addicted to discovering new things. If I don’t consider at least five different perspectives on something before settling on the most rational one then I haven’t done my job. As the world fell apart into nonsense around me I sought knowledge about anything and everything. I incorporated that knowledge into my writing, into my books. I’m especially partial to philosophy and the way that brains and minds work. "We learn to view ourselves as empty halves needing to be filled. We expect others to fix us. We open ourselves up to abuse because we don’t even see ourselves as human first. There’s a reason people learn to dehumanize the enemy. You can do anything to a non-human. The more human someone becomes, the less likely you are to want to hurt them. "I find a lot of people tend to run away from me. I’m much too honest, and perhaps too serious, from the start. I value my time and others’. Because there are so many things about me that I know many might have issues with I’ve taken the up front and honest route. I’d rather have people in my life that truly want to be there than to take their time and have them feel I’d tricked them later. I have no expectations for how things need to shape up. Knowing what others expect allows us to discover what actually works, even if that means saying goodbye. I don’t dump everything on a person at the first meeting, obviously, unless it naturally comes up." “Nothing for Granted” @neal_michon https://medium.com/postmodern-woman/nothing-for-granted-ee6c4a86134b

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Okay. This is shareable and absolutely vital. This is an official call for artists and graphic designers: I'm building several levels for each course in The Metanoiac Portal. Currently, I'm building the Pronoia course for #IntegratedNonMonogamy (formerly #IntersectionalNonMonogamy). I'm referring to various relationship types, configurations, etc, and as you may know the majority of them are created by yte or otherwise non-intersectional folks and are incredibly problematic, full of erasure, and within an Occidental framework. We need better and more accurate visualizations of the variation of humans and the possible connections we can forge. I'd make them myself, but I don't have access to the medium I'd need to create what I'm envisioning. I already need inclusive and integrated artwork for upcoming INM books; I'd like to have art usable for both the higher-level courses (presenting an alternative to the unexamined status quo) and the books - possibly for the #cuilverse as well. I'd prefer multiply marginalized BlaQueer and indigenous artists; I currently can only provide a set portion for your payment out of the pittance I make each month, but as the Portal grows and as my #reparationalbusinessmodel catches on, I expect you to be compensated fully and fairly for your work. If a suitable and capable marginalized person can't be found, I welcome more privileged volunteers and will consider this task your portion of reparations to me. I have notifications for FB turned off since my departure, so either pm me through here or the Portal (yes, that means you need to subscribe or let me know you require sponsorship). https://the-metanoiac-portal.mn.co