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🕯️ DEITY WORK 101: What It Is & Is It For You?

Hello beautiful souls ✨

Let's talk about something that gets romanticized, oversimplified, and misunderstood in equal measure: deity work.

Social media makes it look easy. Light a candle, say a prayer, suddenly Aphrodite is your bestie and Hades is sliding into your DMs. But deity work is neither that simple nor that casual.

It's one of the most profound—and demanding—aspects of witchcraft. And it's not for everyone.

This post will help you understand what deity work actually is, what it requires, and whether it's a path you should walk.

WHAT IS DEITY WORK?

Deity work is the practice of building relationship with gods, goddesses, or divine forces. It's not just reading about them or having them on your altar. It's active, ongoing engagement.

It can look like:

Daily devotions and prayers

Making regular offerings

Meditating to receive guidance

Dedicating specific practices or actions to a deity

Allowing a deity's energy to influence your life

Building a relationship that spans years or lifetimes

It's NOT:

Collecting deities like Pokémon

Calling on gods only when you need something

Assuming every synchronicity is a deity reaching out

Treating gods like cosmic vending machines

Using deities as personality aesthetics

Deity work is relationship. And like any relationship, it requires time, attention, reciprocity, and respect.

TYPES OF DEITY WORK

CASUAL VENERATION

You honor a deity occasionally. You might call on them for specific spells, celebrate their feast days, or keep their image on your altar. The relationship is respectful but not central to your practice.

Time commitment: Occasional

Intensity: Low to medium

Good for: People drawn to a deity's energy but not ready for deeper commitment

DEVOTIONAL PRACTICE

You've committed to regular interaction. Daily prayers, weekly offerings, consistent altar maintenance. The deity becomes a steady presence in your life.

Time commitment: Daily to weekly

Intensity: Medium to high

Good for: People seeking ongoing guidance and willing to show up consistently

DEDICATED SERVICE

You've pledged yourself to a deity. Your practice revolves around them. Major life decisions are made in consultation with them. This is priest/priestess-level work.

Time commitment: Daily, often multiple times

Intensity: Very high

Good for: People called to serve, teach, or embody a deity's work in the world

POSSESSION/ASPECTING

You allow a deity to work through you—speaking, moving, acting through your body. This is advanced, requires training, and carries significant risk.

Time commitment: Variable, but requires extensive preparation

Intensity: Extreme

Good for: Experienced practitioners in traditions that support this work

Most people start with casual veneration. Some move to devotional practice. Few are called to dedication or possession.

Don't skip steps.

SIGNS YOU MIGHT BE CALLED TO DEITY WORK

A specific deity keeps appearing in your life (dreams, synchronicities, random mentions)

You feel a pull toward a particular mythology or pantheon

You're seeking guidance beyond your own wisdom

You want accountability in your spiritual practice

You're drawn to devotional acts (prayer, offerings, ritual)

You feel incomplete practicing magic without spiritual relationship

A deity's domain aligns with work you're doing (healing, justice, creativity, etc.)

BUT—and this is crucial—interest doesn't equal calling.

You can be fascinated by Egyptian mythology without needing to work with Egyptian gods. You can love the idea of Hecate without being called to serve her.

Not every attraction is an invitation.

SIGNS DEITY WORK ISN'T FOR YOU (Right Now)

You're dealing with mental health challenges that make it hard to distinguish intuition from delusion

You want the aesthetic without the commitment

You're looking for external validation instead of internal work

You can't maintain consistent practices (no judgment—some people can't, and that's okay)

You're drawn to the power/status of "being chosen" more than the actual relationship

You're in crisis and looking for someone to fix your life

You prefer working solo and don't want accountability to anything beyond yourself

None of these make you less of a witch. Deity work is one path among many. Some witches never work with deities and have powerful, fulfilling practices.

You don't need gods to do magic.

COMMON MISCONCEPTIONS

"If a deity reaches out, you HAVE to respond."

No. You have free will. Deities can call. You can decline. Respectfully, but firmly. Not every call is meant for you.

"The gods need us as much as we need them."

This is modern, ego-soothing nonsense. The gods existed before humans and will exist after. They don't need your worship. They may want relationship, but that's different.

"All deities are just aspects of one divine force."

Some traditions believe this. Others don't. Don't assume your theology applies to someone else's gods. Hecate is not interchangeable with Kali just because they both involve darkness.

"You can work with any deity from any culture."

No. Some deities and practices are closed—meaning they belong to specific cultures or require initiation. Respect those boundaries. (More on this in the cultural appropriation post later in this series.)

"Deity work is always gentle and loving."

Some deities are harsh. Some will test you. Some will demand sacrifices you're not ready to make. Some will drag you through shadow work whether you like it or not. This isn't abuse—it's the nature of certain divine forces.

"You have to be perfect to work with deities."

No. You have to be sincere. The gods don't expect perfection. They expect honesty, effort, and respect.

WHAT DEITIES ACTUALLY WANT

Respect. Don't treat them like cosmic customer service.

Reciprocity. Give as much as you ask. Offerings, devotion, time, action in the world.

Consistency. Show up. Even when it's inconvenient. Especially when it's inconvenient.

Honesty. Don't perform piety you don't feel. They know.

Growth. Deity work will change you. If you're not willing to be transformed, don't start.

Embodiment. They don't just want your prayers—they want you to live their values. If you work with a justice deity, you better be doing justice work in the world.

HOW TO START (If You're Called)

1. RESEARCH

Learn everything you can about the deity. Read myths. Study their culture. Understand their domain, symbols, offerings, taboos.

Don't just skim a Tumblr post. Go deep.

2. OBSERVE

Before making contact, watch for signs. Are they already present in your life? What patterns emerge?

Don't manufacture signs. Real calls are persistent, clear, and often uncomfortable.

3. REACH OUT RESPECTFULLY

Set up a small altar space. Light a candle. Speak aloud: "I'm interested in knowing you. If you're willing to work with me, I'm here."

Then wait. Listen. Pay attention to dreams, synchronicities, shifts in your life.

4. START SMALL

Don't pledge your life in the first conversation. Offer a weekly devotion. A simple prayer. A small offering.

See how it feels. See if the deity responds.

5. BUILD SLOWLY

If the relationship deepens, gradually increase your commitment. More frequent offerings. More structured practice. Deeper study.

Let it grow organically. Don't force intimacy.

6. ESTABLISH BOUNDARIES

Yes, even with gods. You're allowed to say "not now" or "this far, no further." A healthy deity relationship respects your autonomy.

If a deity demands more than you can give, renegotiate. If they refuse, walk away.

RED FLAGS

A deity tells you you're "special" or "chosen" above others.

Ego bait. Real deities don't need to flatter you into service.

You're told to isolate from other practitioners or traditions.

Cult behavior. Even devoted practitioners maintain community.

Every bad thing in your life is blamed on "angering the deity."

This is fear-based manipulation. Deities have better things to do than micromanage your life with punishments.

You're demanded to do something illegal, harmful, or violating your ethics.

Not a deity. Either a trickster entity, your own shadow, or mental health crisis. Get help.

The relationship feels entirely one-sided (you give everything, receive nothing).

Parasitic. Either you're working with something that's not what it claims, or you've misunderstood the deity's nature.

You feel worse, not better.

Growth can be uncomfortable, but deity work should ultimately make you more yourself, not less. If you're deteriorating, something's wrong.

THE BOTTOM LINE

Deity work isn't mandatory. It's not superior to working without deities. It's one path among many.

But if you're called—truly called—it's transformative. You gain wisdom, guidance, accountability, and connection to forces larger than yourself.

You also gain responsibility. To show up. To grow. To embody the deity's work in the world.

It's not about power or status. It's about relationship. And relationship requires commitment, reciprocity, and respect.

Don't start if you're not ready. The gods will wait. They've been here for millennia. They can wait for you to be ready too.

YOUR TURN

Have you felt called to deity work? Which deities?

Are you already practicing? What's your relationship like?

Or are you drawn to a deity-free practice? What does that look like for you?

Let's talk. This is where we learn from each other's experiences.

Blessed be 🕯️

The gods don't need you. But if they want you, you'll know. And if you want them, approach with respect, not entitlement.

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spellcrafting tipz for people who dont know how to make spells

this is just a basic basic general explanation because when i started and everyone was like "put ur ingredients in the jar" id be like "but why is it in a jar??? why are we sealing it?????? how come sometimes the spell is in Not A Jar??????"

so basically from my understanding it is symbolic. you probably know how an herb symbolises a certain property. that extends to what the herb is in. where the herb is placed. etc.

and god i wish when people preach learning herb and color correspondences, they also added to learn correspondences to things like jars, candles, even directions and other common spell ingredients.

but heres a tip that you can apply to any spells you make on your own, especially if you are good with tarot. so we know with tarot's suits, air corresponds to intellect and wisdom, water to intuition and emotions, fire to passion and creativity, and earth to money and the physical realm in general. also fire is usually associated with quickness and earth with slower work. (it also means long hard work to me)

so to come up with a base of a spell idea, you can combine some herbs with a certain element. so if you wanted some peace in your physical life, maybe you could use earth and lavender together. you could bury lavender near your home to symbolise peace in your house. or combine lavender and soil in a small jar/container to carry grounded and long lasting peace with you.

what if you wanted emotional peace? lavender in a bowl of water. maybe you could wash your face or hair with it to symbolise mental peace (for calming things like overthinking) or drink lavender tea for bodily peace (for calming things like physical tenseness).

this is how you can layered spells, so instead of putting this herb for peace, this other herb for also peace, your spell becomes this herb for peace, this herb for how fast i want it, this other ingredient for where i want it, this other one for what i want it to manifest etc etc

and you also dont need to just use things you can find verified correspondences for. witches x years ago did not know what a beyblade was. there are no sources for how to use a beyblade in a spell. so use your brain and personal experience. beyblades are fast, armoured, and have a short burst of energy before they fall over. maybe you need a quick push or burst of inspiration. get a beyblade, make it represent you in some way (you could mark it with sharpie, put a sticker on it, maybe just name it after yourself, etc) clear its path and let it rip. maybe let it spin on your desk for academic inspiration, on the kitchen counter to inspire you to make dinner, or in a room you need to clean to put you in a cleaning frenzy for a minute.

it works kind of like analogies. i also feel that adding specificity in how you conduct your working could create less of a need to basically play word chess with the universe to get the exact results you want when you create chants and such. and this is important to me because i hate speaking. who says the universe needs to speak a human language with me. we will simply communicate in vibes and symbolism.

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DEITY WORK 301: Building Genuine Relationship vs. Collecting Gods Like Pokémon

Hello beautiful souls ✨

You've done your research. You've approached respectfully. A deity has responded. Now what?

This is where most people falter—not in the approach, but in the sustaining. Deity work isn't a one-time encounter. It's not about collecting as many patron gods as possible. It's about building something real, deep, and transformative.

Today we're talking about the difference between genuine relationship and spiritual collecting. Because the gods can tell the difference—and so can you.

THE POKÉMON PROBLEM

You know what I'm talking about.

The altar crowded with statues of fifteen different deities from eight different pantheons. The witch who "works with" Hecate, Kali, Freyja, Brigid, Lilith, Bast, Persephone, and Loki—all at once, all the time.

Ask them about any specific relationship and you get vague generalities:

"Hecate guides my shadow work" (but when? how? what has she specifically taught you?)

"Freyja helps with love magic" (have you built relationship or just call on her when you want something?)

"Loki keeps things interesting" (translation: I like chaos and blame it on a god)

This is collecting, not relating.

Signs you're collecting:

You have statues/images of 5+ deities but can't describe your relationship with any of them in detail

You add a new deity every few months because the last one got "boring"

Your practice with each deity is identical (same offerings, same prayers, no personalization)

You call on whichever deity matches your current need, like flipping through a catalog

You can recite mythology but have no personal gnosis (direct experience) with any of them

You're more excited about having a relationship with [famous deity] than actually doing the work

Your deity relationships look like your Instagram feed—curated for aesthetic

Why this is a problem:

The gods aren't tools in your spiritual toolkit

Shallow relationships produce shallow results

You're spreading your energy too thin to go deep anywhere

You're treating sacred relationship like consumption

You're probably appropriating (surface engagement with multiple cultures = red flag)

WHAT GENUINE RELATIONSHIP LOOKS LIKE

Real deity work is less like having a large social media following and more like having a best friend.

Characteristics of genuine relationship:

1. DEPTH OVER BREADTH

You know this deity intimately. Their mythology, yes, but also:

How they communicate with you specifically

What they ask of you repeatedly

What offerings they prefer (not from a book—from experience)

How their energy feels in your body

What happens when you ignore them

How they've changed you over time

2. CONSISTENCY

You show up regularly. Not just when you need something. Not just on their feast day.

Daily devotion. Weekly offerings. Monthly check-ins. Whatever rhythm you've established—you maintain it.

The relationship doesn't disappear when life gets busy or when you get what you wanted.

3. RECIPROCITY

You give as much as you receive. More, even.

Offerings that actually cost you something (time, money, effort)

Actions in the world that embody their values

Devotional practice that honors them

Sharing their stories/teachings with others (when appropriate)

Making sacrifices when they ask (within reason—see boundaries)

You're not just taking. You're in exchange.

4. TRANSFORMATION

The relationship has changed you. Tangibly.

Your behavior is different

Your values have shifted

You've grown in uncomfortable ways

You see the world through their lens sometimes

Other people notice the change

If working with a deity for years hasn't transformed you, you're not really working with them.

5. PERSONAL GNOSIS

You have direct experience—not just book knowledge.

Dreams or visions where they appeared

Synchronicities too specific to dismiss

Physical sensations during ritual

Direct knowing/communication

Results from spells done in their name

Lessons learned through hardship they guided you through

You can speak about them from experience, not just research.

6. BOUNDARIES & NEGOTIATION

Yes, even with gods. Healthy relationships have boundaries.

You've said "no" or "not now" at least once

You've renegotiated terms when life changed

You know what they will/won't ask of you

You're comfortable pushing back respectfully

The relationship feels mutual, not one-sided

If you're terrified to ever question or decline, that's not relationship—it's fear-based submission.

HOW MANY DEITIES SHOULD YOU WORK WITH?

The real answer: As many as you can maintain genuine relationship with.

For most people, that's 1-3 deities.

One primary deity (your main relationship, deepest work) 1-2 secondary deities (you honor them, call on them for specific work, maintain relationship but less intensely)

Some people work with only one deity their entire lives. Some work with a small pantheon. Very few can genuinely maintain deep relationship with 5+.

It's not about quantity. It's about depth.

Would you rather have ten acquaintances or three best friends? The gods feel the same way.

BUILDING DEPTH: PRACTICAL STEPS

STEP 1: COMMIT TO SHOWING UP

Choose a rhythm and keep it. Examples:

Daily:

Light a candle and say good morning

Pour a libation (water, coffee, wine)

Read a prayer or myth passage

Sit in meditation with their energy

Weekly:

Longer ritual or offering

Divination to check in

Acts of service in their name

Creative devotion (art, writing, music)

Monthly:

Major offerings

Deep meditation/journey work

Reevaluation of relationship

Feast day celebrations (if applicable)

The specific rhythm matters less than consistency. Pick what you can actually sustain.

STEP 2: PERSONALIZE YOUR PRACTICE

Stop copying what books say. Start listening to what this deity wants from you.

Ask through divination:

What offerings do you prefer?

How do you want me to honor you?

What's one thing I can do this week in your name?

Am I approaching you in a way that feels right to you?

Pay attention to results:

Which offerings seem to strengthen connection?

Which prayers feel alive vs. hollow?

What actions in the world seem to please them?

When do you feel closest to their energy?

Adapt based on feedback. Your practice should evolve as the relationship deepens.

STEP 3: LEARN THEIR LANGUAGE

Every deity communicates differently. Learn how this one speaks to you.

Hecate might communicate through:

Crossroads appearing in your life (literal or metaphorical)

Keys showing up as symbols

Dogs behaving strangely

Dreams of liminal spaces

Sudden clarity at thresholds/transitions

Freyja might communicate through:

Cats crossing your path

Unexpected beauty appearing

Heightened sensuality or desire

Gold/amber catching your eye

Songs about love or war

Your job: Notice patterns. Keep a journal. Track when things happen and what precedes them.

Over time, you'll recognize their signature—the specific way they get your attention.

STEP 4: DO THE WORK THEY ASSIGN

Deities don't just want your prayers. They want your action.

If you work with a justice deity: You better be doing justice work in the world. Volunteering. Advocating. Speaking up. Donating.

If you work with a healing deity: You better be addressing your own wounds and helping others heal. Therapy. Somatic work. Holding space.

If you work with a deity of knowledge: You better be learning, teaching, preserving wisdom. Reading. Studying. Sharing.

The devotion isn't just at the altar. It's in how you live.

STEP 5: WEATHER THE HARD TIMES

Real relationship includes conflict, distance, and difficulty.

You'll have periods where:

The connection feels dead (dark night of the soul)

They ask something you don't want to give

You're angry at them for how things unfolded

Life gets so chaotic you can't maintain practice

You question if any of this is real

Don't abandon ship. These are the moments that deepen relationship.

Communicate: "I'm struggling right now"

Maintain minimum effort even when it's hard

Seek guidance from others who work with this deity

Trust that distance is sometimes part of the path

Return when you're ready—deities understand mortal limitations

The relationship that survives difficulty is the one that becomes unshakeable.

STEP 6: LET THEM CHANGE YOU

This is the scariest part and the most important.

Working with a deity means becoming more like them in some way. You take on aspects of their nature. You embody their values. You see through their eyes sometimes.

This will cost you:

Comfort zones will shatter

Relationships that don't serve will end

Old identities will die

Hard truths will be revealed

Growth will be painful

If you're not willing to be transformed, don't start deity work.

The gods aren't here to make you feel good. They're here to make you whole—and wholeness requires breaking what's false.

RED FLAGS: WHEN IT'S NOT REAL RELATIONSHIP

You only remember them when you need something. That's not relationship. That's using someone.

Your relationship hasn't deepened in a year+. If you've been "working with" a deity for years and can't describe how the relationship has evolved, you're not actually in relationship.

You're afraid to be honest with them. Real relationship includes honesty—even uncomfortable honesty. If you're performing piety instead of expressing truth, something's off.

They never ask anything difficult of you. If your deity only ever asks for easy offerings and comfortable growth, you're probably talking to yourself, not a god.

You switch deities frequently. Every 6 months you have a new "patron." This is spiritual hopping, not relationship building.

The relationship is all comfort, no challenge. Real relationships—mortal or divine—include friction. If there's never any tension, you're probably avoiding depth.

You can't distinguish their voice from your own thoughts. This takes time to develop, but eventually you should recognize the difference between "I think X" and "they're communicating X to me." If everything is always ambiguous, dig deeper.

WHAT ABOUT MULTIPLE DEITIES?

You can work with more than one. Here's how to do it without collecting:

ESTABLISH PRIMARY RELATIONSHIP FIRST

Spend 6 months to a year with one deity before considering others. Build foundation.

ADD OTHERS INTENTIONALLY

Ask your primary deity if it's appropriate to work with others. Some deities are fine with it. Some expect exclusivity (at least at first).

MAINTAIN DISTINCT RELATIONSHIPS

Each deity gets their own altar space, their own offerings, their own time. Don't homogenize.

RECOGNIZE DIFFERENT ROLES

Primary deity: Daily devotion, deepest work, life guidance

Secondary deity: Specific domain work (healing, divination, creativity)

Honored deity: Respect and occasional offerings, but not active working relationship

You might honor ten deities but only actively work with two.

CHECK YOUR CAPACITY

If maintaining multiple relationships means all of them become shallow, scale back.

Better to deeply know one deity than superficially know five.

THE COMMITMENT QUESTION

"Do I have to commit forever?"

No. But you should commit intentionally for a defined period, with the understanding that it might become permanent.

Examples of commitment:

"I commit to daily devotion for one year, then we'll reassess"

"I commit to honoring you through this life transition"

"I commit to working with you until this specific goal is achieved"

"I commit to you as my primary deity until told otherwise"

What matters: You're clear about what you're offering, and you honor that commitment.

Deity work isn't marriage (usually), but it's not casual dating either. It's serious partnership with explicit terms.

THE BOTTOM LINE

Genuine relationship with deities looks like genuine relationship with humans:

You show up consistently

You give as much as you take

You communicate honestly

You honor boundaries (yours and theirs)

You grow through conflict

You're changed by the connection

You can describe the relationship in specific, lived detail

Collecting deities looks like:

Surface-level engagement with many

Calling only when you need something

No personal gnosis or direct experience

Shallow practice that never deepens

Treating gods like spiritual accessories

More concerned with having the relationship than building it

The gods know the difference.

And deep down, so do you.

YOUR TURN

How many deities do you actively work with?

What does your daily/weekly practice look like with them?

How has your primary deity relationship changed you over time?

Or: Are you realizing you've been collecting instead of relating? What's one thing you can do this week to deepen rather than expand?

Let's talk. Real relationships—with gods or humans—are built through honest conversation.

Blessed be 🤝

The gods don't want your altar full of their statues. They want your life full of their presence.