#internalized oppression

[none-gender-left-man]

being an advocate for the issue of transandrophobia when i myself used to basically share the views of people against the term because of internalized issues projected onto me by non-masc trans people I looked up to is weird bc other trans mascs who are convinced that any trans masc who uses the taboo word is evil (transandrophobia) are literally where I was years ago. it makes me sad for them. I hope they grow and realize they're worthy of their own advocacy and liberationist language. I hope they learn they don't have to jump in front of the bus to be morally acceptable.

I spent almost three years minimizing my masculine identity because of the echo chamber I was trapped in. I distanced myself. "I'm just nonbinary" i said, knowing further within me that I was erasing myself. making myself palatable to people who hate anyone adjacent to manhood, even other trans people.

how many are in the same boat now? all bc we didnt collectively listen to bell hooks when we were warned about making the end-all-be-all of feminism "man bad" gender essentialist rhetoric.

[haggishlyhagging]

Ask a woman in the United States if she is oppressed as a woman, and she will probably say no. Then she will return to her word processor in the typing pool where she earns seventy cents to the male dollar, or to her split-level in the suburbs where she cares for the home and children of a man who beats her, or she will resume her therapy session where she is trying to decipher fragmented memories of incest, or she'll continue stuffing envelopes for the campaign to fight toxic waste in her drinking water then walk home past the park where a man raped her last year. Women may be the only oppressed group in the world who, by and large, have difficulty recognizing our own oppression.

-Kay Leigh Hagan, Fugitive Information: Essays From a Feminist Hothead

[seraphimrisen]

Every time I reread this, it destroys me as a queer person. So many of us have been in both of these shoes. Excusing bigotry and oppression visited upon us, and feeling the agony of seeing others do it. These stories. This is why I read comics and X-Men.

[blackstarlineage]

And don’t forget the pandering Black men enabling this mess.

[theeternalwomb]

I hate to see people talk about and criticize little black girls for doing practically anything, feeling good about themselves, dressing up, getting their nails done, behaving like children, etc. it just makes me sick. And it comes from every direction, from inside the black community and outside of it. I hate to see shit like that and it sucks because it plagues the mind and creates and further solidifies negative energy in my body and in my spirit because I was a little black girl too and I’m a black woman today, that is how generational trauma and nervous systems get destroyed, you start to carry those things with you when you have to see and combat them all the time. My advice for black women especially because you never get a break from it and black people is to flourish and grow and do whatever tf you feel like despite what them people are talking about even the ones who look like you!! Live your life, laugh, express yourself, ignore people like that and instances where they try to sneak their way into your algorithm and unsettle your spirit. Nothing good comes out of it, those are outdated schools of thought designed to create stagnancy in your lives and make you sick. I think our people have done enough keeping our ears, minds and hearts open to the negativity of this world towards us in the name of vigilance, safety, and the simple fact that we have no other choice but to be aware that it is happening. They want you to be aware, they want you to be afraid, they want you to carry it with you, for it to be ingrained within you. Decenter it.

[bloodofjuno]

Shoeonhead and grifting

I’m very convinced that Shoeonhead has something mentally and spiritually wrong with her. I don’t mean that in the literal “haunted by demons” sense or anything.

I mean she humiliates herself and attacks other women for the sake of her misogynistic audience and pulls the “women are bad” rhetoric while being a woman. She’s been making anti-feminist content since I was 15, probably. It can’t be mentally healthy to constantly throw yourself under the bus for people who think you’re dumb and inferior because…no matter how hard you play the “I’m not like other girls” they still see you as a dumb woman, I’m sorry. What does that do to your self esteem? How do you look yourself in the mirror?

Shoe might not have sold her literal soul to get here, but she’s always going to be immortalized as a grifting pick-me because the internet is forever and baggage is real. Diginity and reputation, fucked. Personally? I couldn’t live with that.

[pet-shop-of-horror-fan]

"I love disabled people but disabled people are burdens. Maybe they should just not exist? Wait, why are you calling me a eugenicist? I'm disabled. Questioning my beliefs makes you the bigot, not me."

[unwelcome-ozian]