INTJ Problems #315
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INTJ Problems #315
Having so many planners and journals that two shelves and three drawers are no longer enough to hold them all
INTJ Isn't always a good student
I've seen posts upon posts upon posts about INTJ's being the student that teachers loved. That all INTJ's study hard, do well, and go on to be quite successful in their academic career. That didn't happen with me. At all.
My reasons why INTJ isn't as good of a student as everyone seems to think:
Teachers demanded we listen to them blindly, not just what to do in class and what homework to turn in, but the subjects we took. INTJ would have liked to have been asked what we wanted to study, not what some nameless, faceless, people decided we need to study.
If a subject doesn't interest INTJ, they don't try, end of story. If the purpose of a class wasn't communicated well, or at all, INTJ doesn't see the reason to be there.
Trust doesn't come easily. INTJ understands that this teacher is in fact a teacher, but they don't know you, and if they don't know you, they're sure as hell not going to trust you to teach them.
In class, it's rarely ever explained as a 'why'. The math is wrong? Why? We got the answer right, but you say we need to show my work? You mean you can't do it in your head so we're not allowed to either? Oh, we need to type up six pages on one subject that can be compacted into three pages? Why? There's nothing else to say.
INTJ's brains aren't always the most organized. Yes, we strive for perfection in whatever we do, but it's a messy process. It's not uncommon to space out in a class because INTJ is thinking about something.
Losing things happens. INTJ loses their phone while holding it. They misplace their glasses by wearing them. There are even days when they simply forget to sleep. And we have to keep track of, and do, homework for eight to twelve classes? Riiiight.
This is just my take on things, it doesn't apply to every INTJ, but I know it applies to a few.
There is this thing called a 'queue' for a reason kiddo
INTP to INTJ
Being INTJ is Like...
having the world’s largest dictionary in a language no one else understands.
INTJ Problems #303
Starting to contemplate actually opening up your vulnerabilities to your friends...only to be emotionally or geographically separated, and you remember why you prefer being guarded. :)
INTJ Problems #292
INTJ at the bookstore: Ah yes, I shall get these 20 books, 5 journals, and million more pens
ESFJ, looking at the newly cluttered bookshelf: Um, aren’t you going to start reading one of those books from your last shopping spree?
INTJ: I’ll start one tomorrow. Right now, their presence fills me with an aesthetic of wisdom and pride, and I shan’t ruin that.
ESFJ: What about those journals?
INTJ: Those journals...also add to my aesthetic. Besides, I have to finish my old ones first.
ESFJ, trying not to strangle INTJ: And what about those pens. THEY DON’T EVEN FIT IN YOUR PENCIL CUPS.
INTJ: The selection of the pen is a very delicate process. I cannot simply switch over from a pen I have been using for Journals A, B, C, or D without ruining the aesthetic and feeling of writing in them. On the other hand--
ESFJ: That’s it, I give up.
Introduction
So, I am an INTJ, living with an ENFP and ESFP. There are, perhaps on average, 20 misunderstandings a day between the three of us. We clash, a lot. My ESFP tries to engage in small talk damn near every hour that I am home and my ENFP just sort of floats around and does things their way no matter what. I need a place to vent when surrounded by all these emotions, to be my blunt self that won't offend the people I live with. So I'm going to be posting my thoughts and little (and big) clashes that happen between us. If someone relates to them, great, if not, eh. Hopefully this will help me cope with having to live with these two. Maybe I'll get messages explaining what these two are thinking, because I sure don't understand them.
Evening, Day 11
Things have gotten better, it seems like most of our misunderstandings happen when I'm off work and spend all of my time with ENFP and ESFP. It's nice to be away from the house for a little bit and come back to a (hopefully) more relaxed atmosphere. I know I'm the cause of a lot of problems, being the only I-TJ, but I thrive mostly at home where I can simply 'be' and process. It's a little disheartening knowing that I no longer have any time truly alone. They've given me space, but for the last 11 days, I've never been alone in the house.