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[intpot]

For any INTPs who are trying to fight laziness

As a self-proclaimed lazy intp, I just realised that the reason why we are so lazy might be from our need of comfort, and also because of the Ti-Si loop.

Most INTPs won't be very motivated to do things just for the sake of success or wealth. As an INTP, I am not naturally motivated to do finish my jobs, because I prefer just learning about it (Dominant Ti). But with healthy Ne, INTPs would have a reason to be motivated - to satisfy their curiousity.

With dominant Ti, INTPs might rationalise and cut out certain activities that they don't think they need in their lives, so they might think something like: " I don't need to go to this biology lecture, because I can research what the topic is about in my own time." But there are things that Ti cannot predict, and Ti had cut out the possibility that the INTP might experience other things from just going outside and to the lecture. An example of this is: the speaker might have talked a bit about archaeology, which the INTP might have picked up interest in, and found a new topic of interest. By using Ne (and possibly ignoring Ti), the INTP might have realised in the first place that going outside at all would have given them more opportunities to have fun, than choosing a predictable and comfortable path, where they would probably not discover anything new.

Finally, Ne also might motivate the INTP to finish things, because they would be thinking "I wonder what the end product will actually be like", or "this article is boring but if I reach the end, it might become interesting."

[pushoffsidewalk]

Don't Think Emotions - Feel Them

Sometimes when INTPs experience profound emotion (hurt, infatuation, anger, loneliness, excitement, etc.), the first instinctual inclination is to process it by intellectualizing or “solving” it.

However, intellectualizing emotions hinders them from being felt (preventing them from being more thoroughly processed). The accumulation of blocked emotions makes them more intense, controlling INTPs to the point where: the intensity becomes so much that feeling the emotions can no longer be avoided (which can create an experience that is debilitating, negative, and/or overwhelming).

But the much more significant issue here is that: INTPs don’t even realize this is happening. They don’t even notice when they are having an emotion. It is so automatic and habitual to default to problem-solving mode with everything (even with emotions).

What an emotion actually feels like to INTPs is: a sudden intuitive urge (Ne) to solve a problem (even if a problem doesn’t really exist, other than the “problem” of the emotion itself). This urge feels virtually indistinguishable to all other problem-solving urges. And to satisfy the urge, the INTP gets stuck in a never-ending loop.

INTPs would do well to: 1) be aware this is happening, 2) distinguish between actual problems that can be articulated versus emotions that can’t be solved, 3) feel the emotions instead of thinking them, thus allowing them to take their inevitable course.

How to feel: label the emotion, fully experience it without any judgment (turn off thinking, don’t be scared), then incorporate the felt emotion (now a feeling) into your Ti-framework. Do this consciously until it becomes a newly ingrained habit.

[pushoffsidewalk]

How to Interpret Others and Accomplish Simple Tasks if You Are INTP

When a lot of people communicate in the majority of the population, social context or context in general is implied. 

INTPs on the other hand don’t do this naturally. Instead, they will naturally interpret things logically, and don’t even realize that they do it. Not only do INTPs not realize that they do this, but they may assume that everyone else is working with the same logic baseline (yet they aren’t). This explains the confusion INTPs regularly feel when dealing with others, followed by marginalization for making semantic sense (and being the only one), followed by anger for being victim to the unfair projection of others believing said INTP is stupid or slow, followed by feeling a little crazy, followed by angry adverse reactions such as: “I HATE all people they are stupid!!!! I’M so much better and smarter!! I HATE people!!! I don’t need them!!!”

When INTPs don’t understand what is being said, the tendency is to further analyze the statement in order to try to discover semantic sense. When that is not discovered, an INTP may tend to naturally and unconsciously try to figure out why it does not make sense (though there’s nothing really to figure out, simply because the statement is probably nothing short of discombobulated). This leads to a perpetual cycle of confusion for the INTP having a hard time understanding how this is possible, and a tendency for people to think that the INTP is stupid (and if this happens regularly throughout the INTPs life, the INTP may be inclined to believe he or she is stupid). 

Personally, I’ve noticed that the less intelligent the individual is I’m dealing with, the dumber I feel for not figuring out what the other person is saying (and generally the less-inclined person won’t care about figuring out the miscommunication which causes him or her to exude a certain kind of unquestioning confidence, causing me to feel stupid, further reinforcing said less-inclined person’s confidence, while further making me feel less and less confident while I continue to drown in a pointless sea of overanalyzing, so on and so forth).

With this realization, the INTP can take a different approach to understanding others: 

1) Always try to work with Ti, first and foremost. If that doesn’t work, then

2) Stop analyzing the person’s statement, and analyze the context for yourself. Figure it out for yourself. Realize that most people simply don’t make sense. Also, don’t analyze why people don’t make sense. Just accept that making sense is not really important to most people. A lot of the general public is comfortable with making less thorough deductions, and then sort of just “running with it”.

3) Realize that the only way you are ever able to accomplish any new task is if you are outside of your head, and take a singularly focused approach (no matter how simple the task is). While others may appear to successfully do tasks or learn things in a relaxed manner, this is hardly possible for INTPs (the INTP will be almost totally debilitated if they attempt this). When INTPs learn something new, they have to apply focused and singular effort (Ti). Usually INTPs are passionate about applying Ti, and it is my belief that INTPs can tap into this passion anytime & anywhere.  4) Realize that your framework of data is your strength. Through data-synthesization and NeSi, INTPs may appear endlessly spontaneous and able to multi-task with utmost speed (the stereotypical genius-oriented INTP is usually portrayed exhibiting NeSi, or previous-compulsively gathered data). 

Keep in mind that Ti is a different story altogether. Ti is detail-oriented & very slow, and that’s okay. When Ti is being utilized, everything else shuts down (hence the “detached” phrase associated with Ti). Please be aware of this.

[foo1sama]

Emotions for Dummies (INTP)

Ok, so of course I had to do this, now:

Fellow INTPs, here it is, your Emotions for Dummies handy quick-reference sheet!

[deepcloyster]

INTP here with a INFP boyfriend. We like the same things and click really well, however it is when it comes to sentimental stuff the problems begin. For me, he is an irrational drama queen, for him, I'm a cold hearted stone.

I have a hard time dealing with emotions and he believes I don't trust him because I don't like tell him my problems to him. He told me I'm not letting get close to me because of this. I just don't know what to do this doesn't make sense to me. I don't even like venting my problems because I can't help but feel like a burden plus feelings are not my forte.

I don't wan't him to think I don't trust him, I just don't know what to do. Any advice?