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really don't enjoy the genre of post that's like "it's hard to accept that being physically disabled just inherently means never being able to do any of the activities you want to do or achieve any of your dreams and spending your entire life suffering. but that's how it is and that's okay 💕" like have you guys considered the possibility you are depressed

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"why don't you just walk" my braces cause muscle atrophy and crutches do not

"why don't you just walk" wearing braces in the heat is barely tolerable

"why don't you just walk" because i'm in a rush and i'm twice as slow when walking unaided

"why don't you just walk" because crutches let me pass off my disability as a temporary injury, whereas unaided i am very obviously congenitally disabled and experience far more ableism

"why don't you just walk" because if i don't take breaks i will lose most of my existing function in both my legs

"why don't you just walk" because i'm going shopping/to a museum/catching a train and i cannot stand for more than 3 minutes without my legs giving way

"why don't you just walk" because i'm fucking tired

this post is about limb difference do not derail

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disabled people especially disabled women need to be hornier. pleaaase no more disability discord servers with trigger lists longer than a cvs receipt and separate nsfw chats. disability blogs that only talk about disability itself like it has to be a sanitized topic kept seperate from the rest of the reality of adult life. posts about disabled sex that use medical terms and feel almost clinical. our sexuality has been taken from us for so long reclaiming and normalizing it has to be an integral part of our fight against ableism. please

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ehlers danlos syndrome is not a limb difference

hypermobility is not a limb difference

having high-arched or flat feet is not a limb difference

abnormal gait is not a limb difference

a loss of function in a limb is not a limb difference

if you've gone your entire life thinking of something as simply a minor "quirk" or "weird", it's not a limb difference

someone calling you/your condition deformed/a deformity doesn't necessarily mean it's a limb difference

if someone can look at your body and reasonably assume "you're not disabled", you don't have a limb difference

the term "limb difference" includes both limb loss and a range of conditions that cause changes to the size, shape or formation of a limb/part of a limb. these changes are almost always visible to others, and generally involve the length or shape of the long bones in a limb. limb differences can be congenital or acquired, and vary in severity, but are almost always diagnosed shortly after birth/acquisition. misusing this term or even self-diagnosing as having a "limb difference" causes real harm to the public image and awareness of a small and vulnerable community. thanks xoxo

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i'm totally coining "ambulableism" - ableism from people who can walk (disabled or otherwise) towards people who cannot. examples include:

claiming it's the same thing to need a wheelchair fulltime vs part time

telling me "i love your wheelchair" when i'm minding my own business

using the wheelchair stall when you can physically use another stall

everyone who has ever approached me in public to tell me about their hEDS/POTs unprompted (this happens at least once a week. i'm not joking)

telling me you're jealous of my wheelchair/wish you could afford one/wish you had the "confidence" to use one/"i need a wheelchair too but no one believes me"

bringing up my disability every 10 seconds or asking if i relate to things

pretending to be impressed when i do necessary tricks (ie. wheelie up a curb)

staring at me in public - bonus points for wearing invisible disability/neurodivergent pride merch and a forlorn "i'm disabled too and i just wanna be your friend" look

asking me how i was diagnosed, complaining about your own difficulty with getting diagnosed unprompted, asking me to diagnose you; i'm literally a stranger in a wheelchair

telling me how privileged i am to have a wheelchair/be diagnosed/never get fakeclaimed/whatever

"what's wrong with your legs" or "why do you look like that" right off the bat

making "your legs don't work" jokes within the first 12 hours of knowing me - seriously, y'all are wayyyy too comfortable, and not original in the slightest

assuming i want to talk to you or be your friend just because i'm disabled

moving out of the wheelchair space on the bus and then looking at me like a kicked puppy for the entire journey

this is (mostly) a joke post but if anyone has additions i'd love to hear them!

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dykes in wheelchairs we will prevail. if you're a dyke in a wheelchair i love you

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dear ambulatory lgbt people with dyed hair who use they/them for me because i'm in a wheelchair: i hope you get hit by a truck

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does it feel infantilizing and borderline ableist to anyone else that the majority of phys disability discord servers/groups, even if they're 18+, require you to censor mentions of drinking, weed or even smoking cigarettes? particularly smoking, like, those are normal things that adults do, including disabled adults. yeah it's bad for your health, we all know that, but a lot of people in disability spaces moralize it to the point it's frowned upon to merely mention a cheeky morning fag in a space full of other disabled ppl and i don't understand why