Yesterday I came out to one of the rabbis as trans, partly because it needed doing, but more urgently because I had a challenging time in a "q*eer" Jewish space where I had been presumed cis.
I explained that I had zero intention of relinquishing my stealth status, and she commented on the כונה, kavanah, with which I said that- my intention.
Before now, I had only encountered this concept in regard to prayer or mitzvot, and the thought that my decision to live authentically is comparable... well, if anyone wants to study that particular theme with me, my DMs are open.
When I was younger, I always imagined that a stealth life would be a quiet one, with the trans life essentially consigned to history. And perhaps it would be, if I wasn't gay, and compelled to engage with LGBT spaces.
As such, I frequently enter discussions on gender and sexuality, and navigating them is a new type of challenge. I have to learn to appear subjective on a subject that is deeply, and often painfully, personal.
I know that many of my followers are in similar positions and would like to reiterate that I am open to joint study or just a chat- get in touch.