I once got told that I’m a people pleaser, and honestly, I was shocked 😱 mao inyong pagtan-aw nako? I never saw myself that way—I’ve always thought of myself as easygoing. I don’t react or idc much to teasing like “ka gwapa nimo oi” or “hala si muse lol,” and I usually choose peace over confrontation.
But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that this trait has two sides. Being easygoing helps me maintain harmony and build connections. People feel comfortable around me, and relationships tend to flow smoothly. At the same time, it sometimes means I stay quiet even when I should speak up. What feels like peace can quietly turn into putting myself last.
This made me realize that conformity isn’t always bad, but it isn’t always good either. It works when it builds understanding, but it becomes harmful when it costs me my voice. I’m still learning when to adapt and when to stand my ground—and that, for me, is part of growing.
