@vulturestew replied to your post: also any time a total fucking stranger hits me...
yah i dnt trust that shit like those traits are something you have to prove to me first and that might take a LONG time, and rightly so. also if the person i think youre talking about was actually caring, theyd realize that theyre being exploitative. god.
yeah like!! shit dude people can say they’re caring all they want, it doesn’t actually prove anything. i could say i’m really good at kickflips, but i’ve never touched a skateboard in my life and the ability to pull off those Sick Stunts doesn’t magically appear in my brain just because i say it does
also i’m like real suspicious of people who use the whole “empathic and intuitive” combo of personal traits to put themselves in positions of authority because that then makes said authority something rooted in emotion instead of in capability. like you can be an actually really empathetic and kind person and still be terribly suited for any kind of therapist-esque position due to literally any possible combo of other factors—maybe your affective empathy (because lbr, that’s usually what people mean in this context by “empathy”) doesn’t let you disengage at the end of the day, or you don’t have any personal experience with the struggles of the person you’re listening to and can’t offer anything they haven’t heard already, or you come into it with a “saviour” sort of attitude and try to steamroll over people who know their own capabilities... like there’s So Much