#lgb(t)

[youandmelgbt]

Alastair and Zach Get Hitched 

[demoniclour]

Hogwarts sexualities: Hufflepuff WLW (3/8)

[cupieces]

cupie

Reflections

The mirror glints

as a switch clicks

and a light flicks on

into concomitance

with emotional objection.

Where I stand I can see my reflection

glaring in cold collection

back at me.

But it's weird, it's off,

it's wrong and so I scoff,

and I think I'll brush off the sour flavor

that always lingers and never wavers ;

from the lemon of the tree of life,

a sour as sharp as the knife

that slices us apart.

Thats just how it is.

When life gives you lemons

do you make lemonade?

When life ONLY gives you lemons,

rinds tough with lessons

disguised as blessings

so no one addresses their mistakes.

When life doesn't have the resources

to give us some sugar,

but it gives support for gov't forces to

put officers in rows and treat us

to what their preform is ,

and then go out in front of the public

with pantomime performances

of how much they love me

and my community.

When we have never been enough ,

when we've always had it rough,

because the old man shitting his pants

sitting behind the judges desk

has a perilous quest

to supplant our existence.

I didn't ask for this,

endless public attacks

on me and my own

that we're forced to ignore

because if we don't

then we'll be thrown

to the wolves of the law,

clasped in metal jaws

that engraves hatred,

and gnaws on our bones

until we no longer know who we are again.

Propaganda so grand I think it's the word

shouting and yelling,

violence and labelling,

it's gotten so bad that

even now as it's being spat,

I'm scared to finish this last bit of

my truth.

Because my truth has upset

people I don't even know,

who tell me I'm worthless

and that I should go

back to hell where I belong,

all because I'm churchless and

I dont fit-in to a square, or circle,

or whatever other gurgle of binary

they invented to control

our roles in society.

When they tell me I should be happy,

because I'm here, I guess,

and I have a life, I guess.

' A life my parents gave to me,

a life with a big family,

a life where I can sleep peacefully

and a life where I'm loved endlessly. '

And to this day

me and my reflection can't say

exactly why

endlessly became

tentatively.

[2ulk]

Whether or not you need dysphoria to be trans depends solely on your definition of dysphoria

I’m making this post because quite frankly I’m tired of seeing transmeds/truscum attempt to invalidate a tucute’s gender identity because they are nondysphoric.

The following explains the ideologies of both sides of the dysphoria debate, debunks misunderstandings, and includes sources! It’s a fairly long read but I do think it’s important.

Coming from a previous truscum who actually took the time to listen to tucutes and official sources, the following statements are ✨false✨

If you’re nondysphoric you’re cis

If you’re nondysphoric you’re stealing trans resources

If you’re nondysphoric you’re going to get dysphoria from transitioning

Before we start, let me say, whether or not a person detransitions is not based off of their stance on the dysphoria debate, in fact, I’d think many detransitioners probably transitioned before the debate was big, but don’t take my word for this, it’s how I view the situation. Anyways, people have many personal reasons that they mistook themselves as transgender, and a lot of people suffered from trauma which caused them to accidentally perceive themselves this way!

Where am I getting with this? Many transmeds/truscum use detransitioners as an argument, when this is best defined as propaganda. Honestly? I don’t know the rate of detransitions or their reasons other than what I previously mentioned, but it isn’t our place to be in their business, and either way, detransitioning isn’t bad, or something to criticize, so please stop making it seem like a bad thing!

Okay, now onto the point of this post.

Let’s understand each group’s stance on dysphoria and its defenition.

Truscum/Transmeds believe dysphoria is a necessary experience to be transgender. Truscum/Transmeds typically view gender incongruence as a form of dysphoria or as the same entity as dysphoria.

Tucutes do not believe dysphoria is necessary to be transgender. Tucutes seperate dysphoria and gender incongruence, tucutes believe you need gender incongruence, as it’s the disconnect from one’s gender, however define dysphoria as distress and impairment of daily life.

Of course, from here, views differ, but there are many misunderstandings. Many tucutes believe truscum/transmeds are telling them they have to hate their bodies to be trans, or that they have to be in a constant state of agony/distress. This obviously is not necessary. Whether some truscum/transmeds actually believe that I am unsure, but that’s how tucutes view their argument.

Then, there’s the misunderstanding many truscum/transmeds have where they think tucutes see gender as a choice, where they think tucutes are cis, or where they think tucutes will give themselves dysphoria. This is horrifyingly false, and the only time a tucute would view gender as a choice is if they are severely misinformed.

Many tucutes are dysphoric, however, they understand what nondysphorics mean when they say they do not suffer from dysphoria. Nondysphorics aren’t saying they chose to be trans, they’re saying they suffer from gender incongruence but not distress/impairment. This is why nondysphorics are transgender. Nondysphorics suffer from gender incongruence and are, by truscum/transmed logic dysphoric. This is also why they will not give themselves dysphoria, they are suffering from gender incongruence, they are not cisgender.

In the case a nondysphoric doesn’t feel the need to transition, no matter if they’re a binary gender or nonbinary, this can be due to many personal reasons, but also because you can be comfortable with your body if you do not have physical dysphoria. Many nondysphorics transition socially, because maybe they had social dysphoria, and not bodily dysphoria.

Following that train of thought, any trans person can refer to their sex specific characteristics by name and not be a “tr//nder.” I’m not going to name any, just to avoid any triggers, but some people do think this, and it’s just plain information. Dysphoric or not, someone can refer to their body with whatever words they see fit.

Ah, “tr//nder,” what a nice word to be called (/s). I’ll be censoring it in case it can be a trigger. Many nondysphorics, tucutes, and trans people who use MOGAI gender descriptors use this term, it’s reclamation, it’s not to say that they’re cis, it’s a “I seriously don’t give a crap if you think I’m not actually trans due to whatever reason, because I am, so I’ll rub your “insult” in your face.”

People who reclaim tr//nder are not cis

Finally, we’re nearing the end of this note, so I’ll be supplying sources as to why I’m a transneutralist, as in, I think both sides of the debate have the same base beliefs (I say base beliefs because WOW they sure do branch out from there).

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Gender incongruence is not classified in the ICD-11 as a mental disorder as a disorder would be distressing or disabling, and distress is not a necessary experience to meet the criteria of gender incongruence. Dysphoria is not mentioned. [x]

The American Psychiatric Association (APA) agrees that a mental disorder is distressing and that incongruence does not have to be distressing. [x]

Here the APA easily says dysphoria is not necessary and that not all transgender individuals seek gender reassignment. [x]

Planned Parenthood does not mention incongruence, and refers to dysphoria as "distress, unhappiness, and anxiety" [x]

Here is the DSM-5 diagnostic criteria for gender dysphoria, where they refer to it as incongruence. Distress is not necessary. [x]

The NHS defines Gender Dysphoria as "A sense of unease that a person may have because of a mismatch between their biological sex and their gender identity." It states that it is not a mental illness but people suffering from it may develop mental health problems. [x]

[london-duchess]

Hi. I just wanted to remind you that the person who started using synthetizers in film soundtracks and music in general is a transgender woman. This is Wendy Carlos. You’re welcome.

[uwuspooks]

ok so i started growing sideburns and theyre so ugly sksnjsjs sndns

[kekisu]

i wish i could go to pride but since im not out as trans yet i think id have a hard time being there

[kekisu]

i hate how kalvin has such a big platform . he's spreading so much false information and everyones just believing him because he's popular