#lgbtdiscourse

[sexy-wingism]

People really do be trying to defend queer is with “gay is a slur”, no, it’s not, and that’s just homophobia sis :// Not a good look... for anyone

[angelsdialogue]

Let’s Talk Lesphobia In The Bi Community (my experience as a bi girl)

When I discovered I was bi for some reason first thing I thought to do was to read about bisexuality on Twitter. At first it was pretty great a few positivity post some jokes it and it made me feel good to have a bunch of people who got me.

But after a little bit of scrolling I discovered the word biphobia, I don’t remember what the post was talking about but I remember wanting to know more. So I searched (still on twitter) and was hit with a wave of people talking about scary lesbians who would do anything to get rid of bisexuals. I was told that the vast majority of lesbians wouldn’t date me, would think I was gross, a cheater at heart, would shun me and say I wasn’t good enough.

But the thing that didn’t help was the vast majority of lesbians in the replies were defending the biphobic mindset. And with that I was pretty much convinced that lesbians were evil and hated me. This really messed me up. It made me demonize lesbians and their attraction to women, seeing bisexuality as the only “okay” way to love another woman.

For a long time I was pretty lesphobic and not just in the way that I hated lesbians but I was also genuinely scared of them. I worried about coming out and joining GSAs because I was scared I would automatically be rejected by the elite lesbians. I would see lesbians being excluded in pride posts and their expressing frustration and laugh because to me they deserved it.

I realize how wrong this all is now and I often see the same attitude I had in other bisexual women. Yes, biphobia in the lesbian community needs to be talked about but maybe not as harshly as it is. We need to stop acting like lesbians are the only/main ones responsible for biphobia. We need to talk about lesphobia in the bi community if we’re going to talk about the biphobia in the lesbian community. We need to get better period.



[unkn0wnbr3ak2]

IM BISEXUAL EVEN IF I DATE A NONBINARY PERSON.

I AM BISEXUAL, I DATE A NONBINARY PERSON. I AM STILL BISEXUAL. I WILL ALWAYS BE BI. DATING A NONBINARY PERSON DOES NOT MAKE ME ANY LESS BI. IT DOESNT MAKE ME PAN. I AM NOT PAN.

[partyydadd]

let me tell you a story. it's a long one, but its important.

throughout my life, I was always a tomboy, I disliked dresses and always fit in more with the guys than I did with the girls. and I never thought much of it, because i was just a kid. I was bullied heavily in grades like 4 and 5, and it was very damaging. I went home crying every single day and I hated my life and who I was.

in grades 6 and 7, I had a lot of Male friends, I was into gaming and was introduced to some older dudes who were mutual friends that grew very close to me, stuck up for me and treated me like they cared about me. they'd tell me I'm mature for my age and they tried wanted me to do things that werent explicitly sexual to me then, but are now. one was 21, he would ask me to go in the rain with a white shirt and a dark bra and show him. he would tell me that I'm cute. the other one was 17, he wasn't as nice to me. he made me promise him that when I was 18 I'd come lay on a couch with him because he didnt like that I was sad. once i started to question if i even liked guys, they both stopped talking to me. one of them even continued to come telling me that I had changed and that's why he hated me. up until last year hed harass me every once and a while.

I started to distance myself from my femininity and my life because I hated it. I was disgusted. beyond belief. I was on the internet and decided that it fit to identify as genderfluid, since I never steadily felt masc but always hated myself enough to misplace it as dysphoria. I was out at school as gay already and then genderfluid too. I went by a different name and they/them pronouns and forced people to refer to me as such.

a year later, I was more depressed, in a heavily abusive relationship and didnt know who I was. I was unsafely binding my chest often, hardly eating and hurting myself. I didnt want to live. I thought I was trans since I hated the way my body looked unless I wasnt feminine at all. it hid who I was. I identified this way for about a year.

fast forward to grade 10 now, things were clearing up slightly, I was only binding often and the only actual dysphoria I felt was social. I realized that I hated my body but it wasnt because I was trans. I was starting to eat again, it had been a while since I hurt myself and things werent fantastic but they were something.

in grade 10 I started dating my boyfriend, and we have been together since. he has helped me love myself and realize that it's okay to be feminine. currently, I still go by they/them and ID as nonbinary. and I feel confident with that.

one of the reasons I hated myself so much was because I was trying to be something I wasnt. i misplaced my self hatred and gave myself actual dysphoria because i thought i was trans. it is so important that if you do not feel dysphoria at all that you DO NOT transition !!! its okay to be GNC but that doesnt mean you're transgender.

thank you for coming to my Ted talk. good night.

[v-q-d-k-a-blog]

Reminder!✨💕

✨O.P. is an exclusionist✨

💫not feeling sexual attraction DOESNT make you LGBT💫

🌟if you're cishet you aren't LGBT🌟

[sexy-wingism]

Hi, hello, as a lesbian he/them lesbians don’t exist and that’s just lespbobic and unless you’re living in a country that would kill you for being a lesbian Ion wanna hear it

[sexy-wingism]

Tumblr is such a hellsite that I swear Satan himself runs it, the people on this website grasps at straws constantly and do not give two fucks about anyone who disagrees with them

Oh, you’re uncomfortable with queer? Well fuck you because it’s my identity and you’re queerphobic!

Oh, you let your dog outside and you eat meat? You must be an animal abuser!

Oh, you think trans should stay as a medical term so it’s covered? Trans is trendy, bootlicker!

You think brains are gendered and have proof for it? Let my grown ass friends attack you!

You’re not safe whatever you think and it’s so tiresome

[sexy-wingism]

I don’t know why tucutes are so obsessed with calling us transmeds bootlickers... If we’re licking boots, so are you. You’re licking transphobia’s boots.