#acediscourse

[flip-flopping-frede]

Aroaces do not speak for everyone in the Acommunity.

Aroaces are not the most marginalized group. Pushing this narrative of inclusion has reached the extent of erasure for more marginalized aspec identities.

Pushing this narrative of “lithromantic is included under aro” or “aro includes lithromantic” makes me feel like I’m not being heard as a lithro, who uses the lithro label + flag and doesn’t feel included. I feel like aroaces are trying to erase my identity and replace it with the aro label. “Aro awareness”-only doesn’t result in more awareness or visibility for my lithro label. Infact, “speaking over” lithros/arospecs/aspecs who don’t use the aro/aroace label, is a problem. It invalidates people and results in more exclusive awareness for the aro + aroace labels, and none for labels that desperately need awareness, like lithromantic, frayromantic, and fraysexual.

[riseandshineace]

[scared-aquarius]

It blows my mind that there are people out there who feel self-righteous enough and that they even have the audacity let alone the AUTHORITY to tell an asexual or aromantic person that their experiences aren’t considered “bad” enough to be given a space in the lgbtqiA+ community, when they themselves have absolutely no idea what an ace/aro person goes through mentally, physically and socially on a day to day basis. Space within the community is not finite like exclusionists act like it is. Asexuals and aromantics, I see you, I love you, you matter, you are valid and you are an important part of the lgbtqiA+ community. Also YES, this includes hetero-romantic asexuals, because a hetero-romantic asexual is just as straight as a bisexual person in a heterosexual relationship (aka, NOT STRAIGHT). Bye

[angelsdialogue]

Let’s Talk Lesphobia In The Bi Community (my experience as a bi girl)

When I discovered I was bi for some reason first thing I thought to do was to read about bisexuality on Twitter. At first it was pretty great a few positivity post some jokes it and it made me feel good to have a bunch of people who got me.

But after a little bit of scrolling I discovered the word biphobia, I don’t remember what the post was talking about but I remember wanting to know more. So I searched (still on twitter) and was hit with a wave of people talking about scary lesbians who would do anything to get rid of bisexuals. I was told that the vast majority of lesbians wouldn’t date me, would think I was gross, a cheater at heart, would shun me and say I wasn’t good enough.

But the thing that didn’t help was the vast majority of lesbians in the replies were defending the biphobic mindset. And with that I was pretty much convinced that lesbians were evil and hated me. This really messed me up. It made me demonize lesbians and their attraction to women, seeing bisexuality as the only “okay” way to love another woman.

For a long time I was pretty lesphobic and not just in the way that I hated lesbians but I was also genuinely scared of them. I worried about coming out and joining GSAs because I was scared I would automatically be rejected by the elite lesbians. I would see lesbians being excluded in pride posts and their expressing frustration and laugh because to me they deserved it.

I realize how wrong this all is now and I often see the same attitude I had in other bisexual women. Yes, biphobia in the lesbian community needs to be talked about but maybe not as harshly as it is. We need to stop acting like lesbians are the only/main ones responsible for biphobia. We need to talk about lesphobia in the bi community if we’re going to talk about the biphobia in the lesbian community. We need to get better period.



[ssseokkk]

while asexual people don't really experience homophobia, we do suffer other struggles regarding our identity that are just as valid as those suffered by allosexual people.

[kickasstransdumbass]

Y’all talking about cake aces and dragon aces, but what about my pirate aces and space aces? where y’all at?

[fuckyeahasexual]

Thank you to the wholesome people in the ace discourse tag facing those who don’t listen with bright colors instead of wearing themselves down by repeating what we’ve all said and explained before 🎂 🍰 🐉 🐲

[perfectlyinnerdaze]

So you know how exclus are like "We're protecting the lgbt community from evil cishets invading our community uwu"?

Today I told someone that aspecs used to be part of the bi community and saying "they aren't part of our history/can't kick out what was never in the community" erases a part of bi history. Their response literally was: "I don't care. Asexuals aren't lgbt. You're a clown."

This is as far from an actual argument as one can be but apart from that, they were so quick to throw bi people's history under the bus solely to exclude aspecs? How can anyone say they protect lgbt when they are ready to throw any part of it under the bus just out of spite?