How do I get others to like me?
You might be thinking, do I really care if people like me or not? Or why is it important for other people to like me? Well, what if I told you that it would increase your ability to influence people? People tend to trust people they like more, believe in their ideas and are more likely to act on the ideas of people they like.
So how do you get others to like you? I attended a class last night that revolved around Dale Carnegie’s book ‘How to Win Friends and Influence People’ and we discussed 6 simple tips for getting others to like you:
Take a genuine interest in people - rather than trying to get them to be interested in you! Step into their shoes and learn about them. People love to talk about themselves!
Smile - try holding a straight face while someone smiles at you - not easy is it? People mirror the energy of the people with them so if you smile at them, they are likely to smile back. A smile is a ‘messenger of good will’!
Say their name - the sweetest sound to a persons’ ears is the sound of their name. Struggle to remember peoples’ names when you meet them? Try repeating it 3 times in the first conversation. Or if you don’t hear it properly then ask them to repeat it and take a genuine interest in learning how to pronounce it correctly!
Listen to them - create a space where they feel comfortable sharing. This will help them feel good about themselves and in turn their relationship with you! Don’t offer unsolicited advice. Instead try asking questions so they can find the solution themselves and own it going forward.
Drive sincere connection - draw a connection with them beyond work. Ask about their passions and what they are into and reflect it back to them in a way that drives a connection between you and them. Not sure what they are interested in? Try creeping on their social media. Do they post lots of pictures of food? Probably a foodie... Images of travel? Well...
Uplift and empower them - make them feel important and nourished. People crave approval and appreciation and will feel energised by this!
