Life teaches us something every day. Every bad decision we have ever made, every accomplishment we have celebrated, we have learned something or the other from it. Within 20 years of my life spent on this planet, I am not experienced enough to preach life lessons …. yeah RIGHT!!!
Well, I am not. But here some statements that I made are totally based on my real-life experiences and some are statements that I have read and totally believe in it. So here is a list of my top 10 LIFE LESSONS that I have learned, experienced and wish to abide by them for life.
1. No one has it all figured out.
Yep!! Stating facts. No one has it all figured out. Even those who pretend that they have, trust me they do not. Future is family to none.
2. Being nice is overrated, be kind, be fair, be understanding, not “nice.”
Being nice is when you are polite to people and treat people well. Being kind is when you care about people and show you care. Sometimes you can be kind to someone even though you aren’t nice to them and you can certainly be nice to someone but also be unkind. To me, the difference between these two comes in terms of depth.
3. To love is to be vulnerable, let your guard down.
It’s freaking hard. I know kid. I know!! But loving means being vulnerable. You have to let your guard down to let him or her know the person that is you, only to yourself. You have to share your ‘that’ self with them that is you, only when you are alone. You have to be able to share your insecurities without being insecure. You should no longer cry to yourself at night. When you love, you will be vulnerable yet be the strongest.
4. Good or bad you can learn from everybody.
Do I even need to say a thing? A child will learn from anybody be good or bad. So are we. Every person- good or bad, we meet, teaches us something. It’s up to us what we take and how we take it.
5. Embrace all of your emotions, don’t ignore them, don’t mask them, embrace them.
Most important of them all. Let your emotions flow. Happy, sad, angry. Whatever. Just embrace them all. Never be embarrassed about how you feel. Feel it hard. Feel it strong and embrace them all.
6.Unlearning is just as important as learning.
Because the circumstances in which you learned something for the first time might be different than this time. And hence, as we move forward in life we should see the same things in new lights.
7. Priorities matter.
While I believe everyone is interesting, time is still the most valuable currency. This means you need to choose. Taking a few minutes to really think about how you want to spend your time—and who you want to spend it with—will reduce the amount of regret you may feel in the future.
8. One day you will need to be forgiven so learn to forgive others.
Not forgiving is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to get hurt or die.” The reality is holding onto resentment literally keeps our cortisol running and makes us sick. The wonderful thing about forgiveness is it really only takes one to tango. You only need one person to forgive– YOU!
You don’t even need the offender.
9. Instead of buying your children what you didn’t have, teach them what you didn’t know.
It’s good to fondle your kids with lavish things and expensive toys and making sure they have everything that they wish for and that you wished for once but couldn’t have it. But I think it’s better to provide them with proper knowledge. Pass on to them your wisdom that you have gained through life and that you also learned from your mistakes.
10. If you value your time say no to anything that you don’t absolutely want to do.
For us people who always care about others so that we don’t hurt their feelings and that that they don’t feel bad about it we always feel obligated to say ‘yes’, which is so wrong. We sometimes even say ‘yes’ to do something that we would rather die than do. But it is high time that you learn to say ‘NO’ to things you really don’t wanna do. That would save you a lotta time- for yourself.
There’s a whole long list- I mean there are more but I think I’ll just make a part 2. So stay tuned!!