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Lovequeer userboxes

[PT: Lovequeer userboxes. End pt]

Didn't really know what to call these since they include such a vast array of identities, but these are for fed up loveweird people like me <33

(Before people start asking, here's definitions: aromantic: little to no romantic attraction. Apothiromantic: romance repulsed aro. Aroallo: feels sexual attraction but little or none that's romantic. Loveless: doesn't feel love or connect with the term 'love'. Autoromantic: label on the auto spectrum that is romantic attraction to yourself.)

Please reblog and credit if you use! Hope all you loveweird folk have a very romance free Valentine's Day and get lots of chocolate afterwards >:)

#All of these are made with the intent for people to feel seen and for positivity #the wording is just aggressive because well #We're fed up!#Don't intentionally interpret these as malicious #we're just having fun.#Intentional malicious interpretation will be blocked #aromantic #apothiromantic #aroallo #loveweird #Lovequeer #loveless #autoromantic #userboxes #not a request #described #cw sex mention

I love my system but positivity posts about loving your system/telling your system you love them give me the ick. /(neutral tone) A lot of them feel like they're putting love on a pedestal or telling me what to do. I'm sure that's not the intention but I don't often reblog those types of post because of those impressions.

I think the words I want to say are... if you feel love for your system, I encourage you to express that. If you don't feel love for your system, I also encourage you to express your feelings. This world needs more plural pondering, prose, poetry, and perspective sharing, no matter the emotions behind it.

I feel part of the focus on intrasystem love may have to do with how broader society views intrasystem love. Openly loving your system can be radical in the sense that it's not really something people acknowledge or even think about (or, in some situations, see as acceptable), yes... but at the same time, all system expression is radical, because all systems face erasure, whether or not we love our sysmates. Even referring to each other by name can be just as radical, especially to the same sort of people who see intrasystem love as unacceptable. So, to those who don't love their sysmates, or aren't comfortable expressing their love: you don't have to do that to make a change. Just being yourself is enough.

Besides all that, though, your self-expression is for you. It is for you to express your emotions, share your thoughts, and connect with others. I encourage you all to engage with self-expression because it can be such a wonderful thing. And it's something that many, many systems have been denied, or learned to deny themselves. But don't feel pressured to share anything you aren't comfortable sharing. Again, just being yourself is enough – you don't have to say anything you don't want to.

Systems who love their sysmates are amazing, and systems who don't love their sysmates are equally amazing. Systems who are learning to love their sysmates are amazing, and systems who no longer use the word "love" for their intrasystem relationships are amazing. Lovequeer systems are amazing, loveless systems are amazing, and loveweird systems are amazing. Regardless of love, all of you are amazing. I hope you all see the light you bring to this world.

#front soup.txt #plurality #pluralgang #actuallyplural #plural system #this isn't an asaw post but it's not NOT an asaw post #so I'll tag it ig #asaw #loveweird

Was talking with my headmates earlier and we agreed that we needed a specific term for our relationship with love, so today we're coining it – loveweird.

Loveweird is a word for when your relationship with love is weird, hard to understand, or outside the norm in some way. It can include loveless and lovequeer experiences but does not have to. Some examples of loveweird experiences include (but are not limited to):

Skipping the stage of "love" and going straight to obsession, adoration, or other similarly strong emotions that "love" does not adequately describe

Using "love" as slang or otherwise as a term to communicate what you mean without actually feeling love

Feeling uncomfortable with the term "love" but not having any better term to replace it

Only feeling platonic and/or alterous love

Only feeling romantic love, without any of the "love for friends" that has become standard in some spaces

Feeling that "lust" does not properly convey your sexual feelings, and that "love" is a better word for it

Only experiencing or understanding love through actions, not as an emotion

Viewing the concept of "love" differently than the norm or those around you

Viewing "love" as an emotion that is not greater or more important than any other emotion

Preferring other affectionate emotions or descriptions over love

Not finding love to be (very or at all) applicable in your life

Finding that your sexuality and/or gender impact how you view or feel love

And, of course, the numerous undescribable relationships with love that those experiencing them feel fit under loveweird.

You can be a loveweird aro, a loveweird ace, a loveweird apl, or not aspec at all and still use loveweird to describe yourself!

I hope this term helps others as it's helped us!

#loveweird #aromantic #asexual #aplatonic #aro #ace #apl #aspec #dizzy aro is dizzy

Pretty 7u7 #loveme #ilovemyself #justme💋 #loveweird #selfie #snowselfie

#ilovemyself #selfie #snowselfie #loveweird #loveme #justme💋

Area 66! I can't wait until they open this place up for people to go inside. For now, a free bag of jerky for checking in on Yelp and fun pics is worth it. Probably needed to redo the photo of me holding the orb but it's 109 degrees... #roadtrippin #loveweird #adventure (at Yucca, Arizona)

#roadtrippin #loveweird #adventure