#lovequeer

[bugstabu]

Happy Pride Month! Today i offer you: aspec knights. Choose your fighter.

I also had idea for anattractional monarch but i never finished it

[i-suggest-aro]

the things alloromantics consider "more than platonic" never cease to baffle me. cuddling? sleeping next to each other? petting each others' hair? kissing? telling each other how much you mean to each other? why WOULDN'T you do these things with your friends. why DO you need to be romantically attracted to someone in order to express your affection for them.

i guess all these things feel obviously platonic to me, because i've had my friends since we were all mentally ill autistic teenagers, but it feels absurd that some people think anything beyond a hug is automatically romantic. acts of affection and their intentions are defined by the people involved, nobody else. and frankly, some of you don't know how wonderful it is, to be a sleepy aromantic embraced on all sides by a group of people you'd trust your life with.

[tbalderdash-art-blog]

Went from "I need to draw a stock dove, I haven't got one yet" to "that collared dove photo looks so fluffy I can't not draw it" to "the sketch for the branches looks a bit like comic panel borders" to spending hours on the background. Saw some Pigeon Displays of Affection last Saturday at the market so I'm on a Dove is Dove kick.

This piece is focused on aspecs that love in different ways to societal norms, but please note that loveless people are an important part of the community and do not deserve to be ostracised and alienated. I just love bird puns. I may have a "Dove is dove: loveless edition" piece coming at some point

Note: if your microlabel flag isn't on here, that doesn't make you any less valid a member of the aspec community

[aro-absol]

You know what I like so much about the aromantic community?

We have so many concepts that the average alloromantic person has never heard of. Concepts that make it so much easier to explain our experiences, desires and struggles to other people. They make it so much easier to exist as an aromantic person in this world. Of course, every aromantic person can decide whether they find these concepts helpful and applicable to their experiences. But I find it amazing how many cool concepts the aromantic community either came up with or took pre-existing concepts and made them our aromantic 101. I don't think the allos really get how being aromantic can fundamentally change your worldview. And to be honest, I think they're missing out because I think everyone would benefit from at least being familiar with those concepts.

Being aromantic is basically like this:

Aromantic shrimp colours are real.

Anyways, aromantic community, y'all mean a lot to me and I'm so happy I found y'all and now share your "secret" knowledge!

[aromantic-flag-survey]

Hello aros of tumblr!

If you happen to be aro and ace, you may have seen a new ace flag floating around. It look something like this:

NOTE: I had to significantly desaturate it to make this post accessible to photosensitive people! The original colours are very different but this is the general order of the stripes.

This was made by Instagram Black ace activist _aceingrace_ (see their profile here). The yellow stripe specifically stands for intersectionality and multiculturalism (plus joy), something that I think would be a nice addition to the aromantic flag (or any flag that doesn't have that, for that matter).

If you're wondering what was wrong with the original flag, it's the white stripe, which stood for "allosexual partners and allies", something that didn't sit right with many aces for obvious reasons.

Update: it seems that was not the case originally! Do check out the link someone kindly provided in the comments. Still, that is the Commonly Understood Meaning of the white stripe, for better or for worse.

Something similar is going on with the white stripe in the aro flag: it's defined as such:

the ‘platonic’ stripe - friendship/platonic and aesthetic attraction/queerplatonic relationships/family, the importance and validity of all non-romantic relationships and feelings and non-romantic forms of love etc.

That doesn't sit right with me as, without any shoutout specifying it's not a universal aro value and experience, it leaves aplatonic and loveless aros estranged from their own flag.

So I've made an attempt at a new aro flag. Here it is:

I wanted it to match the new ace flag so we finally have the same amount of stripes!

It is not meant to replace the original aro flag, but rather be displayed alongside it for those who find it meaningful.

I just need the community's feedback on what meanings to assign to each stripe! Please, if you're aro-spec, take a couple minutes to fill in the form.

If you're an ally please please please spread this around!

Aromantic flag survey

Hello, thank you for checking out this form! This is a survey to assign meanings to a new aromantic flag inspired by Instagram Black ace ac

Tagging some blogs for reach, please ask if you'd like to be removed!

@aromanticofficial @aroworlds @aromantic-official @our-aro-experience @our-arospec-experience @our-aroace-experience @aroallo-culture-is-archive @arospecawarenessweek @aro-polls @aro-and-trans-thoughts @aroaceqoutes @alloaroworlds @aro-culture-is @aroapl @aro-positivity @aro-pride-stuff @loveless-aro-culture-is @lovequeerblog @lovequeers @aspecpplarebeautiful @aspecpolls @a-spec-unity-blog @a-spec-community-issues @a-spec-tacular @aroacesafeplaceforall @our-queer-experience @queer-polls

Thank you!

[delphiniumjoy]

You’ve heard of hopeless romantic? I’m a hopeless platonic

[battle-for-dyke-island]

I’ve never seen this anywhere but here’s my favorite “trope” aka PUT THIS IN YOUR STORIES NOW.

[aiizaph]

Being aroallo and lovequeer and yearning for a life partnership is an agonizing existence because like how do I explain to alloroses that I want a non-romantic, intimate, life partnership that has sex but no it’s not romance despite how much amatonormativity has taught you that such a relationship looks to be romantic at a surface level and also most aroallos only want fwbs and non-committal hookups and while I do nod my head and tip my hat in solidarity I can’t help but feel a sense of dread and loneliness that I’ll never be able to find someone who wants the same kind of relationship I do.