#man card

[arcticdementor]

"So are women issued a woman card? Does such a concept even exist? Men are constantly worried about being “man enough,” yet again women don’t have to sweat it. If they have boobs, they are a woman, whether or not they accomplish anything, whether or not they have kids, whether or not they dress like women, etc.  There is no woman card to issue, because unlike manhood, it’s not something you have to achieve."

—MaiqTheTrue

[markaleb]

@kamorth AND THE OTHER NERDS I LIVE WITH HELPED ME CELEBRATE GETTING MY FIRST DOSE OF TESTOSTERONE AND OFFICIALLY STARTING MY PHYSICAL TRANSITIONING

THIS IS FANTASTIC AND SHOULD BE A THING FOR ANY TRANS PERSON WHO WANTS TO CELEBRATE

[sweetandsavageautistic]

Unpopular Opinion:

When a woman beats a man at something associated with something stereotypically male-dominant, saying that "she took his 'man card'" is sexist.

[joshua-of-lockswood]

So my grandparents mean well and do their best to use my correct name and pronouns. But when I say I like something feminine/dislike something masculine, they say it takes points off my “man card.” And while I know they’re just joking, if I’m not in the right mood, it hurts.

So I decided to make a list.

Things that qualify you for a “man card”

Saying you’re a man (even if it’s only to yourself)

Things that do not take away points

Disliking sports

Liking makeup

Wearing traditionally feminine clothing

Wanting long hair

Whether or not you shave any part of your body

On the other side of things, here’s what’s required to get a “woman card”

Saying you’re a woman (even if it’s only to yourself)

Things that do not take away points

Disliking makeup

Disliking traditionally feminine clothing

Wanting short hair

Keeping any facial hair you have

Whether or not you shave any part of your body

Things that qualify you for a “nonbinary card”

Saying you’re nonbinary (even if it’s only to yourself)

Things that don’t take away points

Liking or disliking makeup

Not looking completely androgynous

Preferring traditionally masculine or feminine clothing

Preferring she/her or he/him pronouns

I know these lists aren’t exhaustive, so feel free to add to them.

The only thing required to get your “gender card” is to say that you are (or aren’t) that gender. The idea of meeting certain requirements to be considered masculine/feminine/androgynous enough to actually be your gender is cissexist bullshit. The idea that not checking off enough boxes on the gender stereotypes list is dangerous and harmful. The idea that you have a “card” that could be taken away if you don’t behave a certain way is telling trans people that you only respect their gender if they fit what you perceive that gender to be.

Don’t let anyone pressure you into being someone you’re not just because you don’t fit what they perceive a man, woman, or nonbinary person should be. You be who you are. You have your card. Only you can decide what it means to be your gender. You have your card, and no one—no one—can take it away from you.

[wisdomfish]

A man ought to live so that everybody knows he is a Christian… and most of all, his family ought to know.

Dwight L. Moody

[lalalipuyofgulg]

Cartoon/shonen anime where "man card revoked" literally means you have no gender until you revoke another person's gender and take it as your own.

The bizarrely powerful student council has been collecting man cards but also refuses to give out woman cards.

[Power level fight]

Don't you know my gender is over 9,000?

[Takes off weighted clothing]

"I drink lemonade in public."

[hopeless-weakness]

2021 Books I’ve Read

20/75

Man Card by Sarina Bowen & Tanya Eby

(Man Hands Book 2)

⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

My February reading challenge, "Enemies to Lovers" book 10

This was maybe the most gentle version of an enemies to lovers I've ever read. We knew, and they knew, the endgame from the beginning. But this one wasn't actually about the enemies to lovers aspect. It almost felt like it was another character. This book had so many other dynamics that mattered. And that's what I enjoyed most about it.

8/10 Romance

9/10 Enemies to Lovers

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