Mike is ashamed to be queer and Will is ashamed to be happy and it explains their entire relationships with queerness and how they have very different relationships to it while still having the same end point their arcs will end at in season 5.
Mike is ashamed to be queer
But he is not ashamed to be happy
Will is not/as ashamed to be queer
But he is ashamed of being happy
And we can see it. Because what Mike consistently forces himself into when he retreats is this: "happy" straightness
But what Will forces himself into when he retreats is this: unhappy queerness
Mike is convincing himself he can be happy straight so he's forcing himself into heterosexuality in an attempt, Will is convincing himself he shouldn't be happy queer so he's forcing himself to grieve a happy ending he hasn't lost.
That Murray-Wheeler line "retreat to the safety of...name? name?" for Mike, we know works for El. But for Will, he retreats to the safety of pain. For many abuse survivors, it's comfortable - familiar. And they were taught because they deserve it, at least they have a right to it.
We don't see Mike cry as much about his queerness so far for this reason. Mike is forcing happiness into straightness. Will is forcing happiness out of queerness. But both are actually resisting the same amount. Both's base states are happiness in queerness, if they allow themselves it.
That's why their season 5 arc goals are the same, but their journeys are different - as they have been for the whole show. Mike needs to learn he has a right to be queer as the source of his happiness, Will needs to learn he has a right be happy as a result of his queerness.
This was just an analysis post but I also think that's what Vecna would use against him. We've covered before the idea of if Vecna went after Mike taunting him with the reminder that he is queer.
But with Will it's that he wants happiness. "How dare you be happy at the idea of taking something from El, how dare you take up space when your queerness already takes up too much, how dare you want more when you are already too much, your loved ones are burdened by how much they give to protect you, and now you want to take more?"










