In Avatoar they say Eywa keeps balance so
Grace was taken and Kiri was given
Lo'ak was given a spirit brother in return the sea took his real brother/Natayam.
The sea took Ronal and gave them Prill
Spider died from a lack of oxygen or almost died in return Eywa gave him the ability to breathe the air of the world he grew up in
Literally Spider did nothing exept be a kid.
This is actually an amazing set of comparisons and I really hope people see this post because I think that's important. Neytiri says as much to Jake in the very first movie
She is the balance, she does everything she can to keep the world of Pandora together, she may have not been the reason these things happened, and she might not have been able to fix what was broken. But she was keeping a balance
And you are right. Spider was just another person moving with the will of Eywa. And a lot of people just want to blame him for everything because it makes them seem better because "look at me I'm blaming the white person and using big words like colonizer" when really, they are missing what he is in this narrative.
