Is distance too much of a problem with my relationships?
okay well uhm! this is a yes or no question but i think i'm just gonna do a mirror spread
mirror spreads are good for figuring out relationships or us/them dynamics from both sides!
so, for position 1, which represents the querent (you) - page of swords. the page of swords is a card associated with mental agility and powerful cognition, and most of all honesty. there's a freshness and a braveness to this card. it suggests that yr entering this situation from a perspective of integrity and boldness, but u should be careful not 2 let that get in the way of being tactful and keeping emotions in mind!
position 2 represents how you view the other person in the relationship (bc u just said "relationships" plural, i drew these cards as neutrally as possible - idk if this means one specific person, or all yr relationships in general). for this one we have the six of swords. the six of swords is about a journey or movement away from difficulties - not necessarily fleeing responsibilities or escapism, tho? more like, uhm. like sth bad has already happened, or sth is already difficult to deal w, and six of swords isn't rlly about running from that so much as it's about dealing w the aftermath by removing yrself from it. i'm leaning more towards thinking this means u see yr relationship as an escape from difficult things, not that the relationships are difficult things u want 2 escape from, but that's just a vibe i'm getting.
position 3 is the way they see themselves, and the spot is taken this time by the eight of cups. the eight of cups is about making changes, usually focused on taking care of oneself - disengaging from things that are unproductive or harmful and focusing instead on finding mental, spiritual, and emotional answers.
position 4 is what the person/people represent 2 u, and it's the ace of swords. the ace of swords is p firmly a card about like? clearing away miscommunications, lies, and bullshit to get to the truth. the card being in this position could mean that u see yr relationship(s) as sth that does that for u? like, that u feel like day to day u face a lot of bullshit, but not when yr w the ppl u were thinking of when u asked this ... it could also mean that u rely on whoever u were thinking of to cut through yr OWN bullshit and help u be honest and direct, both w yrself and w others.
position 5 is what u represent to them, and the tower was pulled. uhm, ppl often think of the tower as a really bad card? it's true that the tower primarily represents catastrophe and destruction but like ... i think in this position, and in the context of the other cards, it's probably not meant to be read as badly as it sometimes is when included in a spread. i think this just means that the ppl yr thinking of can see a sort of like...potential for destruction in u? it could be that they're worried about self-destructive habits u may have, or that they're worried that the choices u make could lead to catastrophes that u yrself aren't anticipating or thinking about. i don't think it necessarily means they think of u as a catastrophic/destructive force in relation to them.
position 6 is about obstacles 2 the relationship, and the card is the page of pentacles. the page of pentacles is a v stable, solid, practical card, but when viewed as an obstacle it can be about stagnation and boredom. yr relationship is stable, and nothing is rlly WRONG, but the problem is that too much logic and practicality can end up being damaging 2 the life and vitality of the relationship!
position 7 is about strengths of the relationship, and the card pulled is judgement. i'm taking this to mean that yr relationship(s) is/are fair and balanced, with no unbalanced power dynamics threatening their health. you make decisions together, talk about things fairly, and usually don't have a problem making decisive changes that work for everyone involved.
finally, position 8 is a probable result card. the card drawn is the ten of pentacles. ten of pentacles is a really good card! it's about success, security, and affluence - usually ppl think of that in a financial sense, but in the context of everything else i'm taking it to mean a wealth of healthy, happy relationships and love.
basically, there are things to work through for sure. i think the card that concerns me most is the eight of cups in position 3 - it's very possible that that card means that whoever yr thinking of is considering turning away from u bc some nature of yr relationship isn't working for them. combined w the tower coming up in their perception of u, i don't think it means u've done anything to hurt them so much as a feeling that they might not be able 2 deal w u doing other things that, while they don't directly affect them, are worrisome.
but! none of this seemed to reference distance or abandonment specifically, so i think the answer 2 yr actual question is no. but i hope this spread helps u pinpoint other things that u can work on!
