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NAC

Can I just say so far you're the only confession/vent blog I've come across that ACTUALLY stays neutral? I've recently blocked one who claimed to be neutral, but will make exceptions whenever they feel like it.

Thank you. There are of course plenty of takes I disagree with, but they still get posted all the same. I try very hard not to tip my hand in any direction. Sometimes it can be a bit stressful, but I try to keep in mind that I'm just the messenger.

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11717:

as a survivor of incestual abuse, you're a fucking clown.

incest shippers have been nothing but kind and supportive to me, meanwhile antis have:

suicide baited me

accused me of lying about my trauma and abuse

told me that i must have secretely enjoyed my abuse

told me they hope my abuser escapes from jail and finds me

sent me lengthy messages about how i encouraged my abuser to do what he did because i "fetishize incest" and thus deserve what happened

told me that i should fire my therapist because theyre "encouraging me to retraumatize myself" by supporting the fact that i use fiction to cope

Posting as a response to a previous problem.

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https://www.tumblr.com/damnfandomproblems/803403625552609280/httpswwwtumblrcomdamnfandomproblems803388346?source=share

Weird people logic. Basically what I have noticed:

- If the ship is m/m, you are apparently sexist because it doesn't include a woman and are centering men.

- If the ship is f/m, your sexist because it includes a man and is therefore, apparently, male centric.

- If the ship is f/f, you are also sexist, because one of them is clearly manlyer than the other.

I am unfortunately not making this up. Of other people have other examples, please let us know.

But I obviously don't agree with this, just ship and let ship and block the weirdos.

Posting as a response to a previous ask.

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For all the times we keep telling submitters to just block the tags for the things they don't like, here's a quick guide. Notice how you can also filter words within the post in addition to the tags. Use both.

Posting as is, in case anyone finds the information helpful.

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it feels like theres a lot more people on this blog seemingly purposefully reading things as hateful and getting mad at that then there used to be.

I agree.

For a while I've been thinking of stopping posting responses altogether and just let people hash things out through the comments and reblogs. I did want to provide an avenue for people who wanted to respond anonymously but I'm not sure it's really worth it anymore.

I thought this blog would be sort of a containment zone for toxicity but I'm worried it's become more of a breeding ground for it. I don't really know what to do here anymore.

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Not directed at any specific submissions or responses, but it does feel like the the overall tone of things has gotten a lot more aggressive as time goes on.

Could be my imagination though.

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10747;

It's probably just me, but as a woman, I find the constant insistence that "women are amazing" and "women can do no wrong" to be…creepy. It's like they're overcompensating for something. Like when a male feminist insists that all women are goddesses, only to be charged with sexual assault. Or how antis who scream about child porn are then later charged with having CP on their phone/computer. It just makes me so uncomfortable whenever I see those posts, especially when it's in regard to someone actively terrible and abusive. I mean, there's encouragement, and then there is the insistent need to be seen as super supportive. I only find few of said posts inspiring. Others leave a bad taste in my mouth due to how obsessed they are at being seen as virtuous. You get the distinct feeling that they don't actually care about women. They just want to be seen as caring about women.

Posting as a response to a previous problem.