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Is it just me, or did certain users stop swnding responses to posts ever since you implemented the new responses to other posts system?
Maybe, I'm not sure. I do think it's cut down on the amount of unnecessary back-and-forth. I think a log of repetitive back-and-forth replies were motivated by a "last one to get a word in wins" sort of mindset, and it's gotten far less tempting when people aren't being reminded of it. You can continue, but if most people aren't gonna bother looking past a day or two, is it worth it really?
People might not like this but I actually think this is a fair and reasonable take tbh. I don't think liking HP makes you a transphobe, but *shrug* you gotta accept that you can't make everyone be okay with it, some people just aren't gonna want to be your friend about it.
Reply 2 - Anon
I usually sray out of the Harry Potter shitshow but by god this confession is annoying. Yes it does hurt people. You are purposefully ostracizing people based on content they like. Curating you're own fandom experience means blocking people you'd prefer not to interact with, and it's perfectly fine. Calling someone a transphobe or any other kind of bigot is not. You are sounding the alarm on someone, which will make others not want to interact with them. For what reason? They like a some story about a wizard? Always amazed how HP seems to be the exception for everything. I enjoy media made by shit people all the time but no one says shit cause hey, we acknowledge that we don't support the shit person's personal beliefs.
Reply 3 - Anon
It's kinda hilarious that OP admitted to being the OP to say they don't support harassment, only to then immediately claim that all HP fans are transphobes and they should just stop "overreacting" to the fact that they're being accused of bigotry for their taste in literature.
Like, do you even read what you wrote before hitting "send"?
Blocked.
Reply 4 - Anon
The post: Some people won't trust you and won't talk to you. They'll keep their distance from you. "HP fans are transphobes" =/= harassment, that requires a higher bar. Bullying happens, targeted harassment happens, let's condemn that, but these are not the same thing.
The replies: Why are you advocating for harassing and bullying and threatening people. Condenscending piece of shit, leave people alone and stop telling people to kill themselves.
I think we're having two very different conversations here. Like I don't fully agree with this post. Exclusion can be a form of bullying and generalized statements like the above aren't polite. But these are not the same picture as the scenarios being talked about in the replies, wow.
Reply 4A - Anon
Thank you, people here seem to take "dislike" as synonymous with "harassment and death threats" and leap to some pretty wild conclusions. Hard to have any sort of nuanced conversation without people lying down in the road and acting like you pushed them.
Don't like it either, I assume it's sometimes like that so the choice for the romance path isn't so subtle someone is taken by surprise. (probably better ways to do it thought.)
Reply 2 - Anon
OP of #15,910; @/ichbinmeltdown, we gotta figure out how to trade bubbles of the internet, stat-- I frequently want to play submissive/passive characters, and it's very rare for me to find them orz. Anyways, I can't really sort through all of my games (it would take a While), but lately I've been playing a huge amount of twine and, um...geez, I dunno what the system's called, but one of the recent games I've played in that system is called Devil On Your Shoulder; it shhhouldn't be too hard to find others in a similar vein, I hope. YMMV on if seriously text-based games like that are gonna be fun to play or not, but it's what I've been doing, and "having no flirting options besides VERY DIRECTLY" has been a recurring experience for me.
Another game with direct flirting but is much prettier and a little less text-based is I Was A Teenage Exocolonist, which I do recommend in general, it's a fun game.
Meanwhile, the only game I've seen do passivity...at all really is Arcadia Fallen. (Though, for me, it commits the cardinal sin of making you lock in who you like potentially kinda early on and then taking away any option to flirt with anyone else.) Ah, and in regards to otome games, (referencing another comment)...I'm really bad at finding them. qvq It seems the ones I tend to find are ones that want you to lock in to your guy right away.
Though I don't really mind if the other characters are flirty towards me, (very rarely does that get under my skin), it's when a game gives me no option to flirt but to go up to the character and loudly declare how hot they are or otherwise be very blunt and blatant about their feelings.
(…Also I'm really happy to see I'm not the only one with issues with this style of writing/it's not specific to me being aroace. me 🤝 you guys
Genuinely, I'd be happier if everyone could find a decent amount of their flavor of video game without having to dig for it…)
Good luck, your site is going to get 0 traffic unless you link to it on a centralized social media site, and good luck paying for the domain name and server space every month.
Ship what you want and all that good stuff, but when someone says they ship A x C rather than A x B -- which is fine -- but then they transplant B's entire personality, backstory, likes, dislikes, passions, skills, style, etc onto C it's kind of like, ???
Yes, it is important to re-educate people about misconceptions regarding how wolf packs work.
But maybe omegaverse fanfiction and wolfshifter romantasy novels aren't exactly the right place for that. Believe me, most people aren't reading them for their realism.
I love shipping and AUs and blorboposting and silly meme fan art too so I don't mean to sound like the fun police but sometimes I'm a little perturbed by how resistant fandomgoers can be about analyzing and engaging with media on its own terms instead of re-shaping it into something they like better.
Having an unpopular or "de-canoned" rarepair is one thing. I have at least one in every fandom I'm in. But ANOTHER thing to whine in your NOTP's tags about how much you think it sucks, its shippers suck, and how your rarepair was "SO much better" and "more canon" like some some kind of pathetic cope. ANOTHER thing to make a million ship polls to prove this is all true and crash out at the result each time. You're just showing everyone in the fandom why it's so unpopular in the first place!
When you want to look up goodtimewithscar content on YouTube, but you're so used to only see "Scar" in the titles you also write "Scar" in the search bar,
Only to get very unsavory and graphic physical scars videos...
Ngl, a lot of Harry Potter fans need to learn that someone not liking or trusting you due to your fandom doesn't materially hurt you in any way. And it's not their responsibility to make sure you feel accepted and guilt-free for engaging with HP, nor is anyone obligated to accept you into their social circles. We can talk and condemn specific individual cases of harassment when they happen, but things like seeing someone say "HP fans are transphobes" or being socially ostracized from a few small corners of the internet are not in of themselves harassment. They're other ppl making statements of opinion and curating their social circles.
When people think character development equals a complete personality change, or the character "didn't really develop" or "reverted back".
Begging people to take lit courses. Cause that's not how character development works. In fact, most of the time it should NOT be a complete personality change!
I'm starting to think more websites should ban modern politics of any sort. I'm sick of them infiltrating literally everything, and everyone trying to shove their beliefs down my throat, and argue over what characters would have voted for who.
the same mfs who would go on and on about how mental illnesses don't excuse bad behaviors, then blindly defend a character who was explicitly shown to use his mental illnesses as an excuse to be a piece of shit, are now calling me, a mentally ill person, ableist because i hate him
Every writing-focused blog, forum, subreddit etc. is dominated with people asking, in roundabout ways, "How can I make sure there's no chance that anybody will get mad at me?" and the tough pill to swallow is that there just isn't. You can try to be as inoffensive as possible and someone somewhere is still gonna be mad. You're just gonna have to write.
