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Essentially, most of my time surrounded by straight people growing up consisted of hiding that I was queer, because I...
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He came out in school, indeed, but I think mostly to us in this group because we all were/are very supportive in general and homosexuality is a topic that does come up somewhen, and as everybody was either “I don’t give a fuck, like why would I care??? If I like them I like them, if they’re a dick they’re a dick, I don’t care who they fuck or kiss or marry???” or ranging from “I am in support of it; I think everybody should have the same rights and there is nothing wrong with anybody for loving someone else (as long as it’s consensual and legal [as in don’t bloody touch children])” to “I will punch anyone who is homophobic”, he at least could hope that everyone actually meant it, which... we did.
I guess he maybe started befriending people because that’s just what happens, but then felt comfortable enough to stick around and eventually come out because he felt like he could be safe with(in) this group of people?
It makes sense to gravitate towards people who are similar - whatever this similarity entails. And in case of being part of the LGBTA community, it’s also about personal safety. So, it surely is safer in a group with more people who aren’t straight and maybe also experienced queer-phobic hate and abuse. So that makes sense.
So, basically, it’s as I assumed/wondered in the second paragraph: It’s very well possible that there’s few queer people in a mostly straight group and not THAT off, but it indeed wouldn’t be the standard for the queer people involved as they would probably mostly surround themselves with other queer people.
