#nanigrapeseed

[forevrdreamingofbetterthings]

Hi! i'm a-spec and i've never seen a view on the SAM such as yours. So if i'm understanding correctly, it's like changing the idea of asexuality so that the default definition should be "attracted to no one," while the more common definition, "sexually attracted to no one," would be understood only in the presence of a given romantic orientation? i sort of like it, as someone who has always felt that there should be a word for aroace people. but i'm not really sure how practical it is. (1/?)

like, right now the ace and aro communities agree that they are separate and that asexual by definition refers only to sexual attraction. i don't think there's really a way to change that. either way we're in a crappy situation, because either aroace people are assumed to be "just ace," or alloro ace people are assumed to be aroace. i feel like there just needs to be a different word for /something/ but i just don't know how this issue could be diverted ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ (2/2)

Yep, I feel like we’re in a no-win situation and it’s been constructed for us by the aphobes. They have used the Oppression Olympics that they’ve run, played in, and judged themselves; and now there’s nothing we can do without being fucked over. 

And yeah you’re so right, if my argument regarding the SAM is to work (bc I think I’m right, this is how the SAM should work), then the default assumption about someone that IDs as asexual should be that we’re attracted to no one (neither romantic nor sexual attraction). And then by using the SAM and the a-spectrums, we would be able to explain any specifics wrt romantic/sexual attraction as they apply. 

And I totally see your criticism that this may not be practical, and I dunno, you may have a point but I’m also optimistic it could totally work. I’m all for creative solutions and it might be as simple as folding the SAM into the definition of asexual/aromantic so that when you get one, you get the other? 

Thoughts? :)

[noahcznerys]

@nanigrapeseed I guess it doesn't work for comments But(TM) on(TM) posts(TM) it(TM) does(TM)

[brokebackmountainn]

nanigrapeseed replied to your post: oh! also!! i applied to college last night and i...

good luck!! ��

thank you so much!! i still have like seven more to apply to (i’m applying to ten bc anxiety) so hopefully i get into the ones i want to!!

[brokebackmountainn]

nanigrapeseed replied to your post:aaah what do i do i’m being asked if i want to be...

my brother is in the same situation and he is going to room with his friends even though they’re girls- better than rooming with a bunch of dudes that you never hang out with

thanks for the advice! i decided to do that too, i’d rather have fun with my friends than feel isolated for a week 

[andreil69-moved]

nanigrapeseed replied to your post: “i just fucking looked it up youre supposed to pronounce aaron like...”:

There's also a feminine version of the name that is pronounced exactly the same except it's spelled 'Erin'

OH yea that clarifies things even better god what a messy name

[coldsaturn]

so i read about neil dying at the hands of nathan or at the hands of riko (and both would have destroyed me) but what do you think would have happened if neil's uncle did come, but just a few minutes later, after nathan would have had neil crippled? (when I first read it i was almost less afraid of him dying and more afraid that he'd never play exy again)

you mean THIS? (never trust this fandom; whichever hell you conjure up, we’ve already dealt with it)

[adhdronanlynch-archived]

I don't have a question but i just want to tell you that your blog is amazing and i wish I would've followed you sooner. honestly idk why you're losing followers you don't deserve this (i kno this should be fan mail but im doing this so you can post this for all the haters to see) also!!! i read some of your stuff before i even followed you / knew it was yours and i really like your style and your characterization, especially of the blue/adam dynamic

wow this message is?? so nice??? thank you ??? this is really kind of you thank you so much, i appreciate the compliment muchly esp on the writing 

i’m not necessarily as salty about the followers as i sound because i know logically it’s possible some or even maybe most of them are leaving because they’re not interested in TRC, or just don’t like too much text... but yeah, idk, it’s hard to ignore the timing and also the fact that certain content is largely ignored. BUT either way i’m super appreciative of ur kind words, thank u (:

[sourwolfsam]

When you get this ask, list 5 things that make you happy and pass this on to the last 10 people who reblogged or liked something on your blog. Have fun with it! :)

This is gorgeous I love it okay!

My friends make me happy. Sounds cliche, but I have the most incredible best friend, a beautiful girlfriend and so many amazing people who I cherish with all my heart. So they make me happy every day.

Writing because I live my life in narrative. I don’t see things, I think about how they belong on a page. Writing helps me make sense of things, and it makes me very happy 

Being outside because I have a pathological fear of being trapped and knowing that I could run for days and never have to stop is very comforting to me

Waking up early because I like watching the world sleep

Narwhales because they have those little unicorn horns on their heads. Like lost unicorns that went ‘oh well, we’ll rock out in the sea cool’