#neglectful

[amioverreactingofficial]

AIO I told my bf he’s neglectful.

We have a 7 month old and 2 other kids. I told him he is not providing or being present. I have no income and it’s been difficult to find employment. He wants me to cook, clean and just be a mom (housewife). I feel exhausted and he says he provides financially. Although he monitors what I buy and it’s mostly household items/food and occasional clothing. When he is home he only speaks to know if food is ready. Other than that he is off on his phone. I do not know how to voice my concerns because when I do. I’m told I’m acting like a victim

Reddit consensus: NOT OVERREACTING (NOR) (100% confidence)

Top comment: “NOR - You are acting like a victim because you are a victim. What you are a victim of is called financial abuse, it's targeted and intentional so that you don't have the means to do anything for yourself (and so that you cannot leave when you get sick of his bullshit).”

Notable comment: “NOR but it seems like you've got a pretty dispate set of expectations between the two of you. Do you want to be a stay at home mom? Does he interact with the kids at all? Does he do any chores? Working 40 hours a week is much less labor than 24/7 childcare and housekeeping, it's completely reasonable to expect him to contribute to the house outside of just finances”

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Originally shared by ShortPenalty1112 on r/AmIOverreacting on June 4th, 2026 at 1:40 AM UTC. Credit to u/LadyMarzanna and u/Bittsandpieces for the quoted comments.

[musical-sappho]

I think im gonna die in this house

[raemeh]

what is it with me and giving my dnd characters some sort of mommy issues

[juliyxanne]

“i’m looking for myself in you” i would say to my father if i could

“there must be some of me in you” he would say, not understanding what i meant. he never understood what i meant. we never spoke about things that needed to be understood. we never spoke.

“no. i’m trying to understand how you could be my father at all” i would respond.

“i’m looking for myself in you to prove that you existed. you were a shadow my whole life. the back on a car seat headrest. a rough voice that made me recoil back into my room until you left. grocery trips to fred’s. a never ending string of disappointment from your mother. remarks laced with animosity from your sisters. silent but blaringly obvious indifference from their father.

he would sit there, unresponsive.

“they see you in me.”

[tonenoth]

sleepless to the sound of rain

[sad-boy-hank]

GOD WAIT I JUST FUCKIBG REMEMBERED THE GRUNT!READER SERIES HSBSVSGSDF-

the Neglectful talkin to the human crew ab how cool the grunts are and how nice they are ab helping them out n stuff and the human crew's all like ?? what do you mean they don't actively fight you at any given moment?

Neglectful: ,, I mean. they do /sometimes/ but they never hurt me on purpose??? H!Crew: what? this is bullshit! we [starts listening everything they do "for" grunt!reader in detail and then the Neglectful just starts Sweating bc what the fuck???]

NDHEWNSXHBXHDBS LMAO-----

H! Hank: We take their paws in the winter so we can hold 'em without a fight.

Neglectful: y. you can take their paws?

[aniela-44]

I did not know that #mothers are bad and #neglectful mothers if they do more and beyond their own abilities and Socil only #screams that there is not enough and the lawyer scares that "If I don't do what she wants, the judge will not give the child back to me." ??? In a court case, the #attraction to #cash is more important than the child's and #mother's, #health, etc. What #materialism do #simple People wake UP in the #UK have? They forgot to be #normal through #work or what? (at England's Lane, Primrose Hill) https://www.instagram.com/p/CEzu98Sjq35/?igshid=g9bxf786dpjj