to Be Kinder to People Who Have Hurt You
When someone hurts you, it’s hard to find the reason to be kinder to them. Sometimes people say and do things that hurt us deeply and most of us try to hurt them in return, but that’s a huge mistake. Being rude or vengeful will make you feel worse and can even cause you lots of problems. No matter how painful your situation might be, it’s important to be nice and kind to others. Allah has commanded the believers in several verses to repel evil with good by being patient, merciful, and forgiving when confronted with mistreatment. Do not give harm in return for harm, and follow the right way and take the right means to attain a right goal. This is a basic principle of Islamic conduct and of preaching Islam. In addition, a muslim individual is expected to forgive what has been done to him or her individually, and to respond with what is the best in conduct.
It shows what a good person you are. While you don’t have to prove anything to anyone, being kinder to people who’ve hurt you will prove what a wonderful and intelligent person you are. People around you will perceive you as a smart and strong person who knows what to do in a difficult situation. Many of us can’t find the right acts to do to the people who’ve hurt us. Try to be kinder to people around you, even if they’ve hurt you many times, and inspire others to do the same.
It softens your attitude towards them. Another reason to be kinder to someone who’s hurt you is because it can soften your attitude toward them. Sure, you can respond to them as mercilessly as they’ve been to you, but this will only make a bad situation worse. Being kinder to them is a smart way to respond to them. This way, you’ll feel less hatred toward them. I always pity someone who’s hurt me for being such a miserable and hateful person.
You won’t feel miserable and guilty. If you’re kind to people who have hurt you, you will have nothing to feel guilty about. Being rude in return means that you might feel down about two things. You might feel miserable because they’ve hurt you and you might feel guilty because you was rude to them. The best way to respond to unkindness is to smile and be kind to those who have hurt you.
Kill them with kindness. Ahaha, I got you Selena! It’s always a good idea to kill people who’ve hurt you with kindness than hurt them in return. Maybe your kindness will make them admit their mistake and apologize. Even if they won’t admit their mistake, your kindness will simply drive them crazy and they will leave you alone. Avoid communicating with them, instead surround yourself with kind and positive people who make you happy.
It’ll change their rude behavior towards you. Being kinder to people who have hurt you could change their rude behavior towards you. Your kindness might make them reconsider their actions. It’s hard to change someone’s behavior towards you, but you need to at least try. My kindness made many people who had hurt me sorry for their rude behavior towards me. This is a good reason for me to be kinder to rude people and those who’ve hurt me.
“And not equal are the good deed and the bad. Repel [evil] by that [deed] which is better; and thereupon the one whom between you and him is enmity [will become] as though he was a devoted friend.” Fussilat:34.