#nomoreabuse

[asraspeaks2]

Financial independence is so important. I cannot stress that enough. I'm in a Muslim women's group in FB and the #1 post is from women with shitty husbands and in-laws. Their posts are filled with how their husbands and in-laws constantly are threatening, abusing, and generally degrading them. Often this abuse is happening in front of children.

I had to deal with a lot of this shit when I was married. Once I got possession of my first home, I had some peace. But once I bought my first brand new home, the peace felt was astounding. I finally had a space for me and my sons that had no bad history or vibes. February will mark the 2nd anniversary of my closing. ❤️ 💙 💜

Having control of my finances and being able to keep everything I earn is a true blessing. I will never be able to co-own a home or bank accounts with anyone ever again.

[asraspeaks-blog]

Watch out for the red flags. Also listen to your gut. It's protecting you.

[christina-prokos]

I N N E R C H I L D How could the people who say they love you hurt you? When will we not be ok with abuse anymore? When will we get to the point of walking away before we are broken? How will you ever know what you are worthy of if you keep staying and having your boundaries violated? It only takes one experience to see someone's ugly truth. Walk away if it causes you to feel unsafe. The "im sorry", "please forgive" me or even the silent treatment until the air settles does not make anything better. Addicts will always be addicts when they don't take responsibility for their behaviour. Walk away, even if it means never speaking to them again. Walk away and find people who will cherish you. Love you unconditionally and not tolerate abuse. You are worthy of more. You are capable of more. Don't let the abuse of many years, of tears, heart break and shock bring you down and leave you in despair. You are worthy of love. Don't let them tell you otherwise. #innerchild #healingtheinnerchild #youareloved #youarebeautiful #worthy #spirituality #calm #letgo #nomoreabuse #healingthesoul #healingtheheart #itsoktobetired #walkaway #youdeservethebest #innerchildwork

[asraspeaks2]

This. Joss Whedon is a pig, but the actors, writers, and stunt people deserve to be recognized for their amazing work.

[asraspeaks2]

Single parenting was/is way easier than parenting with the Asshole. We don't even co-parent anymore since my younger son is old enough to make decisions. So I have a lot more time to pursue my career and personal goals.

This past year alone I have gotten close to 50 grand in grants for a variety of projects. Projects I would never have been able to pursue if I was married to the Asshole. I have forged amazing relationships with friends (new and old) and have discovered I have a strength that can't be crushed.

This Summer is going to be especially lucrative since I got a Summer Research award to focus on my projects. It's a 5 figure amount that I can use towards a new car. If I had been married to the Asshole, they money would have been spent before it even hit the bank account.

And I'm going up for promotion. Soooo yah!

There something glorious about being able to earn and save without the stress of dealing with financial abuse.

Alhammdulillah.

[asraspeaks2]

Muslim doods always remember the "Islam allows 4 wives" rule, but never how to treat women with dignty, love, compassion, and righteousness.

Met a POS on a Muslim dating app and he initially seemed interesting until he told me he was married, but unhappy. The unhappy part means nothing to me. He's married so I said I wasn't interested.

Dood freaked out and started sending me crazy texts messages about how it was his right to marry 4 women. I told it was his right, but I didn't have to agree with it. I'm simply not interested. He wouldn't take no for an answer and started texting swears and saying he would never marry me. It was nuts. I only spoke to the guy once.

I blocked him, but the incident was really bothersome. Idk where these doods get the entitlement from. You can force people to do your bidding. Go marry your 4 wives. Leave me out of it.

[asraspeaks2]

[asraspeaks2]

I hope it all burns to the ground.

Rest in power.