something that truly destroys you from the inside out when hanging out near ANY space for fingendered people -- girls, nixera/juxera girls, demigirls, g?rls, girlthings, girlfailures, boygirls, dudegirls; cis or trans or iso or tris -- is that there is absolutely no space or thought towards the masculine[-inized] / otherwise gender non-conforming girl.
you do not get to share your experiences without fear of public shaming, let alone be there in peace because people are inherently so disgusted by your existence there. whether it is because youre hairy, because youre intersex with visible masculine traits, present masculinely or are somehow perceivable as masculine -- you are not given any grace or thought at all, you arent even an afterthought for most people. when people mention women, they think of you as a separate subcategory of woman that simply cant, wont belong
when most people think of women, they think of slim cute girls in skinny jeans with smooth skin and perfect figures. they do not think of the fat butches, or the hairy studs, or the intersex girl who is both of these things at once, or the intersex girl who doesn't have ovaries, or the intersex girl with ovotestes, or the intersex girl non-'XX' chromosomes, or the girl who has "masculine interests", or the girl who does sports... i could go on forever; there is a predominant lack of space and thought put up for girls who dont conform into a barbie-doll
and this is not equivalently true for feminine men, because when you look around, there's tons and tons of activists shouting that men can use makeup, men can be effeminate, men can wear pink, men can wear dresses/skirts... i dont disagree with ANY of these points, but where is that same energy for masculine girls? i genuinely don't see it. that's because a effeminate man is easier for society to capitalize on/utilize for pleasure than a hairy, masculine, nonconforming woman.
we are either a obscure fetish for few people, or we are not there at all. we are given nothing, crumbs being a lucky draw. in society, we are treated as less than objects for not being digestible. in queer spaces, we are treated as "predatory" or "broken" by transphobic LGBs. in women's spaces, we are shamed beyond what my own words can convey. where do we go? where do we belong? what community does the hairy lady have? and, how long will we not have one? if even the self proclaimed feminists cannot care about us beyond using us as a political gotcha argument, who will save us? ourselves, yes-- but beyond that, there is a distinct lack of interest.
today, say you love a friend who is a hairy girl. say you appreciate the muscular/fat stud or butch or masc near you. tell a trans girl that you see her. show a nonbinary girl she makes a difference in your life. prove to a gnc girl that she is worthy. don't wait around for her spirit to succumb to the tides; don't wait around for her to ask for these things. dont wait for her to die to let these kind feelings overtake you. say it now
