#notyourlonewolf

[mistavybe]

Bubble Bath and Crushed Velvet.

bubble bath: do you have any routines before bedtime? like skin care, etc. what are they?

I don’t really have any set routine… Brushing teeth might be the only constant tbh. I prefer to shower and do my skin care regimen etc in the morning as opposed to at night because showers make me more awake and i’m enough of an insomniac as is 🤷🏾‍♂️. So I guess my routine is basically turn on the AC, brush teeth, turn off all the lights, get in bed, hopefully sleep lol.

crushed velvet: have you ever used your charm to get something you want?

I don’t honestly think of myself as particularly charming IRL… I guess I try to be “nice” to ppl when i’m requesting something or asking a favour (which is really rare because I hate asking ppl for anything or relying on anything). Mostly i’m just authentically myself and let the chips fall where they may.

Sorry if that’s boring… the truth is i’m mostly a boring homebody of a guy lol. 😳

Thanks so much for the question @notyourlonewolf! *hugs*

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[mistavybe]

I was tagged by @notyourlonewolf, so I filled this out.

Marriages…………………. 0 

Divorces……………………. 0 

Proposals…………………. 1 

Children……………………. 2 

Pets right now……….. 0 

Surgeries………………… 1 

Tattoos……………………. 0 

Piercings…. ………………2 

Shot a gun……………….. Yes 

Quit a job…………………. Yes 

Ever been on TV………….. Yes 

Been to an island……….. Yes (Aside from living in Trinidad where I was born and raised, I’ve visited pretty much all the Caribbean islands. Many of them on multiple occasions.) 

Flown on a plane……….. Yes 

Furthest destination traveled…. Alaska is the furthest away I’ve been from my home country (8,849 km). But it should be noted that the Alaska trip happened as part of a particular cruise route (starting and ending in Maryland, USA), during the six months I worked on a cruise ship circa 2002. The furthest trip i’ve ever made in one straight journey (8,023 km) was flying to Berlin, Germany (by way of London, England and then Frankfurt, Germany).

100 mph in a car………… Yes 

120 mph in a car…….. Yes 

140 mph in a car……….Yes 

Hit a deer…………………. No (I did however hit a stray dog once - caught off guard when it ran in front of my car at like 2am one night on the way to a studio session) 

Someone cried over you…….. Yes

Fallen in love……………. Yes

Watched someone give birth….. Yes

Watched someone die……. Yes

Been to Canada……………… Yes (Again, multiple times. Amazingly - despite never living in Canada - I’ve somehow been to Toronto, Niagara Falls, Scarborough, Markham, Ajax, Pickering, Yorkville, Brampton, Mississauga, Vaughan, Windsor, Edmonton, Ottowa, Nova Scotia, Calgary, and Quebec. 😐) 

Ridden in an ambulance…… No (I did call an ambulance to my house twice in the last couple weeks before my dad passed though)

Visited Las Vegas……………. No. I have visited various parts of Florida (Orlando, Miami, Ft. Lauderdale) and NY (Brooklyn, Bronx, Queens, Manhattan, Long Island, Buffalo), as well as Newark (NJ), Washington D.C., Boston (MA), Atlanta (GA), Houston & Dallas (TX), North Carolina, South Carolina, Virginia Beach (VA), Maryland, Portland (Maine), Alaska and the U.S. Virgin Islands though. 🤷🏾‍♂️

Sang karaoke…………………. Yes 

Been downhill skiing……….. No 

Been water skiing……………. No 

Ice skating………………..…… No 

Surfing…………. ……………….. No 

Ridden on a motorcycle……. No 

Ridden on a horse……………. Yes 

Almost died……………………Yes 

Been punched……………… Yes 

Ridden in the back of a police car… No


Broken someone’s heart…… Yes


Hit rock bottom………Yes


Joined a traveling puppeteering club……. No


Performed in front of a huge crowd………. Yes


Broken a bone……… No


Made a dream come true………… Yes

I tag @antarcticabysea @julierthanyou @apricotica @soulsistrin @ropeandcoffee @sheeeenabobeeeena @dogwithsharperteeth @bubbles-burst @nabyss @thepinkcornmoon @thejerseyangel @manekou.

[mistavybe]

Is it really possible to ever make a show that's diverse enough to "make everyone happy"? How many different kinds of characters would you have to cast? What would your ideal show/cast be for the ultimate diversity squad?

No one TV show will ever be able to make every single human being happy, but the reality is that the majority of TV (and movies) doesn’t even attempt to be totally for white people by white people…

However, we do have an increasing number of shows that are inclusive (I’ve discovered that I prefer this term to “Diverse”, so I’m trying to use it more).

English TV does inclusion much more effortlessly and believably, IMHO. Maybe because of the slightly different history and current cosmopolitan situation over there?

Shows like Luther, Humans, Class (a Doctor Who spin off) and even the classic fantasy/sci-fi series Merlin are all inclusive in different but interesting ways.

Luther features Idris Elba as an exceptional police detective who solves cases like a bull in a china shop, but never falls into the stereotypical “angry dangerous black man from the ghetto who used to be a thug” trope. And the rest of the cast is beautifully diverse in a believable way for modern Britain.

Class and Merlin both take liberties by writing diverse characters into main roles that are far from stereotypes. 

The male high school football hero and heartthrob in Class is an Indian sikh kid named Raj, who doesn’t speak with an accent or wear a turban, for instance. Also the smartest kid (pretty much genius level) is a Nigerian black girl, and there’s a Prince from another galaxy who’s unreservedly gay and has a Polish earthling boyfriend whose parents don’t approve of his sexuality.

In BBC’s now-classic Merlin series, they cast Lady Guinevere as a beautiful black girl (played flawlessly by actress Angel Coulby). They totally didn’t have to, but they did and it totally works, given Gwen’s literary backstory of being a non-noble that winds up marrying King Arthur and helping him run Camelot.

Several other important members of Arthur’s court (including Gwen’s brother, who becomes the knight Sir Elyan) are from various non-white backgrounds. And people who use magic are treated like minorities as well in that universe, making for a thoughtful metaphor.

On American TV, one of my faves is How To Get Away With murder, which is inclusive in too many ways to count, and yet never ever stereotypical - even aside from the fascinatingly multi-layered lead character, Analiese (a role for which actress Viola Davis has won two Best Actress Emmys and counting).

And of course more and more shows like Black-ish, Fresh Off The Boat, Luke Cage, Timeless, The Get Down, The People Vs OJ Simpson and classics like The Fresh Prince Of Bel Air, Oz, and The Wire show us that inclusion is not only needed and interesting, but lots of people actually enjoy watching it - so everybody wins!

TV - like all art - is subjective so it’s hard for one show to be everything to all people. Nor should one show try to be that, tbh.

It’s just nice when a show at least makes an attempt to not be exclusive or just plain old racist.

Thanks so much for the question @notyourlonewolf! I really enjoyed figuring out the answer as I wrote. Stay beautiful! 😘

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notyourlonewolf replied to your post: lamapalooza: we’re all just trying to bust a nut...

You should see my video

Which video is that??

[seuqram]

You live a long way from me. So it would be a hell of a commute. Call me next time so we can arrange this out!

[mistavybe]

@notyourlonewolf replied to your post “You always have thoughtful commentary on issues surrounding racism and...”

Thanks for such a thorough reply!

My pleasure! 😘 You’re very welcome. Feel free to ask more of those excellent questions! 😉