what's ilkhabar's relationship with the targs and her family
KING VISERYS I TARGARYEN
ilkhabar wasn't particularly close with her father-in-law but she finds him pleasant and humorous to speak to. however with his ailing health, he was often kept on strong herbs and painkillers and he would forget the names of those around him, including ilkhabar. but she was also aware at how aemond privately feels that his father never cared for him.
QUEEN ALICENT HIGHTOWER
ilkhabar initially clashed with alicent during their first meetings due to differences in cultural protocols and decorum and she often found her new mother-in-law to be overbearing and slightly insufferable. in turn, alicent mistrusted ilkhabar for several months and thought her deceitful and overly ambitious. but over time, their relationship developed and bettered and strengthened - and ilkhabar ended up respecting alicent and supporting her. and alicent ended up seeing her as a true daughter.
CROWN PRINCESS RHAENYRA TARGARYEN
ilkhabar never knew princess rhaenyra very well. but in their brief interactions and meetings, she was very neutral. their relationship was initially polite and dignified - as expected from two noble women from differing houses. as for the matter of the parentage of rhaenyra's children, ilkhabar cared very little. she didn't care whether the children had velaryon blood or not because at the end of the day, they had targaryen blood and that made them contenders to the throne. but their relationship most likely deteriorated after aemond commited a certain murder that was probably a war crime.
PRINCE DAEMON TARGARYEN
ilkhabar had always heard rumours and tales of the rogue prince. her initial opinion of him was that he was dangerous (and a correct opinion considering how she saw him lop off the velaryon's head in the middle of court) and he definitely wasn't someone who she would befriend so she probably stayed away from him. [note: i'd wait after episode 10 to properly comment on what happens after due to aforementioned war crime]
AEGON TARGARYEN
they're friends and allies but in the way that they won't hesitate to push each other off a balcony if the other person breathes weirdly in their direction. ilkhabar thinks aegon is a half-drunk lout who doesn't deserve the throne (and ofc, she thinks aemond should take the throne) and aegon thinks ilkhabar is a stuck up prick but in the grand scheme of things like civil wars, they trust each other.
[note again: i got too tired making gifs last night 😭 so no more gifs my bad! 💜]
HELAENA TARGARYEN
ilkhabar finds her sister-in-law to be sweet but difficult to talk to. she bears no ill feelings or grudges against helaena but they simply don't speak very often. ilkhabar is a very straight forward sort of person who dislikes riddles and so she often leaves conversations with helaena with a headache. that being said, she finds helaena to be a sweet and kind soul.
AEMOND TARGARYEN
she's never seen this man in her life. [read tags]
LORD JALEH FAIDLAN
she's her father's favourite child. he always doted on her growing up and she would spend hours with him poring over books and learning about the world. he taught her political intricacies and allowed her to accompany him into counsel meetings. she was heartbroken to leave him as she was to be married in westeros.
LADY QAMAR FAIDLAN
ilkhabar has mother-issues. her mother always wanted a son so she never really paid attention to her three daughters - least of all, her youngest tempestuous daughter. ilkhabar would often act up or cause issues just to get her mother's attention because even if she was being scolded by her mother, at least she was noticed. ilkhabar carries around a certain grief about her mother - she hates her and loves her and no matter what - she can't out the part of her that came from her mother.
LADY RASHIDA AND DANIYAH FAIDLAN
ilkhabar really does care about her older sisters. her eldest sister, rashida, may as well have been a mother to her when lady qamar was not. she often looked up to rashida and her clever wit and kind nature. her relationship with daniyah was a bit trickier as ilkhabar was always a cautious and calculating sort of person and daniyah was impulsive and (in ilkhabar's eyes: frivolous) but she would do anything to protect her sisters and support them.