This is a belief I know a lot of people won't agree with but I'm kinda on a roll today so hear me out. Men (even cis men) are oppressed for being men. Now don't go in the comments and write a shit ton of stuff just hear me out for like two paragraphs maybe more. I'm not saying misogyny isn't real and isn't worse because statistically it is worse and socially it is worse as well. The problem I've seen a lot lately is so called feminist not allowing these to hear from the other side because they'll hear men talking about the incredibly high bar of masculinity that they are subject too. A lot of people want it to just be a basic " all men have it great and all women have it bad" or even the woke version of " all men but trans men and queer mascs have it good and all women and fema and ect ect have it bad" but that's not how anything works. Genuinely think why do cis men have a higher suicide rate. These men are subjected from a very young age to horrible toxic masculinity that makes them constantly perform to the highest levels of masculinity. Men are often bullied from birth if they act even minutely feminine. They are taught that feeling emotion is flawed and deserving of ridicule. Genuinely think about how that is privileged. Yes men have many statistical advantages but also realize cis women do too. Women can feel emotion, women can wear pants without being bullied for being too masculine, women statistically have better friend groups, and a lot more things that tend to be more social. My conclusion here is that gender is inherently oppressive because every person is different and being forced to perform a gender someone gave you a birth to such high degrees isn't good for your health or Psyche. Yes there are some holes in my argument and it isn't perfect but at least in reading this try to think through why you believe specific things. It's important to think through questions you think have blatant obvious answers and research them and learn more because we can't just trust the popular narrative on things. It's important to think through why things are bad. Back to the original conversation I mean think about looksmaxxing they're going so far to be that peak masculine figure that they are physically hurting themselves to do it. Think of bone smashing and literally eating disorders they promote as gym diets. It's the same thing as women with eating disorders. I do genuinely think that the bar of masculinity is more constrictive because no one focuses on that side of the issue. They try to find ways to help women to help them connect and give them community, support systems, therapists, and so many other things that we have neglected to do to men because we want to believe they have it naturally good. The problem isn't so cut and dry and that's okay. Admitting men having it hard too doesn't erase anyone else's struggles it just helps them cope with theirs. I have more to say on this but I don't think I'll put it all here because I don't want this to be too much to swallow at once but if you wanna hear me talk more about this I absolutely will because I've been working on this philosophy for a while now. I think eventually I want to write a book on it and do more clear research on it. I'd love to hear other people's opinions on this.
