#onlinedatingsuck

[dating-in-da-808]

27 y.o elementary school teacher

In may, we’ve probably only texted a few lines with basic intro...then here comes the below:

him: What’re you up to tonight?         I’ll be teaching summer school actually! (in response to my previous question as to what he will be doing in the summer)

me: not much...just relaxing at home and watching 20/20 lol.  you?  how long of a break do you have before summer school starts?

him: I have a 3 week break before i start summer school.  We should hang out.         I would ask you to make out with me tonight but you’re busy watching tv at home lol

and that was the end of that convo.  he probably unmatched me a few weeks later.

again...is making out what all 26/27 year olds think about??? even though my profile said NO HOOKUPS!??!

[dating-in-da-808]

28 y.o. AC installer...Local boys aka 3rd/4th generation in Hawaii and have never left the islands

This is prolly local boy #5 that I have met since last November. Again, very nice guy. Picks you up, pays for dinner, not a pervert (at least not yet?). But just…zero conversation.

My friend recently told me…maybe I have been spoiled having lived in NYC Bc the majority of the people I met had a story of their own. But here….story? What are those? 😓

He works 6:30am - 3pm installing AC. Goes home after that to avoid traffic. If he eats out, it’s genki sushi. He has never tasted uni and doesn’t like to eat food if they don’t look right to him. Doesn’t know how a shoyu bottle works. Orders teriyaki chicken and spicy ahi roll. Doesn’t eat any other raw fish.

Does he drink? Vodka coke maybe. Never had a mojito. Doesn’t like beer. Jameson tastes weird. Watch movies? Not really Watch tv? Rarely Surf? Don’t know how Swim? Barely Hike? (I mentioned the two that I went on yesterday - he’s never heard of them yet he grew up here) Video game? Nope Church? Nope Karaoke? Nope Beach? Don’t really like it Does he volunteer? Nope Music? Listen to anything but never heard of Spotify He liked high school more Bc his friends were all there. His fav class was piano but he failed the tests because he was too lazy to practice. He didn’t know what it takes to get into Iolani/punahou.

The few questions he’s asked me… What was it like going to Iolani? I said - what do you mean? What is your impression of Iolani? He answered: rich over ambitious straight As kids What I like to do on wkeds? I said hike, volunteer, maybe beach.

Dare I even ask about travels?

I asked him the 6 questions abt the house the cube the flowers the ladder the storm and the cat. He was amused. Didn’t ask about mine.

Told him about Myers Briggs…never heard of them but will prolly take it to understand.

Other topics - open relationships, freshmen horror stories, boys and girls club, ways you were brought up, types of friends, prior dates...etc etc From 6pm - 9pm...forced conversation...

I was first person he met online.

Sigh…

update from day after...unmatched on tinder.  guess he felt it too. 

[dating-in-da-808]

27 year old Ge on Tinder

Why? We matched when I swiped right. You said “hi” and I replied “hello :)” and then you unmatched….

Seriously then why even bother to say hi to begin with?!

[jodyakbar-blog]

Hai kamu, yang kapan hari bilang alis gue mirip alis charlie puth? ga ada hai hai lagi nih? dan  gue udah dilupakan begitu aja? Mungkin setelah kita bertemu kamu sadar bahwa alisku tidak seperti alis Charlie Puth. Seperti juga dengan perasaanmu yang tidak lagi mirip dengan perasaanku.

Oke itu headlinenya. Berawal dari online dating dari salah satu aplikasi pencarian jodoh yang “swipe” and “match”. Tapi begitulah, match diawal belum tentu match setelah bertemu, begitu juga saya dan dia. Photo dan chat belum bisa mewakili sepenuhnya bagaimana karakter seseorang. Kalaupun dia gencar banget di chat, ngabarin tiap hari, nanyain kamu lagi ngapain, jangan lupa makan, jangan belajar mulu, dan obrolan-obrolan pemanis sebuah pendekatan, belum tentu setelah ketemu dia tetap seperti itu. Namanya juga kencan buta ya, mau berharap apa mz?

Tetapi yang paling utama dari kencan online adalah pertemuan pertama, bisa aja hasil dari pertemuan pertama dengan si “jodoh” ini bisa berlanjut atau tidak sama sekali. Hasil kencan online saya yang pertama ini GATOT, Gagal total dan yang bikin sedih adalah kita terlanjur baper, atau dia ternyata tidak suka fisik kita, karakter kita, baju yang kita pakai saat itu, cara kita berbicara, pesanan makanan, atau tidak mentraktir si calon? dan kemudian kita pulang begitu aja tanpa pesan sama sekali. 

[maxineroxx]

Uncle! Uncle! I give!

I really hate online dating sites. Really, really hate them and the horny idiots that seem to always find my profile. I am growing weary of the constant rude assumptions about me and my love of sex. Why is a woman not allowed to admit she likes sex without every single man assuming that since she loves sex she is always wanting it, all the time and from anybody who offers. Apparently, since I like sex I'm not allowed to have standards and I have to always be horny and ready just in case a random guy offers. I have several things listed: interests, likes, hobbies listed, does anyone ask about them? No, they don't. Apparently if you admit you like sex that's all you are allowed to talk about. I am ready to just throw in the towel and quit. You try to be honest and it just brings you headaches. Arrrrggghhh!!