#osdd tips

[bagaluten-sys]

Hey, hey. Some phrases I personally think systems (or singlets) should use more often (and communication tipps for collectives that have poor communication umder the cut) :

"Are you okay with this?"

"Could you try to tell me why..."

"That boundary is fine by me"

"I feel [...] can I get help from [...]?"

"I understand you"

"Can I do [...] today?"

So we a hundred percent get how communication can be hard and feel impossible. Our Host tried three years ago as they started suspecting and it did not went well. You feel alone, left by your system, in denial, confused, angry, I get that.

What helped us most is those phrases. Talking when we are calm and meditated. Talking when we felt good. Avoid always having background noices to distract us from one another (movies, music, radio ect).

Being patient and not too emotional and trying to be nice and thoughtful helped us being able to be brave enough to talk to one another and like each other and be able to function together. I know its a journey, but looking into open communication (no matter if for singlets or systems) can be really helpful.

-Caretaker, Host

[citrus-system]

Little things you can do that your future self/fronter will probably appreciate:

Do the dishes, even if it’s just a few!

Lay out clothes; pajamas, for the next day, the next work day, etc.

Make a grocery list, wander through the house to see what you need

Fill up a water bottle and stick it in the fridge

Fluff your pillows

Clean your phone & phone case; use rubbing alcohol and a cloth, q-tips, and toothpicks!

Wipe down a frequently used surface

Make the bed

Wash your face, even if it’s just a wet rag

Brush your teeth, swishing a lil baking soda & water help with dry mouth

Write about your day; what you did, what you thought about, and add your name and a date!

Put on deodorant, even if you’re not leaving the house

Set alarms; leave it snooze-able for extra reminders

Message someone back; notifications piling up is daunting, just choose one message to reply to to lighten the load!

[squishyapologist]

ahh ! hey ! so, uh, this week has been. kind of wild. it seems that im. part of a system ? (not 100% certain due to psychotic factors but its looking like it).

jay (alter) made contact this week, though at the beginning i mistook it for me developing an attachment to his source due to psychosis. this idea was kind of scratched given the fact that he’s a different person, has his own feelings and thoughts, and has been attempting to front for multiple days. we also have another, nonhuman alter, who’s less communicative but more knowledgeable of the inner workings. 

so, anyways, i learned that antipsychotics can interfere with a systems ability to communicate and switch, and due to the fact that i’ve been on antipsychotics for multiple years, and only recently switched my dose and the type of medication (im now on an extended release version of the same medication) we’re thinking that thats what fucked up our system. most of my early symptoms (of what we’re leaning towards as being osdd-1b) are from before i went on my meds, and ??? struggled a lot the last time they fronted (which was last year).

we’re thinking that im front stuck due to the meds since jay isn’t able to front (and trust me, we’ve been trying) and even ??? (our gatekeeper) was pretty confused until we discovered the medication thing.

any advice on how to get un-front stuck without going off my meds (because i really need them, and they work for what they’re meant for)?? we’re all struggling to normalize due to how much we’ve been dissociating and the inability to switch. 

any advice would be appreciated !!! thanks !

- juno