#para ally

[para-education]

Welcome to Para-Education

This blog was created to help me (@emmettspace) collect and save cited research surrounding paraphilias and paraphilic disorders. Most of this information is used to create videos on my Youtube channel to bring paraphile advocacy to more mainstream platforms.

Can we submit sources for this research?

Yes! Submissions are always welcome and can be sent through asks, or you can tag this blog in the post you want me to see. Please make sure that the source is linked and that the information in the source is cited, so I can check out each citation.

You may also suggest video topics and recommend other creators centered around paraphile advocacy and education.

Can we ask questions regarding research?

Absolutely. You can ask about anything you read on this blog or elsewhere regarding this subject. I will do my best to answer. Please note that I answer all asks publicly unless you request for it to be answered privately.

What are your contact stances?

My contact stances align with NO-ACT. Here is an excerpt taken from the linked page:

NO-ACT stands for "Non-Offending, Anti-Contact, Taboo" and is a movement for paraphiles who are against sexual contact with minors, theriform animals, and non-consenting people, but pro-kink and other means of safe sexual expression.

This means I am strictly anti-contact when it comes to any sentient being (or previously sentient) that cannot consent. I am always anti-abuse. If you have any questions regarding this, feel free to ask.

I am also pro-paraphiles (which includes all paraphilias and paraphilic disorders), pro-recovery for those with paraphilic disorders who need or want help (recovery is not a requirement for paraphiles to exist), am fine with minors interacting, and do not believe any paraphilia is 'harmful'.

Do you vet every source you cite?

I try to do my due diligence, but I am only one person and can easily miss things. As a general disclaimer, I do not agree with or endorse everything that someone or something says or does, even if I cite them as a source.

Are you a paraphile?

I am not when it comes to reality; all of my attractions are purely fictional. I think that's important to state because as an ally, I do not face the same type of stigma that most paraphiles do, and I do not share or fully understand their experiences. I can only do my best to educate and correct myself if I get something wrong.

How do you tag things on this blog?

📌 is for information that I posted.

📄 is for information that I reblogged.

📚 is for information submitted to me.

💬 is for asks unrelated to research.

☕ is for posts unrelated to research.

Along with my emoji tags, I will usually use words and phrases to help me find things easier, like tagging something as a specific paraphilia or paraphilic disorder if I'm collecting information for it.

I don't agree with something you posted.

That's fine. I'm open to discussion as long as we can keep it civil and not make it personal. If someone cannot treat me with respect because they think less of me for having a different perspective, their message will be deleted and they will be blocked.

Can I reblog this post?

Yes! All of my posts are okay to reblog.

[emmettspace]

hating MAPs doesn't protect kids

my video about MAP advocacy went up today and i would love to get this to a wider audience. any shares and/or comments are super appreciated, since both of them help boost this in the algorithm. 💚

if you believe i said something inaccurate, please let me know.

@this-is-paramisic not sure if it's okay to tag you, if it's not then feel free to ignore this! it's about paramisia towards MAPs which is why i thought of your blog, so far it's the only blog combatting paramisia that i'm aware of.

if anyone would like to tag any other pro para blogs, feel free!

the original script of this video is available to read here on Ellipsus. it doesn't have the corrections i added in while editing the video, but it does have all of the terms uncensored, since i had to censor them for Youtube.

MORE CORRECTIONS:

MAP is not synonymous with pedophile, it's an umbrella term to describe an attraction to kids significantly younger. pedophile specifically refers to an attraction to prepubescent kids. that was totally me misinterpreting someone's explanation of it. 😅

in my efforts to argue for not mistreating MAPs, i was not inclusive of members of the otherkin/alterhuman community, and i placed too much emphasis on the concept of 'humanity' being what makes beings worthy of respect. i genuinely apologize for that and will do my best to learn more from otherkins/alterhumans and what's the best language to use. 💚

[emmettspace]

regarding paraphilia advocacy:

i will be reposting some of my recent posts in the paraphile tags that were suggested to me, since that's the community my advocacy will be focusing on. if you don't want to see those again, just block #repost.

and for ALL posts regarding pedophilia and other paraphilic disorders, they will be tagged as #para ally.

so anyone who doesn't want to see those, feel free to block that tag. i highly suggest this for anyone who has 'tw pedophilia' blocked because i will no longer be tagging that.

the responses to my posts have been so encouraging and wonderful to see. i know this seems like a 'chronically online' issue to some people, but it really goes so much deeper than that, and it is so hard to escape paramisia (prejudice against paraphiles) just in day-to-day life. literally earlier today my brother was venting about his boss responding to a lolicon game with "all pedos should be lined up against a wall" and i'm sure you can guess the rest.

i have been sitting on this for a while and have finally decided to make this a part of my platform. obviously i'm still a whump creator and want that to be the focus of my work, but i also want to make a positive impact where i can. i just know it's not for everyone and want to provide the option to avoid those posts for anyone who wants/needs to. 🩶

given that i'm going to be delving more into a controversial topic, this is a friendly reminder to check out my Link Tree or friend me on Discord (handle is emmettnet) in case my account gets deleted again.

and if you're a blog who posts about paraphilias and/or advocacy, i'd love it if you gave yourself a shout out on this post so me and others can check out your blog. :)

[para-education]

We recently had a post reblogged from us with some questionable tags and would like to address them.

#1) "Minors DNI"

Minors are welcome to interact with this blog, as this is solely for educational purposes and any posts with explicit content will have a mature community label, in order to abide by the ToS. We get that this blogger tags all posts with 'Minors DNI' for their own purposes, we just wanted our stance to be clear, since a lot of this education directly helps minors and involves minors. Adults are not the only age group with paraphilias.

#2) "Anti harmful para"

There is no such thing as a "harmful" paraphilia. Actions can be harmful, not attractions. So, again, we want to make it clear that we are not 'anti harmful paraphilia', we are anti-contact when it comes to harmful actions, and anti-abuse overall.

#3) "Neutral para"

We are not 'neutral' on paraphilias because that implies there is something to be opposed. We are 100% supportive of all paraphilias and paraphilia disorders, as it states on the pinned post of my main blog. We will be linking this post to our pinned on this blog, just to make this very clear. While the intentions behind "neutral" stances are good, it is important that we examine what we are being neutral about and why. If we are hesitating to say we are in full support of paraphiles due to unchecked paramisia (i.e. the account who reblogged this post has "Anti Big 3" in their pinned), that's a problem.

#4) "Pro recovery"

We support recovery for anyone suffering from a paraphilic disorder that wants or needs help with their disorder. It's very tricky to use 'pro recovery' as a blanket statement because, as we've been finding in our research, there is a misconception that all paraphilias are disorders and must be 'cured'. This 'requirement' is often attached to a paraphile's right to exist in society, as in, they don't get to exist as equals if they do not 'recover' from their paraphilia, despite having done no harm.

To be clear, we are not putting words in this blogger's mouth or claiming that we understand their stances. These tags just reminded us to make our own stances clear and comment on different stances about and within the paraphile community.

Please do not attempt to find the reblogged post and harass the blogger or 'call them out'. We are always strictly anti-harassment.

[emmettspace]

it does NOT imply that. the MAP community is not a monolith; that's why contact stances exist, to differentiate people who are trying to destigmatize the paraphilia (not normalize the idea of adults and children in an inappropriate relationship) vs. people who are trying to normalize and/or legalize something they absolutely shouldn't.

[emmettspace]

it feels very harsh to be told this when you're a victim and it can even feel invalidating. but you cannot justify attacking an entire group because someone hurt you or your loved ones.

bigotry is not exclusive to any political group; saying "someone from (x) hurt me, so everyone from (x) is bad" is classic bigotry and it can be used against any community, including communities that you are in.

"an endogenic system hurt me, so all endos are bad."

my first experience with systems was a traumagenic system that needed constant reassurance and validation from me or else their alters would "die", causing me constant stress and anxiety because i truly thought i was "killing" my friend. should i say all traumagenic systems are bad?

"a MAP groomed me online when i was a teenager, so all MAPs are bad."

i was pressured into sexual online relationships with adults when i was a teen, that i still struggle to unpack in therapy, and none of those adults were MAPs. who do i get to blame? what group do i get to target in order to make me feel safer?

you are always, always going to find examples of someone from (x) group hurting someone, because we all hurt each other. are there things that can raise someone's risk factors of hurting someone? yes. stigma is one of them. lacking community is one of them. 'education' rooted in purity culture that focuses more on fear mongering is one of them. the truth is, we all have something that could raise our risk factor, because hurt beings hurt beings. and we live in a very unfair world that can hurt us very deeply. the solution is not to keep hurting others.

you don't have to forgive your abuser (or abusers, plural). but you need to learn, at some point, that what your abuser did is what they did to you. others are not at fault just for existing as they are.

it might make you feel better to adopt an "us vs. them" mindset, but it's not going to give you control. to go through life believing that certain demographics are inherently bad or evil is giving that demographic power over your emotions, be it fear, anger, or both.

when you accept that everyone is capable of doing good and bad, regardless of demographic, you learn to judge based on the situation and not your trauma response. you learn to judge based on what someone does and not your assumptions of what they are.

all of us, as living beings, are far too complex to generalize into categories of 'good' and 'bad'. we're programmed to do that for survival and self-preservation, but that is the bare minimum. as complex beings living in a society, we can do better than that.

[para-education]

NEVER STOP!!!

it's also surprising (/pos) to see an ally that's not a paraphile.

🫶🏻🩶

We do exist, fortunately! Though I might be a fictophile, on some level, none my paraphilias would apply to real life (i.e. mine would be loli, and it's not very intense or something I think about / seek out often, so I'm not even sure it would classify as a paraphilia...more of just 'unconventional thing I like in fiction sometimes').

[para-education]

You should talk about the subgenres of the big 3s (like pedophilia with autopedophilia, ephebophilia, fictophilia etc)

I've heard about ephebophilia, but I've never heard of the others. I did find this list of paraphilias on a Paraphile Wiki to look into, though it seems like many pages are missing and it is a long list to start with.

I will most likely start with the more well known paraphilias and then go into these subgenres more in-depth in a separate video, but I'll still mention them in the introduction. Are there any subgenres you (or anyone) would suggest looking into first and foremost?

Also, would the "Big 3" be pedophilia, zoophilia, and necrophilia? I think I'm familiar with two of them, but I forget what the third would be.