#parent angst

[coquette-corpsie]

"no one mourns the wicked"

"no, one mourns the wicked"

EXCEPT it's Lavender mourning her dad's death because even though he tried to massacre the town, she was still caring about him because she knew he was probably good nonetheless, even though he wasn't.

[snowbard506]

Parent angst...

- Momgana comforting her son Mikaeus

- Gunmar and Jhandar arguing about... well, pretty much everything

[lady-divine-writes]

Someone whom we consider a good friend confirmed something yesterday that I knew, but will never cease to amaze me ...

In order to be considered a mom doing a passable job raising my kids, I must be a teacher, a cook, a maid, a child psychologist, a physical and occupational therapist, a coach, and maintain the energy level of a 30-year-old soccer mom even though I suffer from a chronic illness. And if I have a job outside the home, which I do, it must not interfere with any of the above.

For my husband to be considered a great dad, he merely needs to show up.

[morganski-19]

Warning for the next chapter of "I Don't Know Which Way's Home".

I'm getting to the last section and starting to cry. I almost never cry while writing angst, this is different. So uh, be warned.

This chapter is going to be a lot. I haven't even gotten to the saddest line I'm going to write in this yet, but I know exactly what it is.

Good luck reading, I guess

[zazozaliadmoved]

teacher: so do you have any insightful opinions on this book [Geek Love] because of your parents, that would be really cool. you could work it into the essay for class

me: i mean if you want five double-spaced pages going on melodramatically about emotional abandonment, hero worship, and empty yearning i can do that

teacher: sounds great!

me:

me: (shit. my self-depreciating bluff has been called.)

[zazozaliadmoved]

like, i understand. the entire course of his performing career has been practically my lifespan. i’m a symbol of how close it came to getting some Major obstacles in the way in the early years. and i do have memories of him. an attempt vvas made. they were both my superheroes grovving up; a magic pair of people vvho vvould vanish and appear from what seemed to me like a life of nothing but adventures. (but i am still hungry. i need more than these inherited shapes hiding in my face. it’s not wrong to vvant more, is it? it’s not childish?)

[zazozaliadmoved]

blogger status: *cueing up Fallen Leaves by Billy Talent* it’s time to cry over the puzzle man

[johnnyonespur]

Preschool

So we're looking at preschools for the lad right now, and it's tough. Not many Denver school offer preschool, and there's the age issue (if the kid turns three after October 1, they can't enroll in the three-year-old program until the next year. The lad was born in late October, so he'll be three years old in the three-year-old program for less than one month. Plus, he can't even start until next school year, in August or September or whatever). I'm hoping he won't be bored, if the class learns letters or numbers and he already knows them.

Then there's the problem that there are very few spaces for the three-year-old programs (the most we've seen in a single school is 30; the least is 7-8), and they're awarded by lottery. It gets a bit better for the four-year-old program because more schools offer that one, but if it's a good school, and it has a three-year-old program, the four-year-old program is basically already full from the incoming three-year-olds, who have priority. And if the lad doesn't get a space in the lottery for the 2014-15 school year, he's basically at home for the next two years.

The one bright side is the cost, which for a Denver Public Schools program is like, $30-60/month (compared to a private school, which is like $1,000/month or more, and out of our price range)

And then there's this conundrum: on the one hand, we're basically sending the lad to preschool so that he can have some socialization with other children, and so he doesn't get bored just playing at home all the time (he does have play dates with other kids, but that's once, twice a week at best). So in that view, it doesn't need to be the greatest school ever, just a place that he'll have fun and learn to play well with others.

But on the other hand, we would like to get him into a good school, not one that just trains the kids to sit quietly and obey, or one where he'll be unhappy, especially if it's a school where he can continue from preschool to kindergarten to primary school.

Anyway. Deadline to enter him in the lottery is January 31, so we're working on collecting the paperwork. We've visited two schools, Valdez and Lincoln, and they were both really nice. There are a couple others closer to us (Godsman and Pascual LeDoux) that we'd still like to visit and check out, but they don't have as many spaces, and I don't think they're as nice as the two we've seen.