#parental acceptance

[heretherebedork]

I love both parents being not just accepting but supportive and joyful about it, thrilled that their son has a lover that they already know and already love themselves as well, just welcoming him into the family in a new role.

[missypup]

I spent 7 years terrified to tell my own parents about my DID diagnosis. I thought they would assume I was broken and that they broke me. I thought they would reject me. I finally got the courage yesterday and told them if they have any questions to let me know.

The first question my mom has today? “Do they [alters] have favorite snacks too?”

[sharpiecoffeedragon]

Please I'm begging you go watch this amazing thing I found on YouTube!

[persephoneandthepomegranates]

I can't believe I hadn't thought of it, but after seeing you mention it, I think I'd appreciate a spell to help my parents accept my gender identity, if you'd be willing to share!! 💕💕 (and I know it doesn't guarantee anything but seeing as nothing else has worked... it's worth a shot, right?)

I had trouble finding the spell that I was thinking of but I can point you towards tons of different spells to help with gender identity and/or for talking with your parents. 

Gender/Sexuality Protection Spell Jar -”Attacks against my gender identity and/or sexual orientation do not wound me.” by @shadowfaeriemoonstone

enchantment to be seen as the gender you identify with - by @f8lm8n

gender-orientation validation spell - a spell to help one feel valid in their identity concerning gender and orientation by @orriculum

I also have a few from my friend @orriculum for you when talking with them!

undertow vigor potion - a potion that helps shift power of advantages to you, whether in magical or mundane issues, offers you tactical advantages (This might help give you an advantage while talking to them)

spectrum glamour - a glamour to feel alive, grand and brave, but most of all, to feel existence and be present. (dissociation aid, not a replacement for actual trained help)

mermaid’s breath spell - a spell for the ability to survive in emotional or situational circumstances a bit out of your depth or comfort zone, like a fish out of water (This is just to help you when talk to them especially when it concerns your gender identity since you might feel disheartened by their words)

sailor moon glamour - a glamour to feel confident and beautiful, even when nervous and self-conscious (I picked this since you might feel nervous when talking about yourself and your gender identity)

My final suggestion for you is to make a sigil/request a sigil from someone that’s along the lines of “My parents will accept that I’m (insert your gender identity)”.

Best of luck to you, my dear! 🍀

[cardcaptor747]

My mum and I have many issues, her ignoring me and the shit she did to me physiologically (and physically bcs lets be real being kicked didn't help me grow up mentally sound) being a huge one.

But somehow, through her ignoring me I've found a paradoxical feeling of acceptance.

I've never come out to her, never in words other than begging and crying for her to not call me by my deadname anymore – since that's what it took for her to realise how important that was to me – but I hang a pride flag in my room, and she's seen it multiple times.

I'm pretty sure she's even had her suspicions about me and one of my past partners being together. But never has she brought it up.

I know it's really a stereotypical Asian mum thing, but, while she's never said in words that she doesn't hate me for my queerness, she has shown me. Mentioning that actors from show I like are queer in a positive light, joking about queer characters the way she does about non-queer characters. Her allyship isn't without flaws, but hell, MY allyship isn't without flaws.

[solhwellness]

Parental Acceptance: Embracing LGBTQ+ Identities | Solh Wellness

LGBTQ are those people or the community who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or queer (LGBTQ). This idea has always been there, but it was considered taboo; it has just now come to light as a result of some recent changes in the person's hormone levels or cognitive abilities. As a result, a large number of individuals who once belonged to this group thought that their identity was in danger and suppressed it in order to conform to the social norms of the time. 

They shared the same rights as everyone else to pursue happiness and lead fulfilling lives. The LGBTQ community has that chance now that they are more well-known in society. The individual nevertheless struggles to be accepted by their family and the greater community as a result of stigma and taboo. They worry that they will be dismissed or told to conceal their "abnormality" from the general population.

FAMILY ACCEPTANCE OF A MEMBER OF THE LGBTQ+ COMMUNITY

It is a big issue for someone who identifies with the LGBTQ+ group to tell their parents about who they are since all they want is for them to embrace them. Additionally, once they come out, accepting who they are is easier for them, which has a big impact on other areas of their lives.

An LGBTQ+ person's mental health if their family is accepting them:

Improved emotional wellbeing, better self-esteem, and better mental health.

The robust support system that accepting family members offer.

Satisfying and productive relationships with relatives.

There are decreased levels of substance abuse, anxiety, depression, and suicidal thoughts.

Improved self-acceptance as well as pride in their gender identity and sexual orientation.

An LGBTQ+ person's mental health if their family is not accepting them:

Internalised transphobia and homophobia, as well as potential mental health issues, loneliness, and rejection sentiments.

It may be necessary to belong to a chosen group of close friends, the ideal family, or LGBTQ+ support organisations.

Family ties that have become strained or broken.

Increased probability of mental health problems as well as a rise in the prevalence of mental illnesses.

Dealing with feelings of inferiority, shame, and self-invalidation is difficult.

WAYS TO TALK TO YOUR PARENTS AND GET THE DESIRED ACCEPTANCE

It might be challenging to come out to your parents because you are constantly worried about their judgement, but it's crucial to let people who matter in your life know how you actually feel. 

Consider your own emotions and self.Spend some time getting to know your own thoughts, feelings, and self.

Pick an appropriate time and place for the conversation. Find a relaxed, welcoming setting where everyone can be themselves and speak freely.

Become more familiar with LGBTQ+ terminology, concepts, and experiences. This displays your readiness to take part in a thoughtful discussion and helps you respond to any questions or concerns your parents might have.

HOW TO APPROACH YOUR PARENTS AND GAIN THEIR ACCEPTANCE

It could be difficult to tell your parents because you worry about their reaction all the time, but it's important to be honest with the people that matter in your life. 

Think on your own feelings and self.Get to know your own ideas, feelings, and self by taking some time.

Select a suitable location and time for the conversation. Look for a comfortable, friendly environment where people can be themselves and communicate freely.

Learn more about LGBTQ+ topics, language, and experiences. This demonstrates your willingness to participate in a deliberative conversation and helps you address any queries or worries your parents may have.

Be mindful that your parents may respond in many ways. They could be anything from total acceptance to amazement, perplexity, or even at first hatred. You can dominate the conversation with patience and assurance if you are psychologically prepared for a variety of responses. 

Use "I" pronouns to specifically express your thoughts, emotions, and experiences to avoid seeming accusatory. Encourage open communication and take your parents' concerns and inquiries seriously. Even if you disagree, make an effort to understand them and show kindness.

Be mindful that acceptance might not happen right away. Give your parents the time and space they need to consider the information and adjust their viewpoint.

For advice and emotional support, speak with close friends, LGBTQ+ support groups, or organisations. During the coming-out process, they can offer guidance, share their own experiences, and offer comfort. 

CONCLUSION

For LGBTQ+ people, parental approval is essential. Before things become worse, Solh Wellness aims to provide clients with proactive mental health treatments. Make taking care of yourself a priority in your life and try out different strategies to proactively assist your mental health. The Solh Wellness App should be downloaded to start the transformation.

[equalityspeaks]

Hi, I recently came out to my mum as lesbian and she has been telling me that she is still fine with it but is still getting used to it and digesting it. I love her and everything but she is quite old fashioned in her beliefs and Idek what I'll do when my dad knows.I feel like I've disappointed her and I've done something wrong which I know I haven't but I just want her to understand me but I don't know how to do that. I know I'm much luckier compared to most situations but it's getting me down

Hey there.

First thing, you definitely have not disappointed her. It is just something that is taking time for her and it can be a long process to some parents, it can be hard to understand this but I suppose when we are born our parents have this idea, this view, of how they will see their kids once they’ve grown up and traditionally speaking most parents would expect their kids to eventually meet a person of the opposite sex, fall in love and make a life together. There is nothing wrong with this view because this is what they have been taught. However, this is why we need to build awareness and educate our parents so they have a better opportunity to adapt.

Have you heard of PFLAG? Here’s the website for the U.S, I am not sure if you’re from there, but let me know!

And here is more coming out support

http://community.pflag.org/page.aspx?pid=539

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[remem-brandt]

i hung out with my friend Alex yesterday and afterwards my mom asked "so is she a romantic interest?" (she's not) but just the fact that my mom acknowledged my sexuality so casually made me so very happy ^^