#perfection doesn't exist

[r0tting-fish-flowers]

What's amazing abt the OFF community is you can draw shitty art and still fit right in because the game's artstyle isn't perfect either and we love it for that

[alyceinwonderland777]

I think if there was a contest for "Mister Contradiction" this guy would win it without any effort. In a few lines he managed to say that love requires accepting someone for who they are but that finding someone attractive for their personality is selfish. Like, WHAT? If I like someone for their personality it means I'm accepting them for who they are, right?

Furthermore, believing that love means loving without getting anything in return is not only inaccurate but also dangerous, and I will now explain why.

A healthy relationship requires reciprocity and mutual respect. If any of these things are missing, it's not love. It's not healthy to believe that one of the two has to do all the emotional labor and expect not to receive the same from their partner. It's also a dangerous concept because its basically saying that all those people who have left their partner because they were emotionally or physically abusive or both are selfish. According to the logic of loving without receiving anything in return, even if your partner beats you up or brings you down emotionally, you cannot leave them because otherwise you are selfish.

I'm not saying that the guy who wrote this idiotic post meant it that way, but unfortunately that's the subtext.

Plus, if we’re being honest, the concept of loving someone and getting nothing in return IS selfish, because you’re literally saying that one partner can take without giving anything back to the other partner. Taking without giving back is selfish, while wanting to be loved and respected equally is not. It’s just how healthy relationships work. Relationships are not a charity. Obviously I’m talking about emotional exchange, not financial.

Besides, it's literally the norm to start a relationship with someone you feel comfortable with. It's not selfish, it's just how human relationships work. Why would I want to start a relationship, romantic or platonic, with someone I don't feel comfortable with? Like, WHAT?

That's like saying a black woman who doesn't want to start a relationship with a white supremacist, Trump-supporting white man is selfish. Like WHAT?

Oh and by the way starting a relationship with someone solely and exclusively for their money is not love but exploitation. It should go without saying, but here we are. 🙄

Romantic relationships are born out of a desire to both love and be loved, and there is nothing selfish about that. However, saying that people should love without receiving anything in return in emotional terms is extremely selfish. This guy doesn't realize that he is supporting the exact type of dynamic he claims to detest.

Also, having standards is normal. I think it's quite normal to want a partner who is emotionally available, mature, smart, etc. Physical appearance is secondary. I don't know about you, but for me a man can be as handsome as a Greek god, but if his personality sucks the only thing I'll feel for him is repulsion. Of course, nobody is perfect, but there's a difference between having flaws and being a shitty person.

This also applies to friendships. Friendships are a give and take just like romantic relationships. You can’t expect your friend to do all the emotional labor without getting the same in return.

Unconditional love, as noble a concept as it may be, cannot exist since human relationships will always be conditional to some degree and that's okay. We are humans, not gods. We are not perfect. Perfection doesn't exist and that's also okay.

Besides, what does having aesthetic preferences have to do with being disabled, disfigured, etc.? As I said before, if you truly love someone, physical appearance is secondary. I feel like this guy was unconsciously projecting his true self onto others with his post. I mean, you only have to read his post carefully to realize that it's full of contradictions. Also, if you go look at his comment history on his Reddit profile, he called another guy "gross" because he wrote a beautiful post about how much he loves his wife, so I honestly think he is an extremely frustrated person who feels the need to take his frustration out on others. He is one of those people who probably believes that if he can't be serene and happy then neither can anyone else. This guy needs to do some soul-searching and most importantly learn to act like a decent person.

Before criticizing others, this guy should look in the mirror.

Sorry for the long rant, but I needed to get this off my chest.

Thank you for reading and have a nice day. 🩷

[notachickenonatrenchcoat]

Today I realized that diego maradona died 3 years ago am I still special, bathtub barracuda?

[navybrat817]

Navy! Say one thing you are proud of yourself for.

Nothing, nonnie. 😂 Kidding! I'll share something recent that I am proud of myself for.

Bit of info. At the end of each year when I receive my work evaluation, our managers may note the number of discrepancies we had throughout the year. I noticed I had a few recently and I'm on trend to have more than I had last year. Granted, I'm doing A LOT more things in our system that it makes sense for more errors to occur, but it bothered me. I'm very much human and I make mistakes, but I HATE making them.

I brought it up to my immediate manager and let him know that I'm aware of the discrepancies, I'm being more mindful when completing those tasks, and to let me know if he had any concerns. He doesn't have any and he was impressed that I took the initiative to go to HIM with my thoughts, especially because he knows how hard I am on myself.

For additional clarity, my errors? They're only 1.03% of the overall discrepancies on my team. And the fact that I was transparent with my boss and provided that unprompted? And I didn't allow it to take away from the fact that I AM good at my job? I'm pretty proud of that.

Love and thanks! ❤️

[beautifulbananamilkshake]

[virtchandmoir]

abbygriffiin: Scott shouting “I want this to be perfect” when having to fix his pants before Fix You 😭🥺 #RockTheRink #virtuemoir

[scribblehooves]

You don't need to be perfect.

You just need to be.

[fallfightgrow]

We tend to be the hardest on ourselves trying to reach perfection yet telling others that it’s okay to not be perfect. You are human. You will make mistakes, you will have bad days, you will fall, you will gain weight, you will embarrass yourself, you will have a bad mark, you will get hurt and hurt others, and you will have regrets. But its okay. It’s okay for all this to happen because it will help you learn, grow and become stronger. Allow yourself to live. Just take a deep breathe and tell yourself that its okay if everything isn’t perfect about you or your life. Try to accept yourself for the way you are and treat yourself with respect and care. Let yourself do what truly makes you happy and allow yourself to live life the way it is meant to be lived. Take risks, do what brings peace and happiness to you and be a little easier on yourself. Please take care of yourself and always give yourself the advice you would to the people you love.