#person rant

[joannhutch1976]

It maybe be a nice 75 degrees outside today but I’m a 48 year old pre menopausal women and I still need a Ac and two fans blowing on me at all times.

Life it’s a bitch.

[sinners-go-to-drink-the-wine]

so I put in my notice at one of my jobs that was just running me ragged, like I wasn't able to do the basics of taking care of myself, and the work culture is completely toxic. anyways I'm trying to forgive myself for an act of self-preservation and not spiral about all my dads comments about being a disappointment. fuck that job. fuck him. fuck my fucking depression.

[lady-griffin]

So, I have many problems with many of the anti-abortion stances that exist out there or the “logic” behind them. Many, many problems.

But right now, I’m really angry at what people consider to be the more “moderate” take --

The take that except for rape, incest, or medical emergency – abortion should be illegal.

And look, there are many problems with that kind of thinking, but right now I’m focused on the whole idea that someone shouldn’t have access to abortion, because other people think they need to be responsible and face the consequences of their actions.

That’s insane. That’s absolutely insane. You realize that, right?

You’re saying that pregnancy and having a child should be a negative consequence and punishment for someone’s irresponsible and “immoral” actions.

And maybe this is just me, but that seems like a horrible way to start out a new life with your kid. I don’t think I would start out with the most loving of feelings toward my child if they were literally framed as a punishment for my so-called irresponsible actions.

And maybe my actions were irresponsible.

I’m so tired of people say that’s never the case. Because some women are irresponsible and that’s okay; sometimes people make bad decisions or make mistakes.

Maybe I was too in the moment to really care about a condom, or I didn’t believe I could get pregnant in a hot tub, or I wasn’t as careful with my birth control as I should’ve been.

Maybe that woman you want to deny an essential medical procedure is an irresponsible person who just wants to have sex and a good time.

You assigning morality to her actions when it comes to her own life is not only a problem, it’s also illogical when it comes to abortion.

Because here’s the thing -

If you think someone is irresponsible, because they got pregnant, then WHY DO YOU WANT THEM TO HAVE A FUCKING CHILD?

No seriously.

WHY?

Do you think pregnancy suddenly makes someone responsible and a good caretaker? That once the fertilized egg attaches itself to the uterine lining that a biological switch happens to make them a different person?

You understand that keeping a fetus not only alive but healthy for 9-10 months is a lot more responsibility than what most modern day birth-control methods require right?

That having an actual living human being under your care is a million times more responsibility, right?

There are many problems with this line of thinking that I’m not even touching upon; because I’m just baffled by the actual thinking of --

“This person is irresponsible and even immoral for their action of having sex in a way that allowed them to get pregnant and therefore they should have to deal with the full responsibility of keeping another human alive, protected and cared for as their punishment”

That’s insane. That’s fucking insane.

Why do we treat that like it’s a moderate take on the situation?

Why did I for years never question this? Why did I just accept it as the acceptable and reasonable take? 

Because it positions itself directly in the middle and therefore according to some bullshit logic, that makes it the most “reasonable” and “logical”?

First off all, you can’t get to a reasonable and logical stance by just going for the middle, especially when one side doesn’t think people deserve to have bodily autonomy and make their own fucking decisions.

ALSO

Pregnancy should not be a negative consequence at all.

Children should not be a punishment of any kind.

Being pregnant and having a child should be something one is excited for and happy about. Something they wanted and planned for or at the very least able to quickly get on board with and become happy about.

It’s like sex; if it’s not an enthusiastic yes, then there is a big fucking problem.

I don’t care what reason someone has for an abortion. They should be able to get one. I don’t care if they were irresponsible. I don’t care if they want to go binge drinking at a crazy party in a few weeks and don’t want to change their plans.

I don’t fucking care.

Choosing not to be pregnant, because you recognize you are not in any kind of place to take care of a fetus or a child, or that you don’t want to have that kind of responsibility IS the moral and responsible action to take.

Children should never be punishments.

[little-piece-of-woohyun]

I am happy. God bless :’)

[what-the-hell-bob]

I know she loves me but…

I will still flinch when she comes through the sitting room like a tornado; even if she’s never touched me

I will still panic when she raises her voice

I will still leave the house when she is angry

I will still refuse to talk to her about what happens in my life

I will still never tell her when she’s upset me

I will still always let her have her way

I will still allow her to influence all if my decisions

I will still want to hurt myself when I get a grade lower than an A

I will still never tell her that I’m struggling again

I know she loves me

But is this really love?

[xxpinkgalaxykidxx]

Anti 2doc and My Feelings on Phan

I’m sorry to clog up my follower’s dashes with this shit, but I’ve been getting messages and messages about this, so here we go.

I know some of my most popular posts have 2doc tagged, and yes I realize that ship is abusive and I’m not going to lie and say it’s healthy. I will say though, back when I tagged those, I was relatively new to tumblr, and didn’t quite know what I was doing. I didn’t really know what exactly I wanted in a ship. Luckily, I still love a lot of my first ships. But not 2doc. If you want me to untag it from some of my more general otp posts, I can do that. 

Also I’ve gotten some hate for shipping phan, and let me make it clear it’s not my  all time otp I will get unreasonable over anymore, but shipping shouldn’t be this minefield of trying to step around all the discourse some ships have. Some cases however, (like incest, or abusive relationships) are not a healthy thing to romanticize. (I’m not getting into the argument of what is pedophilia because I’m in the voltron fandom, and that’s just a hot bed for that stuff rn.) 

However, please remember Dan and Phil are cool with Phan, and a lot of people put time and effort to contributing to the ship with works, arts, etc. And if real person shipping bothers you, steer clear of it. (If you can’t, I’m sure there’s a compromise with yourself or others you can come to.)  You messaging fans of the ship telling them to stop is not going to stop them. It doesn’t work like that. 

At least those who have messaged me about this haven’t been keyboard warriors, thank you. Despite this post, I don’t like discourse. 

If you read this whole thing, thank you. I needed to let out some things. Remember, shipping is supposed to be fun! Have a nice day y’all

[jase-in-oh]

Let's just be honest

I get too attached too quickly! BUT I can always play it cool on the surface. If I like you, I LIKE YOU. And when you (I don't want to say 'lead me on' but whatever) then ignore me or become distant...it crushes me! But still, as long as you are happy don't worry about me. The stone on the outside will contain the mess on the inside