I see this everywhere, but i don't understand where this belief comes from that it's only Asian parents who have high expectations for their kids. These kind of parents exists everywhere on the planet. Your personality or life goals have nothing to do with where you live or how you look like.
I had a classmate, who always had a full schedule. She was a straight- A student, took extra courses after school, she was active in sport ( she was a swimmer), organising events.... and she is not "Asian". Since she is from a succesful family ( i think her mom is some sort of a doctor), it was expected from her to go down the same path.
She is now an engineer, last year she was nominated for the "Engineer of the year" award.
It's ignorant to assume that only certain people are expected to be succesful or have a stressful childhood.
But i wish my parents would taught me more discipline. But they were normal working class people, having goals meant "to get a job" one day. It was not welcomed to want more than that. Ofc it was a must to have good grades, but i was quite lazy, so i often got scolded 😅 I had piano lessons but gave up after one year. I had acting classes. I was choir singer for 10 years, gave up that one too. I'm still active in art and writing, since this is my passion since childhood.
I did graduate in Construction engineering, but worked in that profession for 3 years, then quit. I speak 2 languages, don't really have any use of it.
I'm almost 34 and still don't know what to do with my life. I reached the goal- having a job. And now i'm stuck. Normal people would marry and have kids, but i don't see myself as wife and mother. It was never my goal, i already knew that when i was 15- my mom scolded me because of my way of thinking, but it didn't change me 🤷♀️
I don't fit anywere, which is actually a good thing. You have more freedom. Sometimes i think that i have all the puzzle parts infront of me, i just don't know how to put them together. Maybe i will figure it out one day...
