Nov 18, 2020
How do you give and receive love?
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How do you give and receive love?
INFP - Car Model, Personality Hacker
YOUR Driver is Introverted Feeling.
(Nickname: "Authenticity")
This is how you make your best decisions. You focus on how things are impacting you on an emotional level, and ask "What feels right according to my core principles?"
YOUR Co-Pilot is Extraverted Intuition
(Nickname: "Exploration") is
This is how you perceive the world. While it does many things, Exploration loves to ask the question “What if?” By opening up to all possibilities - Exploration is able to create connections between people, ideas, objects, or places that discover new ways of thinking.
YOUR 10 Year Old is Introverted Sensing (Nickname: "Memory")
Introverted Sensing wants reliable information. As a 10 Year Old it wants comfort and safety, be it physical, emotional or cerebral. It can manifest as refusing to take in new information that now must be acted upon, or perpetually curling up at home while your life slips by.
YOUR 3 Year Old is Extraverted Thinking
(Nickname: "Effectiveness")
This process is about making decisions based on "what works." As a "3 Year Old" this function is your blind spot and can become aggressive, manipulative and over demanding when under stress.
Personality Hacker – INTJ Survey
I wanted to share with Tumblr my survey answers. Possibly because maybe some of you can relate? But I’m mostly sharing this so I can look back on it later to see if some of these things still hold true. What are the top 3 challenges you face as an INTJ? 1) Motivating myself to complete mundane tasks or chores can be encumbering at times (I often listen to a podcast, audible book, or music to keep my brain entertained in the process). Going grocery shopping, or shopping – period – is something I hate to do. I’ll usually run out of what I need and put it off for as long as I can. Especially if it’s a weekend and I never have to leave the comfort of my home. 2) I do not notice a lot of my surroundings. This has gotten me into three car wrecks, which is really dangerous (only one was super worrisome). I feel as if I’ve been getting better about it, but sometimes my brain checks out of the mundane task of driving, and I really need my brain to focus (specifically on the people around me and their actions). But sometimes it’s really hard to get my brain to listen, especially in traffic. That tunnel vision also helps me purchase the wrong items when shopping. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve accidently grabbed a food item that either said fat free or sugar free – when I didn’t intend to – and bought it, only to get home and notice when either I’m making a food or eating it and it tastes off. 3) Friend management is something I tend to struggle with. I can stay friends with someone for years and think we are good without having spoken to them but maybe twice in that time period… over text. But friendship requires effort on my part (though it's also a two way street) and sometimes I wish I didn’t have as many friends as I do – as if I could cut some of them from my life and they just walked away from it without pain. But I can’t, because it’ll hurt them; they are my friends, and I care about how I influence their mood when I’m around them. Weird. What 3 things do you wish others knew about you as an INTJ? 1) A lot of people who get into mbti online think that INTJs are these intellectual powerhouses. We can be at times, but that doesn’t mean we necessarily sound that way. Because of my reserved nature as a child, I hardly spoke – and when I did, it was softly. My voice is no longer that reserved or soft, especially when I have something to say, but I have verbal communication trouble at times. That means I know exactly what I want to say, but then my mouth’s motor skills fuck it up and starts to replace vowels, stutter, or the word that I want just doesn’t come out right at all. I don’t stutter often, so that’s not a separate issue in itself. And it would be fine if this was just a once-in-a-while occurrence, but no. This happens at least once per conversation, depending on the length (the longer, the more mistakes). I have learned to laugh at myself which helps both me and those around me. However, I once was seriously asked if English was my second language by a friend of mine. It was both highly amusing, but also a little painful to realize how bad my verbal skills are at times (it’s my native tongue, after all). I see a lot of people on the internet discrediting YouTubers who do not sound like they are INTJ. But I know better. I’ve known of mbti since I was 16, now I’m 26. I’ve tested myself plenty of times and have even tried to prove to myself I was actually another type (because intjs are supposed to be so rare) using cognitive functions. So, I wish people would understand that any type can have a different set of skills than the rest of that type’s majority. 2) I have this weird phobia of talking on a phone with strangers. When the phone rings, I jump. If I have to call a place to set up an appointment, that task will usually take anywhere from a week to a month to complete (unless it’s a place I need to call with some frequency, and then it’s just a chore). I wish people would just text me or use the internet. 3) I’m completely fine without social media (specifically Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram – I use Snapchat and Tumblr and enjoy those, but would be just fine without them, as well), movies, and TV. When I was a kid, I had a TV in my room; I asked my mom to remove it. No kid does that, I now realize. But I want to do interestingly productive things with my free time, like: learn something new, read a book, write, paint, build something. I find a lot of TV to be boring, even the classics or popular shows most people watch and enjoy. So I really wish people would stop staring at me like I’m some kind of alien when I haven’t seen that movie, or know who that actor is. Just explain to me what you’re trying to convey – get to the point – because I’m not likely to watch it, or know them, just because you think I should. What 3 books/movies/courses/events have most impacted your life? 1) The Transall Saga by Gary Paulsen. I remember reading this in just a few school nights when I was maybe 8-10 years old. It was the first book I ever read that I literally couldn’t put down. It was also the first book that lit my intrigue for survival based storylines. I was amazed that this kid could survive all on his own, with no other human bodies to help him. When I was looking for this book title and author, I read the synopsis and realized that I remember some of the details the author described the world as, but there are other people and creatures in this book that I have no recollection of. Perhaps it’s time for a reread. 2) Dean Koontz. He is my favorite author. Period. I’ve read many of his books and he never fails to draw me into his world and forget my own. This is especially helpful in times when I feel depressed, lifeless, or basically have nothing better to do. It sparks my imagination and ignites my passion for life again. Pretty odd when his genre mostly consists of suspense/murder mystery. P.S. my favorite is Life Expectancy. 3) When I was in seventh grade, my mom gave me my parent’s old computer. It was my first computer, and I thrived with it. In that year, I played games, started fiddling with the dial-up internet and actually taught myself how to code websites. It began my long proficiency with computers; but perhaps because I taught myself how to code, I lost interest with web development pretty fast… What do you wish you could have told your 15 year-old self? “Don’t let anyone tell you you’ll miss childhood (that you mostly cannot remember, anyhow). The freedom and understanding that you gain from being an adult is something I would never trade to go back. "Don’t let them say you’ll change your mind about kids or certain things are ‘just a phase.’ "Come out to your mom a LOT sooner. She loves you, period. "Also, all those fights you get into with your mom because she’s not making any sense… It’s because she’s an unhealthy ESFP-t. The sooner you realize this, the easier it will be to understand where she’s coming from and why it seems like her mood turns on a dime from the tiniest of instigations.”
In this episode Joel and Antonia talk with relationship expert Bruce Muzik about attachment theory in relationships. http://www.personalit
عش فنك، الحياه مرحله بعد كل شئ.
In this episode Joel and Antonia talk about how each of the Myers Briggs types say "I love you." http://personalityhacker.com
In this episode Joel and Antonia talk about coping with emotional triggers in your life. http://personalityhacker.com
Every trigger is a gift.
Personality Hacker’s Car Model
is proving useful today because my Fi (i.e. the 10-year-old in my car, or Tertiary Function) is at risk of acting up:
“For example, if you notice… regardless of whether or not you lead with an introverted or extraverted Driver, your 10 Year Old process is going to be the same. In times when the world is telling us something we don’t want to hear or acknowledge, we either will shut off our listening mechanism (Introverts will do this), or we’ll ignore those niggling voices inside of us that tell us we’re doing something wrong (Extraverts are guilty of this behavior). When that happens, we want to stay in the world that’s comfortable to us – either the ‘outer world’ for Extraverts or the ‘inner world’ for Introverts. Our Co-Pilot encourages us to be more mature and explore the other world, the one we’re currently fearing. In a defensive move, however, we’ll shut out the voice of the Co-Pilot, and run to the 10 Year Old to fortify what we already want to believe. That’s why the 10 Year Old is called the “Defensive State.
“Just knowing this can be HUGE in personal development.“
- Full article here