#phillipa perry

[jaynedolluk]

Last couple of weekends of the Times included interviews with Lana Del Rey (who was also featured in their top 20 albums of the year alongside Olivia Rodrigo which was the only other one of the list I've heard), JOe Wicks and Phillipa Perry. They had a feature on the best Dr Who episodes of all time and reviews of Archie/Such Brave Girls/Slow Horses/Dr Who/Julius Caesar: Making of a Dictator/Louis Theroux Interviews Dame Joan Collins.

[jaynedolluk]

I watched all of the most recent season of Grayson’s Art Club - I’m glad they continued doing it after the pandemic. I also like the fact Grayson + his wife Phillipa Perry both do different art projects on that week’s particular theme and that they show a wide breadth of people’s submissions - it isn’t all paintings or in a particular style. I know they’ve brought out a couple of books based on the exhibitions they had as the result of the 1st couple of series which I really mean to get.

[summerinbali]

My Take on: The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read (And Your Children Will Be Glad That You Did)

I finished The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read (And Your Children Will Be Glad That You Did) by Philippa Perry last week.

I read it in the first place because I don't have any benchmark or criteria of the parenting style that I want to apply to my baby. And I don't want to copy anyone parenting style. I feel like it's overwhelming. Also, I don't feel like anyone has that perfect parenting style. I know no one is perfect, and no parenting style is perfect. But I want my parenting style to be more...personalized or specially made for my baby and her growth.

I didn't know where to start on this parenting journey, so my instinct was to read this book first, and we'll see where we go from that book.

The book was so great for me, as I don't have any exact modelling of parenting style, and I don't know how to be a parent.

One thing that I note along the way is: to name each feeling, validate the feeling, understand the feeling, and accept the feeling anyway. Perry suggests saying "I feel sad" or "It looks that you may be feeling sad" instead of "I am sad" or "You are sad". Perry says that using this language means you define the feeling rather than identifying with it.

I think this is mind-blowing. Because I always think that I am what I feel. But instead, our feeling is not defining who we actually are. Separating feelings and our existence? Great. Love that idea.

The fact that this book also makes me want to encourage my baby's feelings by showing them (through drawing, for instance) and making them accept their feelings. I really would love to show them that their feelings and what they feel matters.

As a kid, no one is ever validated my feeling. So, I grew up not accepting sadness, anger, and other negative sadness. I used to think that these feelings are "silly" feelings. In fact, these feelings are normal to experience! No feeling is silly.

I love the book so much because the flow of the book is comforting me. I feel like Perry starts from the parents' perspective first and then flows to the child's relationship. I feel like this book is healing my inner child a bit. I think that Perry believes that our upbringing to ourselves matters and impact our upbringing with our children.

If I could, I would give you all the highlighted parts of the book that I adore so much. But one thing that made me realize is that our time with our kids (i.e., playing with them, talking to them when they cry or are mad, or understanding their babbling) is never wasted. They are invested hours.

Conclusion:

I know that my kid would have hurdles in the future, I don't want to give her comfort or anything by being gentle to her. But I hope, with me being gentle to her, she can be used to being gentle to herself. The world is harsh and demanding already. I have learned that there is no benefit coming from being hard to myself. It only leads me to depression. I hope that my baby can be a gentle, strong, and one healthy minded adult in the future. She can learn to manage her feelings by naming her feelings, validate her feelings, and accepting her feelings.

This book is also not only for young moms like me. If you're someone healing with the inner child, I think this is a great book to read. You can finally dig deep to know the necessity of your inner child. Could it be security, or appreciation, or something else?

Hit me up if you want to share your take on the book. Leave me a message or email me. I would love to see your take.

[jaynedolluk]

I’m an unsuccessful writer, how can I escape this feeling of despair?

Direct your energy into your creativity and do what you want to do, says Philippa Perry

[jaynedolluk]

New issue of Red had an interview w/Aisling Bea (as S2 of her series, This Way Up, is due to return soon) plus Phillipa Perry discussing leaving as the magazine’s agony aunt + a piece by Caitlin Moran on the joy of train journeys. They also had little mentions for that Alice In Wonderland exhibition in London and the new Lana Del Rey album, Blue Banisters plus the return of The Handmaid’s Tale. 

New issue of Gay Times has a fantastic interview/photoshoot w/A’Whora plus interviews w/Olivia Lux + Leslie Jordan among others. 

[helianthus1905]

How to sharpen your awareness with the 30-minute exercise.

1. Sit down without any distractions for 30 minutes with a notebook and a pen.

2. Pay attention to your breathing.

3. When a thought crops up, write it down using one or two words, and then release it.

4. After 30 minutes, take a look at your thoughts.

They will make you more aware of your thinking patterns and empower you to change those patterns if they’re overly negative.

By that we could understand our thoughts even more ☺️

[jaynedolluk]

I loved Grayson’s Art Club. In it, Grayson Perry + his wife Phillipa would choose a theme each week such as animals + both do an artwork for it + invite the public to submit their own art on the theme as well as having a celebrity guest to do the same + pick their favourite pieces. They had people on like Lisa Tarbuck, Noel Fielding + Harry Hill. And Grayson would pick his favourites + he’s said after lockdown he’s going to do an exhibition for all the pieces.

I liked the way they showed a variety of art + creators and the ones they chose were all different approaches + looks. And it was all so good natured + lovely to watch. I hope he does another series of it at some point because I really enjoyed it.

[ebciiithoughts]

Our stories give shape to our inchoate, disparate, fleeting impressions of everyday life. They bring together the past and the future into the present to provide us with structures for working towards our goals. They give us a sense of identity and, most importantly, serve to integrate the feelings of our right brain with the language of our left.

Philippa Perry

< http://www.brainpickings.org/2013/02/05/how-to-stay-sane-philippa-perry/ >