#philphobia

[adorkablephil]

Why yes! Yes, I did finally finish my Phil video to “I’m Too Sexy”! Should you watch it? I don’t know. Let me think about it....

Yes, yes, you should. If you won’t do it for yourself, do it for Phil. Doesn’t he deserve the recognition? Yes, yes, he does.

[mishapeesha]

Reblog or like if you think Phil Lester deserves more appreciation

Because he is lovely and I don’t understand why he isn’t getting enough

[spacekiddan]

could philphobia??? just stop??? please???

[adorkablephil]

Wtf even was that vid I loved it wow ty for blessing us with it

That “I’m Too Sexy” video, my friend, was the result of me suffering (ha!) many painful (ha!) hours of rewatching Amazingphil videos, looking for the moments when he looked especially f*ckable (and/or when he was doing things that humorously pertained to the song lyrics).

I was particularly wanting to look for recent footage, since many “Phil is so hot” fanvids focus exclusively on flirty fetus!Phil, and I wanted to make very very clear that Phil is still hot af today. There’s some fetus!Phil, of course (because who can ignore the “Toxic” video), but I tried to include as much sexy modern-day Phil as possible.

Do you have any idea how difficult it is to find good footage of Phil from the last few years without Dan being in frame? I wanted the focus to be on Phil as an individual, but Dan snuck in there a couple times, like when I was looking for footage of Phil at parties. I’m sorry, but Phil just doesn’t seem to attend parties without Dan stuck to his side like glue.

And Phil seems to always look sexiest when Dan is around. I’m not sure why that would be the case. 🤔

[adorkablephil]

I LOVE that you talk about Phil as his own person and that you bring attention to 'philphobia'! I see in your posts so many of my own thoughts that I've been too afraid/uncomfortable to address, and it makes me happy(? more like satisfied?) that someone is saying it so publicly. It's a disheartening reality some parts of the phandom and it's important to mention it, so thank you <3

I admire Phil so much, and for so many reasons. These are just a few:

He seems like such a genuinely nice, warm, caring, thoughtful person.

He seems so generous, such as when he invited Dan onstage at the BONCAs to share his accolades.

He never brags about his accomplishments, even if maybe sometimes he should! He’s accomplished a lot worth bragging about!

He seems like a really good friend, not only to Dan but to loads of other people, most of which we never see except in occasional little glimpses like his recent collab with Shawna. This is one of the reasons I wish he did more collabs with other YouTubers, because a lot of them seem very fond of him, but we don’t get to see it much.

He seems to really try to keep a positive attitude. Sometimes in life that’s hard, like when he got sick on tour, but he seems to always really try to find a way to still be happy and to make others happy, too. He still went out on that stage every night and did his best to make that once-in-a-lifetime experience something every audience member would always remember with joy.

His love for animals is adorable, but also ethically meaningful. I love that he said in his last live show that while on the tour in Florida he was really worried that they were invading the personal space of the baby alligators. Phil really thinks and cares about the well-being of other creatures, both humans and non-humans. He shows so much respect for the natural world, people and animals and plants and all!

He seems like a very ambitiously creative thinker who believes he can make things happen, and that’s clearly been the case since childhood, since we’ve seen clips of the movie he made when he was a kid. Most kids wouldn’t have had the drive and perseverence to create such a large project, but kid!Phil did. Just imagine what he still has ahead of him!

He seems to laugh a lot, and to quite easily laugh at himself. It requires a real belief in yourself, a sense of security and respect for yourself, to be able to laugh so easily when you realize you’ve done something stupid. I’ve always admired that about him, that he doesn’t edit out the moments when he’s filming and says something dumb … instead, he usually emphasizes it in his videos, knowing that millions of people will see it! That’s a sign of incredible comfort with himself, a level of comfort most people never achieve.

He’s incredibly beautiful from a purely visually aesthetic standpoint, but doesn’t seem to think about that much. It’s rare that we see a photo of him—like the ladybug selfie—where he seems to be emphasizing his own physical beauty. I worry sometimes that this comes from a lack of recognition of his own physical attractiveness, but then pics like the ladybug selfie make me doubt that it’s ignorance, because nobody could look at that photo without thinking, “That is an incredibly beautiful man” … not even Phil, I hope.

He doesn’t let society’s expectations limit him, and it seems like he never really has. He’s always seemed open and accepting (and even proud) of the ways in which he is unique, different, and even “weird.” He doesn’t let anyone’s expectations of what a 30-year-old man “should” be like determine his behavior or his attitudes. He watches anime and steals cereal and dresses up in silly wigs and giggles and doesn’t let anybody tell him that he needs to “grow up.” There are a million different ways to be a “grown-up,” and I love that Phil defines it for himself instead of letting anyone else define it for him.

Phil is not half of Dan-and-Phil.  He is his own person, and I love that person for all the things that make him who he is, even the things he doesn’t let us see, because he has a right to privacy. Whatever parts of himself he chooses not to share, those parts of him still contribute to the whole Phil, and that person is someone I admire and respect.

[adorkablephil]

Phucking Philphobia

This morning, realizing I hadn’t seen enough Phil on my dash lately to reblog, I searched Tumblr for “phil lester,” and about half the posts were gifs of Dan or text posts like “Dan this Bahamas video better be worth it” or “reasons Dan deserves more appreciation” or other stuff that’s 100% about Dan … with no mention of Phil at all. (Almost all the rest included Dan. There were almost no exclusively-Phil posts.)

Why do people tag their exclusively-Dan posts with Phil’s name? Just so people like me, looking for stuff about Phil, will see their stupid unrelated crap and maybe their post will get more notes? Or do they really see Phil as just some subset of Dan-ness? Or, maybe, I thought hopefully, people just tend to tag all their DnP posts with both names?

So, curious, I then decided to test my theories in hopes that the last explanation might be true. I searched Tumblr for “dan howell” and “daniel howell.” Result: all posts about Dan. Not a single post that was exclusively about Phil. So no. No, the reverse is decidedly not true.

Sometimes I imagine Phil running these same searches on Tumblr and seeing how much the phandom conflates his identity into Dan’s … and then I really hope he never does. But he probably knows anyway.

It makes me so sad.

And yet Phil is still so kind and generous and humble that he calls Dan up onstage when he wins the individual “Creator of the Year” award at the BONCAs. He obviously doesn’t mind sharing his success, but even if HE doesn’t mind, I personally think he deserves to be more than just “that guy who appears in some of the Dan gifs.”

I hope he knows that there are some of us out here who love him with all our hearts … some of us out here who search for “phil lester” on Tumblr in hopes of actually finding stuff about HIM. Not stuff about Dan, but stuff about HIM, Phil Lester, the most beautiful and kindest person on the planet.

It makes me want to post nothing but Phil for the rest of my life, 100 posts a day, and tag it all accurately.

[adorkablephil]

Totally off today’s main topic ...

It makes me really sad when I see people saying that Dan should leave Phil for someone better looking, but not for the reasons you might expect. Yes, I think Phil is very attractive, but what makes me sad about the people saying this is two assumptions they’re making: 1) that the only reason people fall in love or stay together is because of outward physical appearance, and 2) that people can only fall in love with or stay with someone whose “attractiveness level” (according to who?) matches their own.

What if the person you fall in love with doesn’t consider you as attractive as they are and dismisses you because of it? Does that mean you should just accept that you obviously aren’t good enough for them? Or should you recognize that it actually means they’re a complete douche and you should look for someone better?

Did any of these people ever see or hear or read the story “Beauty and the Beast”? Did they pay any attention to the message, or were they too busy singing along with the candelabra? The point, people, is that love isn’t about what someone looks like. It’s about who they are as a person.

No one truly falls in love with a face or body. That isn’t real love—that’s just attraction. You fall in love with a person, a whole person: their laugh and their passions and their sadnesses and what they think and how they act when they’re happy and how they act when they’re angry and how they treat you and how they treat the world.

What makes someone beautiful is not their face. What makes someone lovable is not their face. If it’s really love, you fall in love with a heart, not a face.

Phil Lester has a fucking beautiful face, but that isn’t what makes him lovable or “good enough for Dan.” What makes him lovable is the person he is, and Dan knows that person a lot better than any of us ever will.

So now I’m speaking to those poor misguided souls advising Dan to get rid of Phil and find someone “worthy” of him: think about your assumptions, show a little respect, and let Dan decide who is worthy of his love. I’m betting it wouldn’t be someone as superficial and mean-spirited as you.

[angelphantasies-blog]

Philphobia

Philphobia is real and there is no point in denying it but it all really boils down to the fact that sadly Dan is more popular than Phil- sub wise with 40% more subs on YouTube. It’s that simple