Don't fucking say I never did anything for you Wyler idiots. And some of you are real idiots, currently pulling the same arguments against Xavier as the Wenclairs do, never acknowledging Tyler's responsibility for his attack on Xavier and his mural on Outreach Day '21. I'd made note of her before, but her latest droning about the Wylers sparked my will to finally say something, despite my disdain for the ship.
This Sydney Sweeney-sounding fuckass Wenclair has some nerve yapping about pickmes while at the same time behaving like the biggest true one out there, wielding her brand of 'feminism' as a weapon and opening her hatch to let loose her very, very bad takes on Tyler Galpin (and other men in the series) in the name of Wenclair. She panders to the fandom’s sancitmonious white moral majority, yapping exactly what she knows will get applause from other Wenclairs. She types 'Wednesday' here, but she really means Wenclair (and it fucking figures that she's a whackadoo Swiftie, too):
Most ✨fandom edits✨ are still validation-seeking (like how most of social media is), but hers are confessions under the guise of righteous 'feminism' with Wenclair, and of course only she can decide what the fandom Wenclair dynamics are because "ooooooh but noooooo, Wednesday is mean and disagreeable with everyone eXCePt eNid!"
Never mind that Wednesday didn't listen to shit about fuck whenever Enid opened her mouth during the second season/refused pinky swears twice/did not show any physical affection whatsoever (and instead wanted to have control over Tyler/risked Enid's life over getting control of him).
I can't fucking stand 4B's high rising terminal (where every sentence sounds like a question; women (and the few gay men who do it) need to stop fucking doing this, it makes them sound vapid/stupid) but I really started finding her vile when she posted this shit:
“I laughed when his mom slapped him in S2.”
A reminder of that scene:
This is also a reminder that Season 2 Hyde Lore conflicts with S1 Lore; Tyler was perfectly fine after murdering Rowan, since he was fine the day afterwards when he ambushed Wednesday in the woods. While the price of transformation shows itself worse as time goes on just as Afterburn predicted, it should have also showed itself in S1 if what Françoise says here is true.
This is the current state of self-absorbed, self-congratulatory exclusionary White Woman Feminism (the same type of shit JKR peddles and that Taylor Swift represents to the Swifties) and a Western appropriation of “4B” being repackaged in the media illiterate language of Millennial/older Z “media analysis.” Some of the vocabulary is there but the comprehension is null: it's “feminism” with empathy stripped out, reduced to palatable, aestheticized outrage and righteousness performed for engagement. It's not female liberation and there are no feminist ethics here.
I can't believe I even have to say this, but Tyler wasn't the aggressor in this scene; he was a victim of cyclical violence. His mother’s slap mirrors the same domination he endured under Laurel Gates/Marilyn Thornhill (for fuck’s sake, Tyler even asks Françoise if she's his new master). That's why the majority of us viewers gasped or reacted surprised at violence against him by his own beloved mother who he had just found out was alive. The slap was tragic/not triumphant, and there's no justification for laughter; 4B’s glee over watching a (young, he's still young) male adolescent humiliated regardless of context is nothing but misandric voyeurism with a complete lack of empathy and a failure here to recognize that Tyler’s Mommy Issues/arc aren’t ‘evil man punished by women’ but boy* raised inside and remade by matriarchal corruption.
*This user has also referred to Tyler as a ‘grown man’ and to Wednesday as a ‘girl’ in the same breath/complained “holy Hell the age gap” (when there's a 2 year age gap between them at best), further exposing how her framework depends on infantilizing women and demonizing men. It’s hypocritical argumentum ad passiones (many of these modern arguments are, along with a crapload of other logical fallacies), with the illusion of righteousness built on unequal standards.
Feeling sympathy for Tyler in his situation as a victim of grooming and physical abuse isn’t any men’s-rights/MRA nonsense, either: it’s part of the empathy that 4B and the movement upon which she takes her name lacks. Feminist theory at its best from bell hooks, Simone de Beauvoir, even Betty Friedan argues that domination harms everyone. Feminism isn’t about [4B] withdrawal or rejection, or cruelty/taking pleasure in a man’s pain or suffering; it’s about dismantling universally harmful power structures, not cheering when aggression is gender swapped. Recognizing male suffering isn’t centering or re-centering men; it’s refusing to reproduce the same power logic feminism is supposed to dismantle.
This puerile, uptalking ‘feminist’ Wenclair calls Wylers pickmes but her whole act is pickme theater. It's performative outrage for the Wenclair crowd, the same shit slung by a trad pickme performing sweetness and subserviance for men. Every ✨edit✨, every ‘media-analysis’ post, every Swift-stanking Wenclair montage is her perceived moral superiority feeding her own fandom preferences and indoctrinating the young Z girl demographic that makes up the bulk of Wenclair into the kind of shallow, bad-thought feminism that flatters ignorance. She’s not dismantling patriarchy, nor is she even letting Wenclairs be Wenclairs and interpret their dynamic the way they want to outside of canon; she’s chasing kudos/validation from impressionable young girls who mistake tone for theory (which is VERY easy to do during a literacy crisis).
The top row speaks for itself, since she had to be corrected about canon. But the rest are also fucked, considering that Thornhill/Gates WAS all up in the Mommy Talk ("Tyler honey, make Mama happy and shut her up")/touching him seductively, Enid DID suck in S2 for cheating on Ajax/getting pissy about Wagnes when she was spending all her time with Bruno and the Furs, and Wednesday has high praise for Gomez: "The point is, you taught me how to be strong an independent. How to navigate myself in a world full of treachery and prejudice. You are the reason I understand how imperative it is that I never lose sight of myself. So as far as fatherhood goes, I'd say you were more than adequate.").
All of that fucking said, she's got expertise in terrible takes, and there's a reason for the lack of engagement in her comments (sometimes people who know that shit sounds wrong don't know how to engage to tell these idiots that they are wrong). But be aware that there are plenty of takes like this around Wenclair, and that behaving like a bunch of man-hating fuckasses is the reason why no one’s taking the Tyler hate from young ‘feminists’ seriously. Trust, there are plenty of reasons to hate on Tyler Galpin, but according to canon, he was/is the slave to his transformations and by the definitive nature of his condition, a slave to his masters, both of whom happened to be women (though we could say “all”, if we're going to include Wednesday and Capri).
I'm sure some fuckface is going to go running to her with this post and that's fine. I'm no stranger to whiners bitching at me for picking on them, or taking what I write creatively and turning it around on me into an argument about why I, as a fandom perv/squickposter, can't be writing about these subjects. That will be where they're wrong, since my creative writing is not in the same catergory as my critical writing. (Though I would argue that ABW is a feminist in the same vein as some of our foremothers.)
Female socialization is hardbaked and difficult to get off. Back when I was a full on Pickme, I legit thought I had to ask out men, that I was ugly, that I was undateable, that men lost interest in me because I was boring. No wonder, I was absolutely englufed by Pickme propaganda. All the messages in media are like "Women need to do this song and dance to appeal to men. Wear makeup. Dress this way and that way." Even my mother encouraged me to act Pickme, and accept less great treatment by other people.
Side effects: shit poor esteem, being walked on again and again, insulation, loss of great opportunities, constant ridicule, ease of being used up.
Everything around us is encouraging us to fold and origami ourselves into 1056 folds to please others. And Pickmes compose the majority of the women's population. They have been groomed from birth, and the majority will continue till death. But some do WAKE UP and notice the major scammery it is.
Everything of Pickme is a major scam for women.
Women aren't empowered going 50-50 on some dusties, women aren't empowered doing bdsm shit for fucked up men to gain some of that precious male attention.
It's the MALE ATTENTION that's the main goal of Pickmes.
They are miserable when single because no man is throwing them attention, no man is "loving them enough" they make male attention their raison d'être. They are panicked the moment their relationship is menaced (man loses interest? PANIC), and will recourse to humiliating way to bring him back. Like doing herculean efforts to please him, making super elaborate dates to impress him and encourage him into keeping her. Or sucking or fucking his brains off without being pleased herself sexually. Neglecting herself to keep men happy and around.
It's all a scam and shitty men will say not a word cuz they like it, obviously they benefit from it.
They're litterally ruining again and again their own psyches, into crumbles, and shitty men will participate in this destruction, strategically breaking down the Pickmes that try to recover themselves up.
And those Pickmes won't see how fucked up their whole clown act is. Because they're so panicked and englufed in their ways. They won't ever question it. You might give them excellent advice, but they won't enact it. Don't mind it, if they don't accept your advice, carry on being an amazing queen. And those Pickmes will see you and decide wether to follow you in your path, or fight you.
Yeah, fight. You doing non-pickme stuff will make them question the whole thing, and for some it will create cognitive dissonance. Like, you being treated well, and not licking men's boots challenges their whole idea that they MUST lick men's boots to get specks of attention.
Some will wake up, some will challenge you. A cognitive dissonance is so goddamn hard to get over. It is like, the opposition of the true desire, the true reason versus the socialization by society. Sometimes, challenging the message of society can create pain, and make one see how everything is so deeply evil. Humans hate mental pain, anguish, they'll try to avoid it at any costs. The Pickmes refusing to see the truth will lash out at you, call you names, attribute you characteristics that aren't true. I've been called cruel, I've been called ridiculous, I've been called misandrist, heartless, for just not tolerating being used up by men. Just that? All those insults?
And those same Pickmes will give you dangerous, harmful advice, and won't give you advice that will genuinely help you as a Woman. They'll always serve men before their own kind, they'll prioritize men above anything. They're traitors. Surrounding yourself with Pickmes as friends is actually so dangerous, because you might start emulating their advice and their fucked up ideals unconsciously, no matter how strong you think yourself are.
Surround yourself with strong women. Or go alone. Cut off the shitty media and magazine advice if you notice it doesn't gives woman-centered advice. You owe yourself the protection of your mind and body.
Good men don't like it, because they know it is exploitative and ridiculous. They'll stay the fuck away from Pickmes. They want a woman that can hold herself up, so they can expect mutual support into greatness. The Pickme will support her man to death, but won't level up herself, thus limiting the man down.
A lot of women will go through ALL their lives in the Pickme hypnosis, and will see nothing wrong with it because it's their normal. They actually see US hypergamous, levelling up women as the weird ones, being so rude, being so strict, being golddiggers for not accepting brokies, et cetera.
if you allow white people in your fandom to talk over poc - (god i really do despise this acronym now but my wrist hurts right now and this easier to type) - while being a poc yourself, and especially if you're non black and allowing this to happen to black fans, i hope you never know peace.
no amount of kissing white people ass is ever gonna make you one of them, learn to love yourself please and stop this shit.
Unlike those women who drive a Prius I can change a tire, I bet you can’t steal this! (they really do sound this stupid😂) #pickme #pickmes #desperatewomen #makeyourownsandwich https://www.instagram.com/p/B5tXarlHhUU/?igshid=1dcmspdvjxx5q
ive never seen black women draw colorist hotep art... you never see naked black men carrying hammers and swords or black men carrying the world by they’re over exaggerated ball sacks... so the fact that every month there's a nigga sharpening his pencil, pulling out his handy dandy notebook, sketching a rough draft full of nonsense, then making a final copy of said nonsense, posting said nonsense to an audience of other useless niggas... and black women are supposed to just laugh and get over it... and this isn't a new thing that black men are doing, but then you have a man whose the equivalent of dumpster juice talkin bout “don't generalise all men”... why not??
