How to deal with "Squares" in Synastry and (Mars square Mars) 🤬
Squares create a magnetic pull and repulsion as well. The purpose is to draw to individuals together, but once together there may be triggers, and obstacles and differences and this is what causes the repulsion. We feel comfortable and resonate with what is familiar on the surface of things, our subconscious and conscious reactions to the other persons differences or proclivities are what causes tension in the connection. Two planets squaring each other are at "odds" and sometimes out of each other's orbit. When planet's are in opposition they can agree to disagree, yes we are different elements but we can work together and compromise. When they are in conjunction they are basically colliding, merging together, becoming one. With oppositions and conjunctions it is not all smooth sailing but is not as volatile. Squares cause constant irritation and uphill battles in connections. Whatever issues or triggers they bring up keep resurfacing over and over again, it takes maturity and growth on both individuals parts to resolve this. The desire to stick it out, stay together and work through these issues, have to be stronger than wanting to be right, in control and preserving the ego. They must figure out the root of the problem and how it is negatively affecting the connection, in order to subdue the energy of the "square". Because it is a Square the energy will always be lurking under the surface, but once the triggers are acknowledged and the energy is transmuted, it no longer has power over the connection or the couples actions within the dynamic. Usually in a square one partner is more negatively affected than the other, like Venus square Saturn, where the Venus person feels as though the Saturn person has too many restrictions like family, their work or emotional issues that delay them both coming together to have a sustainable connection. There are occasions where both individuals are affected. Like Mercury square Mercury, Venus square Venus and Mars square Mars as examples. With Mars square Mars, no matter the sign there are power struggles as well as occasional discord between the two. I call this love/hate aspect, "Mr. and Mrs. Smith" for the obvious reasons. This aspect causes intense sexual attraction and passion as well. There could be in extreme cases physical, and verbal altercations, a couple can be seen fighting and arguing one minute and in bed together the next. Of course if there are other soft Venus, Moon and Neptune aspects this can just add to the connection, but this is a high "deal breaker" red flag aspect, as it can be highly toxic, because it is emotionally and mentally unsustainable for a long term connection. To subdue this aspects intensity both individuals have to put down their swords and wave the white flag especially if both individuals have strong Sun and Mars placements in the natal, if not they may eventually go their separate ways to less challenging connections. If they have aspects like Venus square Mars, or Pluto square Mars in their natal chart, they may just attract these types of connections. I will list what I have seen as difficult square aspects in synastry below for your references.
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Mars Square Mars-ego battles, power struggles, passion, on and off connection.
Mars square Uranus- out of the blue discord, frequent fights, arguments and disagreements.
Mercury square Uranus- inconsistent communication, ubrupt communication, blocking, stone walling, and ghosting.
Mercury square Mercury- constant miscommunications, and misunderstandings
Mercury square Neptune- deception, manipulation, gas lighting, trust issues, accusations, and lack of clarity.
Mercury square Saturn- misunderstandings, inconsistent communication, not mentally on the same page, stone walling.
Mercury square Mars- verbal abuse, constant bickering, misunderstandings, miscommunications, and manipulation.
Venus square Venus- different love languages, different approaches to love and or financial matters.
Venus square Saturn-difficult obtaining commitment, obstacles, delays and roadblocks in connection.
Sun square Mars- power struggles, control issues, discord
Pluto square Mars-power struggles, control issues, manipulation
Pluto square Sun-obsession, control issues, power struggles, jealousy.
Pluto square Mercury- Mind games, manipulation, obsession, control issues, on and off communication, frequent arguments.
Pluto square Venus- obsession, power struggles, jealousy, control issues, frequent arguments, on again off again connection.
Lilith square Mars-obsession, control issues, power struggles, passion, push pull dynamic.
Chiron square Mars- harsh actions or communication, triggering, aggression, and bullying.
Saturn square Ascendant-control issues, insecurity, jealousy, undermining, and manipulation.
Pluto square Ascendant-control issues, insecurity, jealousy, undermining, and manipulation.
Saturn square North Node-control issues, insecurity, jealousy, undermining, road blocks and delays.
If you have ever had any of these aspects what was your experience?
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