#poc struggles

[afro-hispwriter]

Me reading a Reader-Insert:

The Fic: “You put your soft wavy blond hair in a ponytail and looked into the mirror, blue/green eyes glistening.”

Me: alright *cracks knuckles* time to put my white sona on and imagine myself the beauty standard🤪

[sayain-princess-vegenta]

This is for POC readers and Writers: Which of these annoy you the most and take you out of a Fic?

Messy buns

Pale skin

Blushes Red/Burned Red

Bright Blue eyes (orbs)

Slave/Master talk

Other (please tell me I'm curious)

I'm not Poc but I get annoyed by some of these.

Voting ended onMay 30, 2023

[otogariado]

augh sick and tired of the way poc always have to explain to white people not to villify characters like alma or ming like yes they clearly made shitty shitty decisions as parental figures but its not as simple and black and white to brand them as irredeemable abusers. YES being sympathetic characters doesnt excuse the horrible things they did YES the children under their care had to suffer through a lot of trauma YES they need to apologize to the people they wronged and the people they wronged do not owe them any sort of forgiveness.

but what you don't understand is that these films about poc generational trauma and these characters in particular are meant to be uplifting and hopeful to poc because guess what? a lot of poc get jackshit from their birth families. these movies and characters are a way to give poc some closure about the messed up things we have to endure when it comes to our cultures being heavily community- and family-oriented, most often than not to a fault. they are supposed to show us that it is not impossible for poc elders to learn and better themselves despite how shitty they've been and to show that poc families can heal together from generational trauma. by branding these characters as horrible, irredeemable monsters you are stripping these movies and characters of their core themes and hopeful messages to poc who had to suffer very similar experiences to the movies' protagonists.

i am not here to excuse any fucked up IRL people's behaviour, that is not what this post is about. at the end of the day you have to understand that these movies' protagonists weren't "forced or guilted to forgive their abusers". these movies reflect a very specific, very real part of poc families where there is a lot of nuance and conflict amongst traumatized children who suffered from generational trauma who still hold onto that hope that maybe one day we can patch things up with our families even if it seems impossible. these movies are for those who wish their family had the same degree of open communication and willingness to change. to those whose families have mistreated them but still can't bring themself to hate their families wholly. it IS fucked up, but that is the reality.

movies like encanto and turning red show the other side of this reality, the side that is more hopeful, uplifting, and provides us with a sense of closure. it is not impossible to communicate and heal together, but for some of us it is a luxury we can't easily achieve.

please do not treat these movies and their antagonists as simple black and white media without nuance to them.

disclaimer that i am only one poc out of countless and that other poc may disagree with me—i am no authority on this subject. but this is my take on it. also, i am neither chinese-canadian nor colombian, but filipino. the culture i am part of shares heavy similarities with both due to being an asian nation who got heavily colonized by spain, and that is how i can relate and that is my context when making this post.

[soundofalling-sand]

Please shut up about Alma.

I’m not latino, but I gotta say, I love how universal Encanto’s story is to POC all around the world. I also come from a culture that has generational trauma AND stubborn elders, but the fact that Alma even apologized and acknowledged her issues -- something MY grandma (bless her heart) won’t even do for herself, her children and grandchildren MEANS a lot to me! 

I’m not trying to downplay what my grandmother went through during the Segregation era in America at all! It’s just that most of our elders would rather internalize their struggles and take it out on the people they love most. And heck, most of them DO NOT believe in counseling or therapy which can make the situation even WORST. They think they’re doing the right thing by being strict with us because that’s the ONLY THING THEY KNOW, it’s what they learned from their elders and so on and so forth. 

So when Alma owned up to her shit, I was surprised and even shed a few tears because that’s a lot! So people who try villainizing her and calling her ‘homophobic’ (what?) and whatnot, please stop. 

[blktzarina]

A small rant, I hate it when I do bantu knots or a twist out, and it doesn't turn out right. My bonnet slips off in the middle of the night, or something isn't quite dry, and it ruins the whole look. Then some sweet old Black lady tells me my hair looks nice, and I have to wonder if she's lying to me or not, because in my eyes, my hair looks bad. Doing natural hairstyles is a struggle

x YOU KNOW HOW TO DO BANTU KNOTS?!?! CAUSE THIS BITCH DOESN'T AND MY HAIR NEVERS KEEPS A TWIST OUT.

x I have became the queen of buying different ponytails and hair clips and dazzling them up when i have to slick a bitch back and go out if i don't have yarn braids or crochets in. My 4c hair doesn't behave at all sis but best believe a bitch is moisturized and combable

x honest to God idk how to do natural hair styles because most of my development years was spent having someone else doing my hair and I dont wear straight hair because my face is too big.

x tick to keeping your bonnet on is to get a size smaller and or tie a small headscarf around the band. I wake up in the middle of the night to put mine back on, another trick is to get silk pillow sheets

[incorrectfostersquotes]

“Callie speaks on a panel about Ximena’s struggle”

[moreofem]

idk why whenever i see yt ppl try to make a point, the racism always jumps out (like noah) & even yt fandom creators here too, sometimes they make shady vague post abt a blog & im like r u genuinely annoyed at smthg wrong thatthey did or is a part of u just uses this time to hate on a black/a nbpoc creator on here 🤔 BUT IDK mayb im just overly suspish 👁👁 anyweighs v_v - ur nbpoc/southeast asian fwend saying hi from the other side of the world

HEY 😌 <3

Most of the time, it’s cause they know that they shouldn’t be mad about this topic, but they are for like no reason and so since they know that they’re kind of in wrong they’ll just attack someone on what’s the easiest thing to attack them on: their race

And Sinse they’re white liberals they can’t be openly racist about something so they have to be slick and petty. But it’s actually just blatant internalized racism and hatred that is hidden behind weird words, and they aren’t TGAT annoyed, they’re either jealous or just fucking dumb

Like I have a few blogs urls in mind, but I won’t say anything cause I don’t want a fight or drama

BUT YOUR ASK RIGHT HERE IS JUST SO RIGHT

[crispnuqqet]

can white people stop speaking over poc and their trauma for ONE second please??? 😐